Re: Delayed with this too?

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THere's a book for kids with AS called " Making Sense of Sex. " Also, bring it up but don't harp on it. It hurt so much how many times my mom asked why I wasn't into boys yet. On Mon, Mar 28, 2011 at 1:13 PM, Marcia wrote: Well group, I am confused as to how to handle this, first I am a single mom..and my son is 13 years old. He perseverates on animals and sports and really doesn't give a hoot about the changes in his body or having friends or personal relationships. When he's in his night clothes he just rests his hand down his pants but isn't fiddling and I have taught him that in his room alone is when its okay to do that. He has the occassional morning erection and when he first noticed it last year I told him to go to the bathroom and it would go away...not really knowing how to handle the situation. He is not masturbating and only seems to get aroused when he is brushing his teeth. I just ordered the book Taking Care of Myself from the suggestion of another parent. So I'm sure he doesn't know whats going on and he is not getting stimulated by the usual things...pictures of girls etc.. Should I just let this go for now until he figures it out by himself or brings it up? Or should I just follow through with my plan to go over the book with him during our nighttime ritual.. Thanks Marcia

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I would go over it. You are likely to have to explain this

many times. It is biology and just address it like that.

Telll him his body is changing because it has more

hormones and they help him grow and he will notice

some changes. Be clinical, blood goes to his private area.

This is normal, but it is to be kept private.

I would tell him he may feel this way more often as he gets

older, and certain thoughts or pictures may increase it.

Often boys and men feel this way in the morning. It is very

normal.

I think with an AS child the information has to be clinically

taught and they need it told explicitly often and over again

especially if there is any anxiety disorders.

If you talk about it in a biological way, the way a nurse

or doctor would I think you will feel comfotable with it.

Pam

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> Well group, I am confused as to how to handle this, first I am a single

mom..and my son is 13 years old. He perseverates on animals and sports and

really doesn't give a hoot about the changes in his body or having friends or

personal relationships. When he's in his night clothes he just rests his hand

down his pants but isn't fiddling and I have taught him that in his room alone

is when its okay to do that. He has the occassional morning erection and when he

first noticed it last year I told him to go to the bathroom and it would go

away...not really knowing how to handle the situation. He is not masturbating

and only seems to get aroused when he is brushing his teeth. I just ordered the

book Taking Care of Myself from the suggestion of another parent. So I'm sure he

doesn't know whats going on and he is not getting stimulated by the usual

things...pictures of girls etc.. Should I just let this go for now until he

figures it out by himself or brings it up? Or should I just follow through with

my plan to go over the book with him during our nighttime ritual..

>

> Thanks

> Marcia

>

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Thanks Pam! I really didn't know how to approach it..I will save your letter and explain it just like you said...thanks again.

( ) Re: Delayed with this too?

I would go over it. You are likely to have to explain this

many times. It is biology and just address it like that.

Telll him his body is changing because it has more

hormones and they help him grow and he will notice

some changes. Be clinical, blood goes to his private area.

This is normal, but it is to be kept private.

I would tell him he may feel this way more often as he gets

older, and certain thoughts or pictures may increase it.

Often boys and men feel this way in the morning. It is very

normal.

I think with an AS child the information has to be clinically

taught and they need it told explicitly often and over again

especially if there is any anxiety disorders.

If you talk about it in a biological way, the way a nurse

or doctor would I think you will feel comfotable with it.

Pam

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> Well group, I am confused as to how to handle this, first I am a single mom..and my son is 13 years old. He perseverates on animals and sports and really doesn't give a hoot about the changes in his body or having friends or personal relationships. When he's in his night clothes he just rests his hand down his pants but isn't fiddling and I have taught him that in his room alone is when its okay to do that. He has the occassional morning erection and when he first noticed it last year I told him to go to the bathroom and it would go away...not really knowing how to handle the situation. He is not masturbating and only seems to get aroused when he is brushing his teeth. I just ordered the book Taking Care of Myself from the suggestion of another parent. So I'm sure he doesn't know whats going on and he is not getting stimulated by the usual things...pictures of girls etc.. Should I just let this go for now until he figures it out by himself or brings it up? Or should I ju

st follow through with my plan to go over the book with him during our nighttime ritual..

>

> Thanks

> Marcia

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