An talkative post on incessant talking

January 28, 2011

My daughter is turning 14 and she is still incessantly talking. She never

stops. It is so rare that we have a space of time that she just stops talking

and relaxes and breathes and lets everything around her just soak into her.

When we try to say anything, she nods vigorously and says, " Okay, okay, okay.. "

WHILE we are trying to speak! It's maddening, because we can't say anything to

HER without her cutting us off! We've told her so many times that she is

interrupting(since she was little) and to wait until we are done. We've

explained that it is rude to keep interrupting. She completely understands and

is very intelligent and high functioning, but can't resist her impulse to talk.

She bugs other people because talking is so irresistable to her, that even when

she wants to be polite and have others not get upset with her, she just has to

jump in and add her two cents. Eventually people get tired of her.

Of course, at first, they are awed by her seeming " confidence " and ability to

speak so well and loud.. but over time, they realize " something is up.. " and

back away. Of course my daughter feels bad and knows why, but STILL won't stop.

I worry, because my mom was/is the same way and always knew what she was doing

wasn't good, but was never able to stop. Just finally went into depression,

saying she was sorry all the time, drugging herself with meds and locking

herself in her room all day, spending life in bed, because she has learned that

she bugs people so much with her talking.

I don't know that there is an answer. I just want to say that if anyone else

has a child who never shuts up.... you aren't alone.

I have to keep my earplugs on hand all the time because I have times where I get

so upset for want of saying something without being interrupted that I feel

violent.. which scares me. It's like something in me is saying, " I swear.. if I

get interrupted ONE MORE TIME!!! " Not to mention that I grew up with my mother

doing this to me and I nearly went mad having to deal with that.. so my daughter

brings back a lot of ugly old " mommy issues " that were never healed and still

active at the wounded stage.

Sooo hard not to get angry.

What I've tried so far:

Sending her to a Buddhist Monastery where they teach her humility and

quiet/stillness/meditation.

Yoga

Two classes at public school to work on following rules about being quiet.(we

have homeschooled otherwise for the past many years)

She behaves herself pretty well in public, but I can see that when she " holds it

all in " she actually gets sick. Headaches, sweating, nausea, etc..

Anyway... This is a ton of " talk " for someone complaining about incessant

talking. Ironic.

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