my odd child is in trouble

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My 16 yr old son has ODD and everything he does is defiant. It has seemed for a long time that he knows he is doing it and he just tries to see what he can get away with. It started with his grades. He refuses to do his homework. He seems very manipulating. He has figured out the system at school. He will not do any work at school for 2 weeks and then he spends a Sat in detention and gets it all done and just takes a lower grade. He has been on a down hill spiral for a long time and I have been watching him get completely out of control. He seems to think he can just do what ever he wants when ever he wants. We have had him in counseling, we have grounded him, we have taken away his phone, and his vehicle.

This weekend was the final straw-he was supposed to be spending the night with a friend to go help in the field the next day and we got a call a 1:30 in the morning that he had been arrested and put in jail.He had been clocked doing 80 mph and gunned past the first state patrolman and almost hit the next one head on. He had been drinking. He received 5 tickets in all. He was released to us but his attitude bothers me. He doesn't seem to get that there are consequenses to his actions. His statement was that at least people will know me. We are making him sell his vehicle to help pay for his court costs and lawyer. This is hard but the bright side is that he won't be able to drive so he won't have any freedom. Sorry to ramble but I am overwhelmed and very stressed.

Lori