Re: Sorry to ask again but need more advice on condition

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They are all a bunch of " spiritual parrots " with no clues. How do they know

that cancer come from anger ? Who told them so ? Trauma, sadness,griefs,fears, a

lack of joy, of meaning.. of fulfillment..boredom, a feeling of being trapped,

excessive worries, excessive sens of duties, stress, fear... is what I found

when working with patients.

The above are only labels attached to unpleasant feelings. If you take " anger "

as an example and you look closely to it.. you will see that it is a composite

feeling. Different for each one of us.

If I take two persons and I ask them to hold their anger in front of them , like

a transparent sphere..to describe me the content.. to give this thing called

" anger " : a color, a taste,a smell and a name : I will get two completely

different results. Sometimes what they called " anger " was not even anger!!

Professor Vaillant (Harvard University) said: " People think of anger as a

terribly dangerous emotion and are encouraged to practise 'positive thinking',

but we find that approach is self-defeating and ultimately a damaging denial of

dreadful reality.

" Negative emotions such as fear and anger are inborn and are of tremendous

importance. Negative emotions are often crucial for survival: careful

experiments such as ours have documented that negative emotions narrow and focus

attention so we can concentrate on the trees instead of the forest. "

Even the Dalai Lama says he gets angry as does the Vietnamese Zen master and

peace activist Thich Nhat Hanh.The difference is that these two sages know what

to do with their anger. Intense angry feelings don't automatically become

unhealthy or destructive or drive negative actions.

I am a true believer in a Mind-Body Connection and follows in this approach to

Healing the protocol of Professor Spiegel Ph.D : " Acute stress can

stimulate immune response, while chronic stress wears it down. These factors can

have an effect on the body's ability to fight disease. "

For Leshan : " The traditional focus is on psychological and emotional problems.

Its basic questions are, " What's wrong with you? " and " What are the past

causes? "

Years of clinical research have shown that this traditional approach is not

productive for people dealing with an illness threatening their lives. Not only

is it irrelevant to their immediate concerns, but of far more importance, it has

no effect on the course of their illness.Our work aims at helping them claim the

right to live in ways they would find fulfilling, ways that generate enthusiasm

and a commitment to the future. When they do this, their healing resources often

respond.

What do you really want? Although we each want something different, we all want

more meaning, fulfillment, joy, and enthusiasm. To bring this about, we each

have to find our own way to custom-design our life. There is no one right way

that fits everyone. When we take action to bring about our own, individual ways

to upgrade and enrich our life, this changes us emotionally, psychologically, in

relation to others, spiritually and physically.

Thoughts and feelings cannot cause or cure cancer, but feelings affect body

chemistry (which affects the development or regression of tumors), just as body

chemistry affects feelings. When we act toward ourselves in ways that truly help

to nurture the best of ourselves, our feelings change in response. As we feel

more positive about who we are, we find it easier to keep acting in ways that

nourish us.

Now, workers on offshore drilling plants suffer from painful ulcer due not to

anger but to stress.

You wrote:

I've visited several " spiritual " healers trying to find a psychological cause

for the pain and symptoms. They all say the same thing -- the pain, and

original cancer -- is/was caused by anger. Well DUH. Gimme a break. What I

need is help, not " blame the victim " advice.

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