desparate for help. please anyone.

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I posted this prior and only received one response from someone who also needs

help. Please, any insight, tricks or tools you have found successful. I am

about at my wit's end.

> Our son is 4 and is pretty high functioning AS. He is smart as a whip, very

verbal and cute as a button. But can be so annoying!!! I am allowed to say that

right

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> He is very demanding of my attention. Won't let me talk on the phone, read a

book or do anything that is not focused on him. When he wants me attention he

hits and kicks.

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> He constantly talks back. Any direction or request is met with " NO! " Or

" Stop momy, you no tell me that! " Very disrespectful.

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> We also have two dogs and he just pesters them all the time. He does not

understand the warning signs our dogs give and I am sure that one day he is

going to be bitten. Our small dog knows to just stay away from him, but our 6

month old dog is not that smart and will lay there and let DS go at him. I try

to redirect him or just tell him to leave the dogs alone, but again, the " No

mommy! " or other back talk.

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> We are pretty firm parents and try to teach all of our kids not to talk back.

The appropriate response to a direction or request in our home is " Yes ma'am " or

" Yes sir. " No back talk, etc. DS is our third of four children.

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> DS is on 1 mg. Intuniv and that helps, without it he is completely out of

control as in hyperactive. Not outrightly defiant, but wired. The meds do not

do a thing for the defiance, not that I expect them to. But this gives me the

view that the defiance is a willfull act on his part and not an impulse since

the meds seem to help with his physical impulsiveness.

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> We have tried time outs, he won't stay and melts down in a huge tantrum.

Taking toys away, again, huge tantrum.

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> HELP!

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> karla