How do you mediate fights when both siblings are AS?

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Hello, all -

Our 6 yr old son has AS, and our 3 year old daughter appears to have some

challenges as well. She definitely has some sensory integration challenges and

shows some AS or ADHD traits. She will start preschool shortly before her 4th

birthday this fall, I will be very interested to see if the school feels she is

within the normal range or if she will need to be evaluated - particularly since

I am aware 4 is the magic age for Theory of Mind development.

Anyway, I have always had a zero tolerance policy for their fighting. But they

have been fighting with increasing frequency. I am finding their disputes

difficult to manage. Both of them are set off by things that most other kids

would shrug off, cannot see the other's point of view, both always feel very

strongly about their stance.. well, you know how it goes.

How do you mediate, or better yet, prevent fights when both siblings have AS?

Thanks, this is a great community.