Re:Heart breaking, I met a undiagnosed, never treated aspergers adult. I am glad you guys are helping your children

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That is so sad. I can see how much my son has benefitted from everyone working

hard with him. He is happy and outgoing and very very friendly even though he's

awkward in social situations. Because he has such a happy, friendly way about

him people seem to be able to look past how odd he can be. I'm sure if I hadn't

gotten him diagnosed at age 3 we'd have had a lot more trouble. At the time

this was considered an early asperger diagnosis. Now it's being diagnosed

earlier than it was in 2000. Of course this depends very much on where you live

and what schools your child attends. We have our difficult times, but it isn't

difficult all the time or even most of the time.

I say the earlier a kid gets help the better and that the people who do the

diagnosing should err on the side of caution and get a kid help who might not

actually need it. This is what it felt like when was diagnosed. We didn't

feel sure and the people doing the diagnosis weren't 100% sure either but they

felt that if he needed it we could get rid of the diagnosis later. I'm glad we

went with the dx because when we moved to Texas we suffered a huge nightmare

even WITH a good IEP. They couldn't say he didn't have AS but as it was they

took away everything except speech therapy. This really was to THEIR detriment

more than mine or 's. provides his own natural consequences and

eventually he got what he needed.

It isn't fun to have a kid who acts out and injures other people and scares

people, but it really is advocating for himself. He's not aggressive much

any more. He's in a great school and has a lot of people around him who love

him and accept him.

Miriam

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> > > Hi everyone,

> > > I think my 5 and 1/2 year old daughter may have Asperger's.  it's been

very difficult to get an accurate diagnosis and often I get dismissed as an

overly concerned mother.

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> > > My daughter has issues with social interactions, motor delays, reciprocal

language problems, anxiety, severe angry outbursts, and difficulty with change.

 However, most people view her as having behavioral problems and my husband

will refer to it as being " bratty " .

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> > > I feel so frustrated because the school took away all her services at 5

years old so I held her back from kindergarten and kept her in preschool.

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> > > I am worried about her starting kindergarten in the fall.  I think they

will put her in an inclusion class but I think I need to get her a diagnosis

also.

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> > > She is on a very restricted diet due to GI issues and that really bothers

her and makes her feel different from the other kids.  This adds to the social

problems.

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> > > Can anyone relate to this?

> > > Would really appreciate feedback!

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