Guest guest Posted September 12, 2002 Report Share Posted September 12, 2002 I just measured (for the first time) my scars from my explantation, they measured at 8 3/4 and 8 inches. When I asked my PS why these scars were so big and long, he said "you wanted your implants out, you got it." In other words, he ripped them out whole. I don't think I can ever like my body again. I will be single for sure. Can't imagine that any man who marry me looking like this...... I'm truly f***** -Marie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2002 Report Share Posted September 12, 2002 I'm thinking it will be a couple of more years before you realize that the scars don't matter to most men. My deformity from contracture (and it was bad) and multi-colored nipples didn't matter to most men. . .inner confidence is what seems to matter. . .you may be faltering right now with the hair loss too, but I'll bet when you get going you won't be. There's already a lot of confidence in you, Marie--not to mention brains. That brain is what will provide the thinking processes that will get you beyond this. We hear people say such trite things as "Think positive" but it takes a lot more than just that--I think it takes thinking deep and logical and you have the ability to do that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2002 Report Share Posted September 12, 2002 Thanks , You're a very special person indeed. Hugs, -Marie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2002 Report Share Posted September 12, 2002 -Marie, I haven't measured mine, but I bet they are at least that long, and mine are along the crease of my breast bottom--very, very noticeable, especially since they went keloid or something like it--thicker than I would like. Anyway, what I want to say is that scars don't matter. My husband still loves me and makes me feel appreciated sexually (meaning that he still pays attention to my breasts in playful ways). When someone loves you with REAL love, (and not a shallow selfish love), they will love you for who you are, mind, body and soul, and will love you through all the changes of life, because let's face it, we are not going to stay young forever. If being with a man was based on what our bodies looked instead of love, there would be a whole bunch of divorced old ladies running around!! Ha ha ha. I plan on being married for the rest of my life to this wonderful man, and I am pretty sure he wants to stay married to me. (I just got a very big diamond anniversary ring for my 12th anniversary!) Don't make your breasts the focus of your life, especially if you don't want your man to. There's a heck of lot more to life than breasts. Hugs, Patty ----- Original Message ----- From: perlesetlacet@... Sent: Thursday, September 12, 2002 1:54 PM Subject: Re: Explant Scars I just measured (for the first time) my scars from my explantation, they measured at 8 3/4 and 8 inches. When I asked my PS why these scars were so big and long, he said "you wanted your implants out, you got it." In other words, he ripped them out whole. I don't think I can ever like my body again. I will be single for sure. Can't imagine that any man who marry me looking like this...... :(I'm truly f*****-Marie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2002 Report Share Posted September 12, 2002 P.S. Marie--I don't like my breasts any more either, but the rest of me is ok, I think! I am sure you have taken care of the rest of you! Once you can come to terms with the way your breasts look, you can focus on other aspects of your life. I don't like my breasts anymore. I don't think I will ever like my breasts anymore. I would love to have breasts that I am proud of, but I don't and that's life. I wear breast enhancers to look good in the clothes I want to wear. That's the way I deal with it, and so far it works for me. I am happy. I hope you will be able to get to a point where you are happy too, so please keep writing... By the way, didn't you just go through a revision of your scars? Do you think there was improvement? Patty ----- Original Message ----- From: perlesetlacet@... Sent: Thursday, September 12, 2002 1:54 PM Subject: Re: Explant Scars I just measured (for the first time) my scars from my explantation, they measured at 8 3/4 and 8 inches. When I asked my PS why these scars were so big and long, he said "you wanted your implants out, you got it." In other words, he ripped them out whole. I don't think I can ever like my body again. I will be single for sure. Can't imagine that any man who marry me looking like this...... :(I'm truly f*****-Marie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2002 Report Share Posted September 12, 2002 Marie, Don't worry so much. When somebody truly loves you they will love you the way you are. Anything less than that and they don't deserve you. Try to focus on your best features, and really take the time to pamper yourself. It will make you feel much better. > I just measured (for the first time) my scars from my explantation, they > measured at 8 3/4 and 8 inches. When I asked my PS why these scars were so > big and long, he said " you wanted your implants out, you got it. " In other > words, he ripped them out whole. I don't think I can ever like my body again. > I will be single for sure. Can't imagine that any man who marry me looking > like this...... > > I'm truly f***** > > -Marie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 13, 2002 Report Share Posted September 13, 2002 -Marie, I don't blame you one single bit for how you feel and it is easy for others to say "oh it doesn't matter" but that does not really help or change how you feel does it? I know that is how it has been for me, first it was the stretch marks I got after I had my kid, then the sagginess in my breasts after I lost the weight, then the lopsided implants, then the scars and the stretch marks on my boobies now. I have finally come to the place though, where I am ok with it, and yeah it helps to have the most wonderful man to support and love me, but that will happen to you when the time is right and you find the person that you are mean to be with. Yeah I have a great body, fit and in shape, but with its marks and scars too, I have found that in candlelight with soft light and nice lingerie I can look as good as anyone and you just learn to accept those flaws and those marks, hell I brought a life into this world so I have marks from that, it makes me me, unique and womanly. The scars you have may be hard to handle for yourself, and yes they affect your confidence, once you get to the point of self acceptance, and you get to the point where you appreciate yourself for the caring, beautiful wonderful intelligent woman you are, you will see, the fears that you have will ease, and you will find that special someone who will love you. As Kari Whurer put it so eloquently in her article, your sexuality comes from within your spirit and not just your exterior, yes men like women's bodies, but men's expectations of us are not near what we place upon ourselves, trust me, men are happy to just have a breast to even touch and to have a naked woman is a thrill to them, you don't have to be perfect or thin or any of that crap, while it seems like the world is so preoccupied with this shit, men in reality are not. Have you ever noticed in real life, most couples are not perfect, we go to church and most of the men are average and many of the wives are overweight or out of shape or whatever, but their hubbies love the woman they are with for so many reasons, for her spirit as well as her smile. Trust in god and in what I am saying Marie I have spent some time talking to you and you are definitely someone many many men would fall in love with and love to be with in everyway, no matter what kind of scars you have. Their are women with mastectomies and they still have their husbands, still date, still love. I think that as we age especially those things become normal, you don't expect perfection in peoples bodies. The one thing that is so ironic is that most of us will agree when we were teenagers and in our 20's and had those perky little boobies none of us thought we were beautiful, with age comes the confidence and the wisdom to know your attractive. I feel more attractive now, with my stretch marks on my breasts and tummy then I ever did when I was younger and now I have the wisdom to know that even if tomorrow I had to have my breast removed as traumatic as it would be my husband would not leave me. He would probably love me more. Girl you have so much to offer, but one suggestion, you need to get out and meet people ok, you cannot find that soulmate being all alone. Of course I did it someone how, online, but that can be tricky, it can be done, look at all the wonderful friends we have made too. anything is possible,. I have a feeling after you get the final stage of your revision you will be much happier, and remember, this is girl to girl advice about sex, candle light is a ladies best friend, I love it, we never make love in the dark or the bright light, well not usually anyhow, hee hee, candle light flatters everything, and makes those little imperfections we think we have, seem invisible. Hugs girl you are a smart gorgeous woman with a beautiful spirit that shines through, any man would be happy and blessed to have you in his life, let alone in his bed! HUGS ----- Original Message ----- From: perlesetlacet@... Sent: Thursday, September 12, 2002 2:54 PM Subject: Re: Explant Scars I just measured (for the first time) my scars from my explantation, they measured at 8 3/4 and 8 inches. When I asked my PS why these scars were so big and long, he said "you wanted your implants out, you got it." In other words, he ripped them out whole. I don't think I can ever like my body again. I will be single for sure. Can't imagine that any man who marry me looking like this...... :(I'm truly f*****-Marie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 13, 2002 Report Share Posted September 13, 2002 Hi Patty: Thanks for your kind words and wisdom, it means a lot to me. Take care, LM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 13, 2002 Report Share Posted September 13, 2002 Patty: Hi. Yes, I did get improvement as far as the scars themselves. My scars are skinny and there are no more Railroad tracks. But there is only so much my current doc can do because my implanting/explanting doc already screwed me up so bad. I think I can learn to deal with my breasts--I hope anyway. It's the hair loss that bothers me more. That really scares me. Thanks for listening/responding. Have a great weekend. LM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 13, 2002 Report Share Posted September 13, 2002 Thank you Ari. Have a great weekend. -Marie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 13, 2002 Report Share Posted September 13, 2002 Dear : Hi. Thanks for your kind words. Your support means so much to me. I hope to see more improvements with my breast after my next surgery. Thanks again for your encouragement and friendship. -Marie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 13, 2002 Report Share Posted September 13, 2002 -Marie I am sorry for the hair loss, I wish there was something that I could think of that would help you out with that. It totally sucks, and I can totally understand how hard that would be. I think that my hair is one of my post prized asets and that is why I have never really cut it short or anythng, I love long hair. I also am grateful that throughout my implant illness I never had lots of hairloss although I do believe I had some. The only time I ever experienced allot of hair loss when after I had my daughter, that was really bad, hair everywhere tons of it. Thank god it stopped after about 6 months. Hormones I guess play a part in that. SUcks big time, and I know you have been to the experts about it too so that if anyone would know what to do about it that would be you. hugs girl your a sweetie and I love and care about you so much glad you are my friend ----- Original Message ----- From: perlesetlacet@... Sent: Friday, September 13, 2002 1:36 PM Subject: Re: Explant Scars Patty:Hi. Yes, I did get improvement as far as the scars themselves. My scars are skinny and there are no more Railroad tracks. But there is only so much my current doc can do because my implanting/explanting doc already screwed me up so bad. I think I can learn to deal with my breasts--I hope anyway. It's the hair loss that bothers me more. That really scares me.Thanks for listening/responding. Have a great weekend.LM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 13, 2002 Report Share Posted September 13, 2002 I am hoping for your improvement too, I also know that it takes time for the fresh red look on those mastopexy scars to fade, it took probably 9 months before mine didn't totally make me sick, even though they were skinny. I swear if I don't think about it, I never really even notice the scars anymore. The ones that are more pronounced are just the faint white ones around the nipples. I measured my nipples too and they are a tiny bit bigger than a quarter, just barely. Hugs Good luck ----- Original Message ----- From: perlesetlacet@... Sent: Friday, September 13, 2002 1:39 PM Subject: Re: Explant Scars Dear :Hi. Thanks for your kind words. Your support means so much to me. I hope to see more improvements with my breast after my next surgery.Thanks again for your encouragement and friendship.-Marie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 14, 2002 Report Share Posted September 14, 2002 -Marie, I can understand how you feel. My whole chest seems like it's one big scar. If you saw my pics, not only do I have scars from a breast reduction, but my sternal scar (from sternal notch to xiphoid process). Because I had to have the sternal scar opened and debrided 4x, the scar did not heal nicely at all. You can see it in the pics of me. I too am embarrassed to be with a man and let him see my scars. I really hate my chest area. It will take a whole lot of self love and inner peace for me to "accept" these scars and feel "okay" with them. My last boyfriend a yr ago said the scars "weren't bad" but then always managed to say how they were so big and noticeable. Great. So, I know how you feel. It is frustrating and hard to accept these scars as part of you. It sucks!!! e ----- Original Message ----- From: Bos@... Sent: Thursday, September 12, 2002 2:06 PM Subject: Re: Explant Scars I'm thinking it will be a couple of more years before you realize that the scars don't matter to most men. My deformity from contracture (and it was bad) and multi-colored nipples didn't matter to most men. . .inner confidence is what seems to matter. . .you may be faltering right now with the hair loss too, but I'll bet when you get going you won't be. There's already a lot of confidence in you, Marie--not to mention brains. That brain is what will provide the thinking processes that will get you beyond this. We hear people say such trite things as "Think positive" but it takes a lot more than just that--I think it takes thinking deep and logical and you have the ability to do that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 17, 2002 Report Share Posted September 17, 2002 Hi : Thanks for your encouraging post. It was so nice seeing you again. Take care, marie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 17, 2002 Report Share Posted September 17, 2002 Hi : Thanks for your concern. I will be seeing another doc on the 8th about the effluvium. I think once the thyroid is in good working order, hopefully the hair will straighten out too. Hugs, -Marie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 17, 2002 Report Share Posted September 17, 2002 : Thanks for your kind words. Take care, LM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 18, 2002 Report Share Posted September 18, 2002 I hope so girl! You have been through enough of this crap! ----- Original Message ----- From: perlesetlacet@... Sent: Tuesday, September 17, 2002 4:56 PM Subject: Re: Explant Scars Hi :Thanks for your concern. I will be seeing another doc on the 8th about the effluvium. I think once the thyroid is in good working order, hopefully the hair will straighten out too.Hugs,-Marie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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