How to side step melt downs and anger with Aspergers Children

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I am new to the site and am desperately looking for solutions on how to side

step the melt downs and the sudden anger that my child seems to exhibit

frequently.

She is very sweet one on one, but it seems as though if she gets over stimulated

then she becomes violent and hyperactive. She has not been officially diagnosed

with Aspergers, just suspected to have it, according to tests. She seems to

lack the ability to express her emotions in an appropriate way.

When she gets upset, she starts swinging her fists at anything and everything

and often times her father and I, along with her siblings, end up having bruises

from her.

She is only 4 years old, but ever since birth she has been extremely

independent, particular and defiant.

I'm just looking for any kind of support possible. I'm at my whit's end and

feel like I am the worst mom ever at the end of every day because my child is

unable to function around other kids. What can I do?

Bri