Disrespectful Comments

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Guess I'm wondering how common this is or if my son is just being disrespectful.

He constantly says things that are rude and inappropriate and I often believe it

is the AS, but am I just making an excuse? Do I baby him too much and have not

taught him to be respectful? Manners have always been a big deal with me and I

have worked on this constantly from the time he could talk. I try my best to

practice the manners I want my son to see.......yet the things that come out of

his mouth are often appaling!

For example......we were on our way to church last night and I was driving. My

boyfriend went to sit in the front passengers seat, but for some reason the seat

would not move up. We were running late so he said he would just jump in the

back seat with my ds. He instantly started to protest and says, " Mom, why can't

he just ride in his own car? Why does he have to ride with us? " . The other day

while in the mens restroom with my boyfriend and yells, " boys are weird " . Just

doesn't even make sense. I try to explain to him what he says is inappropriate

or rude, but he either wants to argue his point or it goes in one ear and out

the other.

He is almost 9, so I think there is less tolerance for this type of behavior

from others than there was when he was 3 or 4. I myself am losing tolerance.

He gets straight A's and is soooooo smart and it can be hard to understand. I

sometimes wonder if he does it on purpose and knows just what he is doing. Am I

just using AS as an excuse?

Yesterday I got mad and smacked his leg when he was being rude in the car.

After dealing with his hard headedness all day, I guess I had enough! I felt

terrible after and hate this state of constantly feeling frustrated, embarrased,

tired, guilty. etc. It's like an endless battle. I watch people with their

children and it seems sooooo easy. They tell their child something and they

listen. They don't cringe waiting for whining, arguing, disrespect, etc. I

feel like other people must think I never teach my child anything, when in all

reality I probably teach him more than most parents (with little or no results).

It is frustrating. It must be nice to be able to spend time with your child

without getting stressed or frustrated! Am I the only one feeling this way?

People close to me compliment me on my patience, but quite honestly I don't feel

very patient. It's hard to be patient when it is the same thing, day after

day!! And I feel bad, because he has improved in many areas........it just

seems like there is always something I will have to work on while others just

get to play with and enjoy their kids. I get to work on eye contact, social

stories, social cues, etc. I still have to remind my 9 year old to say hi and

bye when someone says it to him!

Guess I'm just having a guilt induced, feel bad for myself kind of day!!

Thanks for listening!