Re: Lack of sexual activity

[Guest guest]

Your at the right place and well come,

One thing men that are into bicycling can damage there Prostate on the seat.

Also men that like this sport over do it and can get low cortisol levels this

can lead to Thyroid problems and low Testosterone.

You have your hands full on this one he will fight you tooth and nail on this.

He needs to understand most men his age only married have sex at least 3 to 4

x's a week. No it's not normal to not feel like having sex or thinking about it

all the time.

All you can do is get in his face about this tell him he needs to see a Dr. and

get some labs done. One thing that is a flag going up is not having night time

and morning wood. Do you know if he has them if not there is something wrong.

Here is a link to a forum I am also a mod at and it's labs I tell men they need

if there libido is low or they have ED problems. Add to this Total T4 and T3.

http://forums.realthyroidhelp.com/viewtopic.php?f=5 & t=7059

I don't like Endo's or Uro's for this they are not good Dr.'s for men's

hormones. Try to get his family Dr. to test him post his labs here we all are

good at reading them.

If he has low Testosterone don't go on Testosterone meds until you find out why

he is low going on it will make it dam hard to tell why he is low a lot of

things can lower a mans hormones. One thing that kills men's libido is high

levels of Estradiol or low levels with low Testosterone. Men make Estradiol

from Testosterone and men in good shape with low Testosterone end up with low

Estradiol levels. This will kill his sex life.

Co-Moderator

Phil

> From: ntamez28 <ntamez28@...>

> Subject: Lack of sexual activity

>

> Date: Monday, October 5, 2009, 4:17 PM

> I have an issue and it's extremely

> delicate and upsetting to me plus I'm not even 100% sure

> that this is where to post it but after reading a few things

> on your forum thought you guys might be able to help me.

>

> My husband and I have been married for 5 months now and we

> seem to have a situation with us not having any sort of

> regular sex life. He's only 43 and very active with

> bicycling. Some days he seems rather tiered and worn out but

> I would associate that with anyone under possible stress.

> The other problem and the really difficult one for me is

> that he seems to not be turned on at all. Sex once a month

> seems to be ok for him and yet I know from past experience

> this isn't normal. Just to be clear because I'm obviously

> also having issues now from this, I'm not fat, over weight,

> ugly or unwilling. I'm 29 and active and don't want him

> upset or discouraged. I'm not interested in making him feel

> bad or hurting him but deep within me I just know this isn't

> normal. You'll have to forgive me I'm sure there's more

> information necessary to give here but I don't know what to

> add so please ask me questions and give me advise.

>

> Are there homeopathic things he can take? Are there things

> I can do? How do I broach this subject without crushing him?

> I want better for us and I know he's defensive, how could

> anyone not be? I know this must be hard for all of you so

> what did you guys do to recognize it? Last night he swore he

> was normal and healthy and that everything is in my head so

> how can I kindly show him once a month is not normal for a

> guy this young?

>

> Please help me and him and us. Thank you!!!

>

>

>

> ------------------------------------

>

>

[Guest guest]

What exactly is it about testosterone that gives men energy and how can women

function with energy that they do with barely any testosterone/

________________________________

From: philip georgian <pmgamer18@...>

Sent: Monday, October 5, 2009 4:09:36 PM

Subject: Re: Lack of sexual activity

 

Your at the right place and well come,

One thing men that are into bicycling can damage there Prostate on the seat.

Also men that like this sport over do it and can get low cortisol levels this

can lead to Thyroid problems and low Testosterone.

You have your hands full on this one he will fight you tooth and nail on this.

He needs to understand most men his age only married have sex at least 3 to 4

x's a week. No it's not normal to not feel like having sex or thinking about it

all the time.

All you can do is get in his face about this tell him he needs to see a Dr. and

get some labs done. One thing that is a flag going up is not having night time

and morning wood. Do you know if he has them if not there is something wrong.

Here is a link to a forum I am also a mod at and it's labs I tell men they need

if there libido is low or they have ED problems. Add to this Total T4 and T3.

http://forums. realthyroidhelp. com/viewtopic. php?f=5 & t= 7059

I don't like Endo's or Uro's for this they are not good Dr.'s for men's

hormones. Try to get his family Dr. to test him post his labs here we all are

good at reading them.

If he has low Testosterone don't go on Testosterone meds until you find out why

he is low going on it will make it dam hard to tell why he is low a lot of

things can lower a mans hormones. One thing that kills men's libido is high

levels of Estradiol or low levels with low Testosterone. Men make Estradiol from

Testosterone and men in good shape with low Testosterone end up with low

Estradiol levels. This will kill his sex life.

Co-Moderator

Phil

> From: ntamez28 <ntamez28 (DOT) com>

> Subject: Lack of sexual activity

>

> Date: Monday, October 5, 2009, 4:17 PM

> I have an issue and it's extremely

> delicate and upsetting to me plus I'm not even 100% sure

> that this is where to post it but after reading a few things

> on your forum thought you guys might be able to help me.

>

> My husband and I have been married for 5 months now and we

> seem to have a situation with us not having any sort of

> regular sex life. He's only 43 and very active with

> bicycling. Some days he seems rather tiered and worn out but

> I would associate that with anyone under possible stress.

> The other problem and the really difficult one for me is

> that he seems to not be turned on at all. Sex once a month

> seems to be ok for him and yet I know from past experience

> this isn't normal. Just to be clear because I'm obviously

> also having issues now from this, I'm not fat, over weight,

> ugly or unwilling. I'm 29 and active and don't want him

> upset or discouraged. I'm not interested in making him feel

> bad or hurting him but deep within me I just know this isn't

> normal. You'll have to forgive me I'm sure there's more

> information necessary to give here but I don't know what to

> add so please ask me questions and give me advise.

>

> Are there homeopathic things he can take? Are there things

> I can do? How do I broach this subject without crushing him?

> I want better for us and I know he's defensive, how could

> anyone not be? I know this must be hard for all of you so

> what did you guys do to recognize it? Last night he swore he

> was normal and healthy and that everything is in my head so

> how can I kindly show him once a month is not normal for a

> guy this young?

>

> Please help me and him and us. Thank you!!!

>

>

>

> ------------ --------- --------- ------

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Philip, I ordered HCG, but I do not receive d yet, if I receive this week I

will let you know, because I would like to be sure how do this. My daughter is a

Doctor Assistant and she will do the injection to me, she is working with a

Endoc. ske aks him about this and he told her that is OK.

________________________________

From: philip georgian <pmgamer18@...>

Sent: Mon, October 5, 2009 5:09:36 PM

Subject: Re: Lack of sexual activity

Your at the right place and well come,

One thing men that are into bicycling can damage there Prostate on the seat.

Also men that like this sport over do it and can get low cortisol levels this

can lead to Thyroid problems and low Testosterone.

You have your hands full on this one he will fight you tooth and nail on this.

He needs to understand most men his age only married have sex at least 3 to 4

x's a week. No it's not normal to not feel like having sex or thinking about it

all the time.

All you can do is get in his face about this tell him he needs to see a Dr. and

get some labs done. One thing that is a flag going up is not having night time

and morning wood. Do you know if he has them if not there is something wrong.

Here is a link to a forum I am also a mod at and it's labs I tell men they need

if there libido is low or they have ED problems. Add to this Total T4 and T3.

http://forums. realthyroidhelp. com/viewtopic. php?f=5 & t= 7059

I don't like Endo's or Uro's for this they are not good Dr.'s for men's

hormones. Try to get his family Dr. to test him post his labs here we all are

good at reading them.

If he has low Testosterone don't go on Testosterone meds until you find out why

he is low going on it will make it dam hard to tell why he is low a lot of

things can lower a mans hormones. One thing that kills men's libido is high

levels of Estradiol or low levels with low Testosterone. Men make Estradiol

from Testosterone and men in good shape with low Testosterone end up with low

Estradiol levels. This will kill his sex life.

Co-Moderator

Phil

> From: ntamez28 <ntamez28 (DOT) com>

> Subject: Lack of sexual activity

>

> Date: Monday, October 5, 2009, 4:17 PM

> I have an issue and it's extremely

> delicate and upsetting to me plus I'm not even 100% sure

> that this is where to post it but after reading a few things

> on your forum thought you guys might be able to help me.

>

> My husband and I have been married for 5 months now and we

> seem to have a situation with us not having any sort of

> regular sex life. He's only 43 and very active with

> bicycling. Some days he seems rather tiered and worn out but

> I would associate that with anyone under possible stress.

> The other problem and the really difficult one for me is

> that he seems to not be turned on at all. Sex once a month

> seems to be ok for him and yet I know from past experience

> this isn't normal. Just to be clear because I'm obviously

> also having issues now from this, I'm not fat, over weight,

> ugly or unwilling. I'm 29 and active and don't want him

> upset or discouraged. I'm not interested in making him feel

> bad or hurting him but deep within me I just know this isn't

> normal. You'll have to forgive me I'm sure there's more

> information necessary to give here but I don't know what to

> add so please ask me questions and give me advise.

>

> Are there homeopathic things he can take? Are there things

> I can do? How do I broach this subject without crushing him?

> I want better for us and I know he's defensive, how could

> anyone not be? I know this must be hard for all of you so

> what did you guys do to recognize it? Last night he swore he

> was normal and healthy and that everything is in my head so

> how can I kindly show him once a month is not normal for a

> guy this young?

>

> Please help me and him and us. Thank you!!!

>

>

>

> ------------ --------- --------- ------

>

>

[Guest guest]

Well I sat and talked with my husband and showed him your response. He was

surprised to hear what bicycling can do to the prostate and that this can effect

other issues like the thyroid. This interested him because he's also trying to

loose a little weight (not much) and is having trouble with it.

At first he didn't want to read about this but after he did it took about an

hour for it to really get to him that this is real and not normal. Part of what

helped was your honesty about normal sexual activity for guys his age. I know

this is the begining of a long road but I'm so glad that the first step is being

taken. He really didn't want to admit there was a problem or that it's not

normal to only be ative once a month. He's apperantly lived with this for a long

time too. Possibly since his mid to late 20's. Even he can't remember when

things changed.

To answer your question though, no he says he doesn't have morning or night

erections and doesn't remember when that stopped but he did say that at one time

they did happen. Which gives me a lot of hope that this is medical and can be

fixed. He has some questions though about options. He doesn't have med.

insurance right now so he was wondering approx how much it may cost to do all of

this and if there's any dietary or herbal things he can try first. He's starting

though to already sound a little hopeful that maybe we can have a better life

together with something he never wanted to talk about or believe, plus he was

honest enough to tell me it's not my fault and I told him I don't blame him,

that I just want better. Thank you so much for already starting us on a better

path. Please send and give lots more advise. We're listening together now.

>

> > From: ntamez28 <ntamez28@...>

> > Subject: Lack of sexual activity

> >

> > Date: Monday, October 5, 2009, 4:17 PM

> > I have an issue and it's extremely

> > delicate and upsetting to me plus I'm not even 100% sure

> > that this is where to post it but after reading a few things

> > on your forum thought you guys might be able to help me.

> >

> > My husband and I have been married for 5 months now and we

> > seem to have a situation with us not having any sort of

> > regular sex life. He's only 43 and very active with

> > bicycling. Some days he seems rather tiered and worn out but

> > I would associate that with anyone under possible stress.

> > The other problem and the really difficult one for me is

> > that he seems to not be turned on at all. Sex once a month

> > seems to be ok for him and yet I know from past experience

> > this isn't normal. Just to be clear because I'm obviously

> > also having issues now from this, I'm not fat, over weight,

> > ugly or unwilling. I'm 29 and active and don't want him

> > upset or discouraged. I'm not interested in making him feel

> > bad or hurting him but deep within me I just know this isn't

> > normal. You'll have to forgive me I'm sure there's more

> > information necessary to give here but I don't know what to

> > add so please ask me questions and give me advise.

> >

> > Are there homeopathic things he can take? Are there things

> > I can do? How do I broach this subject without crushing him?

> > I want better for us and I know he's defensive, how could

> > anyone not be? I know this must be hard for all of you so

> > what did you guys do to recognize it? Last night he swore he

> > was normal and healthy and that everything is in my head so

> > how can I kindly show him once a month is not normal for a

> > guy this young?

> >

> > Please help me and him and us. Thank you!!!

> >

> >

> >

> > ------------------------------------

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

I'd like to know the answer to this as well.

>

> > From: ntamez28 <ntamez28 (DOT) com>

> > Subject: Lack of sexual activity

> >

> > Date: Monday, October 5, 2009, 4:17 PM

> > I have an issue and it's extremely

> > delicate and upsetting to me plus I'm not even 100% sure

> > that this is where to post it but after reading a few things

> > on your forum thought you guys might be able to help me.

> >

> > My husband and I have been married for 5 months now and we

> > seem to have a situation with us not having any sort of

> > regular sex life. He's only 43 and very active with

> > bicycling. Some days he seems rather tiered and worn out but

> > I would associate that with anyone under possible stress.

> > The other problem and the really difficult one for me is

> > that he seems to not be turned on at all. Sex once a month

> > seems to be ok for him and yet I know from past experience

> > this isn't normal. Just to be clear because I'm obviously

> > also having issues now from this, I'm not fat, over weight,

> > ugly or unwilling. I'm 29 and active and don't want him

> > upset or discouraged. I'm not interested in making him feel

> > bad or hurting him but deep within me I just know this isn't

> > normal. You'll have to forgive me I'm sure there's more

> > information necessary to give here but I don't know what to

> > add so please ask me questions and give me advise.

> >

> > Are there homeopathic things he can take? Are there things

> > I can do? How do I broach this subject without crushing him?

> > I want better for us and I know he's defensive, how could

> > anyone not be? I know this must be hard for all of you so

> > what did you guys do to recognize it? Last night he swore he

> > was normal and healthy and that everything is in my head so

> > how can I kindly show him once a month is not normal for a

> > guy this young?

> >

> > Please help me and him and us. Thank you!!!

> >

> >

> >

> > ------------ --------- --------- ------

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Testosterone works at the cellular level. It affects basic metabolic processes.

It works on the mRNA and mitochrondia of the cell.

Energy comes from the mitochrondria, the powerhouse of the cell.

The anabolic (muscle building) effect of testosterone is what causes the male

physique. The metabolic energy can be driven from either Testosteron or

Estrogen.

Estrogen is surprisingly similar in many respects and is also a steroid. Far

from being " opposites " they are very close in chemical structure. As we often

mention here, Testosterone can convert to Estrogen very easily through

Aromatization. The reverse is not true. Estradiol can convert to Estrone and

Estrone can convert back to Estradiol. Estrone sulfate can be stored in the body

and acts as a reservoir of estrogen. Estradiol never converts to Testostrone or

DHT.

Your body can run on either Testosterone or Estrogen, but if both are low you

appear to age quickly.

The wikipedia articles are very good:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Testosterone

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Estradiol

> >

> > What exactly is it about testosterone that gives men energy and how can

women function with energy that they do with barely any testosterone/

> >

[Guest guest]

Forget the herbals, they are a waste of money. Proper diet is always a help, but

won't fix this problem by itself.

You can start off by having a blood test for testosterone levels.

This can be done for less than $80.

Go to http://www.privatemdlabs.com/ and look up the below test.

You should be able to find a labcorp facility near you to have the blood drawn.

You will receive the results by e-mail.

Use the discount code OCT09BST to get a 15% discount.

--

Testosterone, Free (Direct), Serum With Total Testosterone

Description: Evaluate hirsutism and masculinization in women; evaluate

testicular function in clinical states where the testosterone binding proteins

may be altered (obesity, cirrhosis, thyroid disorders).

Includes: Free Testosterone (Direct) and Total, Serum ; Testosterone,

Free/Tot/Direct.

Patient Instructions: If using a testosterone cream please be sure you have not

rubbed any into the antecubital area of your arm for the last 24 hours as it can

give elevated results.

Categories: Hormones and Metabolism

Price: $89.49

He has some questions though about options. He doesn't have med. insurance

right now so he was wondering approx how much it may cost to do all of this and

if there's any dietary or herbal things he can try first.

....

Please send and give lots more advise. We're listening together now.

>

[Guest guest]

that was probably the best explanation I have ever heard for anything, very

logical, thank you.

________________________________

From: k0cm <Randy@...>

Sent: Tuesday, October 6, 2009 6:36:57 AM

Subject: Re: Lack of sexual activity

 

Testosterone works at the cellular level. It affects basic metabolic processes.

It works on the mRNA and mitochrondia of the cell.

Energy comes from the mitochrondria, the powerhouse of the cell.

The anabolic (muscle building) effect of testosterone is what causes the male

physique. The metabolic energy can be driven from either Testosteron or

Estrogen.

Estrogen is surprisingly similar in many respects and is also a steroid. Far

from being " opposites " they are very close in chemical structure. As we often

mention here, Testosterone can convert to Estrogen very easily through

Aromatization. The reverse is not true. Estradiol can convert to Estrone and

Estrone can convert back to Estradiol. Estrone sulfate can be stored in the body

and acts as a reservoir of estrogen. Estradiol never converts to Testostrone or

DHT.

Your body can run on either Testosterone or Estrogen, but if both are low you

appear to age quickly.

The wikipedia articles are very good:

http://en.wikipedia .org/wiki/ Testosterone

http://en.wikipedia .org/wiki/ Estradiol

> >

> > What exactly is it about testosterone that gives men energy and how can

women function with energy that they do with barely any testosterone/

> >

[Guest guest]

Well this can be a problem not having a health care plain to cover the cost of

labs.

Here is what I would have done at Quest Labs

I am sure he is thinking the right way now.

Don't worry about this it happens to lot of men young and old.

I would give you links to read but we don't know what is wrong so one thing at a

time.

In the files section we have a file " Finding a New Male Hormone Dr. " read this.

In the Database section we have Physician Reference look at it see if one of the

men's Dr.'s is in your area.

I like DO Dr.'s for this problem they are great at this. Here is a link with

links to help you find a Osteopath Dr.

http://www.geocities.com/chrisgjsbcglobal (DOT) net/Osteopaths.html

I am sure the men here have some good info for you.

Estradiol sensitive Code #4021

Testosterone, Free, Bioavailable & Total LC/MS/MS Code # 14966X.

LH and FSH

Prolactin

Homocysteine (Caridioviasular) Code #31789X.

Vit.D, 25-Hydroxy LC/MS/MS Code #17306X.

TSH

Free T4

Free T3

Total T3

Total T4

RT3

Thyroid Antibodies (anti-TPO and TgAb. YOU NEED BOTH.)

A morning fasting Cortisol blood test.

Total Iron

Iron Binding Capacity

Iron % Saturation

Ferritin

B-12

Co-Moderator

Phil

> From: ntamez28 <ntamez28@...>

> Subject: Re: Lack of sexual activity

>

> Date: Tuesday, October 6, 2009, 12:18 AM

> Well I sat and talked with my husband

> and showed him your response. He was surprised to hear what

> bicycling can do to the prostate and that this can effect

> other issues like the thyroid. This interested him because

> he's also trying to loose a little weight (not much) and is

> having trouble with it.

>

> At first he didn't want to read about this but after he did

> it took about an hour for it to really get to him that this

> is real and not normal. Part of what helped was your honesty

> about normal sexual activity for guys his age. I know this

> is the begining of a long road but I'm so glad that the

> first step is being taken. He really didn't want to admit

> there was a problem or that it's not normal to only be ative

> once a month. He's apperantly lived with this for a long

> time too. Possibly since his mid to late 20's. Even he can't

> remember when things changed.

>

> To answer your question though, no he says he doesn't have

> morning or night erections and doesn't remember when that

> stopped but he did say that at one time they did happen.

> Which gives me a lot of hope that this is medical and can be

> fixed. He has some questions though about options. He

> doesn't have med. insurance right now so he was wondering

> approx how much it may cost to do all of this and if there's

> any dietary or herbal things he can try first. He's starting

> though to already sound a little hopeful that maybe we can

> have a better life together with something he never wanted

> to talk about or believe, plus he was honest enough to tell

> me it's not my fault and I told him I don't blame him, that

> I just want better. Thank you so much for already starting

> us on a better path. Please send and give lots more advise.

> We're listening together now.

>

>

>

>

> >

> > > From: ntamez28 <ntamez28@...>

> > > Subject: Lack of sexual activity

> > >

> > > Date: Monday, October 5, 2009, 4:17 PM

> > > I have an issue and it's extremely

> > > delicate and upsetting to me plus I'm not even

> 100% sure

> > > that this is where to post it but after reading a

> few things

> > > on your forum thought you guys might be able to

> help me.

> > >

> > > My husband and I have been married for 5 months

> now and we

> > > seem to have a situation with us not having any

> sort of

> > > regular sex life. He's only 43 and very active

> with

> > > bicycling. Some days he seems rather tiered and

> worn out but

> > > I would associate that with anyone under possible

> stress.

> > > The other problem and the really difficult one

> for me is

> > > that he seems to not be turned on at all. Sex

> once a month

> > > seems to be ok for him and yet I know from past

> experience

> > > this isn't normal. Just to be clear because I'm

> obviously

> > > also having issues now from this, I'm not fat,

> over weight,

> > > ugly or unwilling. I'm 29 and active and don't

> want him

> > > upset or discouraged. I'm not interested in

> making him feel

> > > bad or hurting him but deep within me I just know

> this isn't

> > > normal. You'll have to forgive me I'm sure

> there's more

> > > information necessary to give here but I don't

> know what to

> > > add so please ask me questions and give me

> advise.

> > >

> > > Are there homeopathic things he can take? Are

> there things

> > > I can do? How do I broach this subject without

> crushing him?

> > > I want better for us and I know he's defensive,

> how could

> > > anyone not be? I know this must be hard for all

> of you so

> > > what did you guys do to recognize it? Last night

> he swore he

> > > was normal and healthy and that everything is in

> my head so

> > > how can I kindly show him once a month is not

> normal for a

> > > guy this young?

> > >

> > > Please help me and him and us. Thank you!!!

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > ------------------------------------

> > >

> > >

[Guest guest]

Ok just let me know I can help and you need to learn how to do your own shots.

When you post tell me the name of the HCG how much it is mixed and what your TRT

is.

Co-Moderator

Phil

>

> > From: ntamez28 <ntamez28 (DOT) com>

> > Subject: Lack of sexual activity

> >

> > Date: Monday, October 5, 2009, 4:17 PM

> > I have an issue and it's extremely

> > delicate and upsetting to me plus I'm not even 100%

> sure

> > that this is where to post it but after reading a few

> things

> > on your forum thought you guys might be able to help

> me.

> >

> > My husband and I have been married for 5 months now

> and we

> > seem to have a situation with us not having any sort

> of

> > regular sex life. He's only 43 and very active with

> > bicycling. Some days he seems rather tiered and worn

> out but

> > I would associate that with anyone under possible

> stress.

> > The other problem and the really difficult one for me

> is

> > that he seems to not be turned on at all. Sex once a

> month

> > seems to be ok for him and yet I know from past

> experience

> > this isn't normal. Just to be clear because I'm

> obviously

> > also having issues now from this, I'm not fat, over

> weight,

> > ugly or unwilling. I'm 29 and active and don't want

> him

> > upset or discouraged. I'm not interested in making him

> feel

> > bad or hurting him but deep within me I just know this

> isn't

> > normal. You'll have to forgive me I'm sure there's

> more

> > information necessary to give here but I don't know

> what to

> > add so please ask me questions and give me advise.

> >

> > Are there homeopathic things he can take? Are there

> things

> > I can do? How do I broach this subject without

> crushing him?

> > I want better for us and I know he's defensive, how

> could

> > anyone not be? I know this must be hard for all of you

> so

> > what did you guys do to recognize it? Last night he

> swore he

> > was normal and healthy and that everything is in my

> head so

> > how can I kindly show him once a month is not normal

> for a

> > guy this young?

> >

> > Please help me and him and us. Thank you!!!

> >

> >

> >

> > ------------ --------- --------- ------

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Men need Testosterone to support there muscles and joints.

Testosterone has a caluming effect on there brain.

Low Testosterone will make a men have feelinds of Depression that are not true

Depression.

I can go on for hrs. so do read this link it is full of some of the best info

out there.

Men are men because of there levels of testosterone.

Women are women do to Estrogen's

We both need Estrone and Testosterone only diff. is women don't need as much as

men do.

http://www.griffinmedical.com/male_hormone_modulation_therapy.html

Co-Moderator

Phil

>

> > From: ntamez28 <ntamez28 (DOT) com>

> > Subject: Lack of sexual activity

> >

> > Date: Monday, October 5, 2009, 4:17 PM

> > I have an issue and it's extremely

> > delicate and upsetting to me plus I'm not even 100%

> sure

> > that this is where to post it but after reading a few

> things

> > on your forum thought you guys might be able to help

> me.

> >

> > My husband and I have been married for 5 months now

> and we

> > seem to have a situation with us not having any sort

> of

> > regular sex life. He's only 43 and very active with

> > bicycling. Some days he seems rather tiered and worn

> out but

> > I would associate that with anyone under possible

> stress.

> > The other problem and the really difficult one for me

> is

> > that he seems to not be turned on at all. Sex once a

> month

> > seems to be ok for him and yet I know from past

> experience

> > this isn't normal. Just to be clear because I'm

> obviously

> > also having issues now from this, I'm not fat, over

> weight,

> > ugly or unwilling. I'm 29 and active and don't want

> him

> > upset or discouraged. I'm not interested in making him

> feel

> > bad or hurting him but deep within me I just know this

> isn't

> > normal. You'll have to forgive me I'm sure there's

> more

> > information necessary to give here but I don't know

> what to

> > add so please ask me questions and give me advise.

> >

> > Are there homeopathic things he can take? Are there

> things

> > I can do? How do I broach this subject without

> crushing him?

> > I want better for us and I know he's defensive, how

> could

> > anyone not be? I know this must be hard for all of you

> so

> > what did you guys do to recognize it? Last night he

> swore he

> > was normal and healthy and that everything is in my

> head so

> > how can I kindly show him once a month is not normal

> for a

> > guy this young?

> >

> > Please help me and him and us. Thank you!!!

> >

> >

> >

> > ------------ --------- --------- ------

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

> Are there homeopathic things he can take?

Hi,

there are a few OTC type things that can help.

a zinc supplement is good... I just take a calcium/magnesium/zinc

arginine... an amino acid it help circulation kinda and can help

if it's a high estrogen/e2 level many here swear by a supplement called DIM...

I'm sure they'll tell you more about it.

odd as it may sound GNC Men's Sport Multivitamins will reliably give me an

easier erection and I'm noticably " hornier " .

> Are there things I can do?

for me I know a nightgown vs pajamas always does the trick :-}

> How do I broach this subject without crushing him?

probably the hardest thing... at 42 with a young wife he's probably got a lot of

work related stress and that doesn't help... if you could get him into the doc's

for a " checkup " with appropriate blood work that'd be a start... somebody else

here could give you a better list than I could on what all to check first

time... there are all sorts of things to just rule out before you start

administering Testosterone... though it's probably just age and stress.

you might want to relate to him that when one is ON Testosterone you feel GREAT

(generally... I know I do... but I shoot for the upper 1% of normal ;-}) and

it'd increase his sporting performance (bicycling, tennis, golf (yes there are

rumors Tiger is on the juice)).

> how can I kindly show him once a month is not normal for a guy this > young?

well I'm 53 and wife (50) and I try to fit in 3-4 sessions (of 1 (weekday) to 6

(saturday/sunday afternoon) events) a week.

good luck

ttyl

[Guest guest]

> He was surprised to hear what bicycling can do to the prostate and > that this

can effect other issues like the thyroid. This interested > him because he's

also trying to loose a little weight (not much)

> and is having trouble with it.

Hi,

I didn't even think about the bicycling and the prostate...

I take a saw palmetto cap every night for that... does he get up at night to go

P? especially more than once and/or every night?

> he was wondering approx how much it may cost

for self administered shots of 1/2cc (100-125mg/week) figure a bottle of

testosterone around 65$ for 20 shots... plus arimidex and hcg... you can price

them at http://www.alldaychemist.com/ ... typical dosage is 1/4 tablet of

arimidex every other day or every 3rd day... and 500iu of HCG every week (in 2

itty bitty shots on the days just before the weekly testosterone shot).

so it's really pretty cheap.

gels and patches are considerably more expensive and don't necessarily work as

well.

and it's not hard to stick yourself... that first time or two can be a bit scary

but with a small (25g) needle it doesn't hurt.

ttyl

[Guest guest]

On Mon, 5 Oct 2009 18:42:30 -0700 (PDT), you wrote:

>What exactly is it about testosterone that gives men energy and how can women

function with energy that they do with barely any testosterone/

>

>

>

Fetal development and puberty develop different biological pathways

and receptor sites.

[Guest guest]

On Tue, 06 Oct 2009 11:49:22 -0000, you wrote:

>Forget the herbals, they are a waste of money. Proper diet is always a help,

but won't fix this problem by itself.

>

>You can start off by having a blood test for testosterone levels.

>This can be done for less than $80.

The first test should be total testosterone, free testosterone and

estradiol. If T is low then you will be looking at follow up tests for

prolactin, LH and FSH.

[Guest guest]

On Tue, 06 Oct 2009 17:54:38 -0000, you wrote:

>> He was surprised to hear what bicycling can do to the prostate and > that

this can effect other issues like the thyroid. This interested > him because

he's also trying to loose a little weight (not much)

>> and is having trouble with it.

>

>Hi,

>

>I didn't even think about the bicycling and the prostate...

It's actually no the prostate it pinches a nerve if you have a poor

seat. And that can lead to ED issues.

http://radio.weblogs.com/0107064/categories/miscelleous/2005/10/05.html

http://www.sandrablakeslee.com/articles/bicycle_seat_oct05.php

Good bike seats are slotted to avoid this.

[Guest guest]

He does have a specialized seat now but did ride for several years without one.

Not sure if that caused damage and we're just now realizing there are

consequences.

>

> >> He was surprised to hear what bicycling can do to the prostate and > that

this can effect other issues like the thyroid. This interested > him because

he's also trying to loose a little weight (not much)

> >> and is having trouble with it.

> >

> >Hi,

> >

> >I didn't even think about the bicycling and the prostate...

>

>

> It's actually no the prostate it pinches a nerve if you have a poor

> seat. And that can lead to ED issues.

>

> http://radio.weblogs.com/0107064/categories/miscelleous/2005/10/05.html

>

> http://www.sandrablakeslee.com/articles/bicycle_seat_oct05.php

>

> Good bike seats are slotted to avoid this.

>

[Guest guest]

I can't thank all of you guys enough for your help and ideas. My husband and I

are having some really great discussions about what's going on and getting a lot

of ideas as to what he's going to have tested, what vitamins he's going to try

to help at first and what Doctors we want to get involved. I'm so appreciative

of your support to me and to him. Plus your help in examples of what is normal

and what to look forward to. Thanks again!!!

>

> I have an issue and it's extremely delicate and upsetting to me plus I'm not

even 100% sure that this is where to post it but after reading a few things on

your forum thought you guys might be able to help me.

>

> My husband and I have been married for 5 months now and we seem to have a

situation with us not having any sort of regular sex life. He's only 43 and very

active with bicycling. Some days he seems rather tiered and worn out but I would

associate that with anyone under possible stress. The other problem and the

really difficult one for me is that he seems to not be turned on at all. Sex

once a month seems to be ok for him and yet I know from past experience this

isn't normal. Just to be clear because I'm obviously also having issues now from

this, I'm not fat, over weight, ugly or unwilling. I'm 29 and active and don't

want him upset or discouraged. I'm not interested in making him feel bad or

hurting him but deep within me I just know this isn't normal. You'll have to

forgive me I'm sure there's more information necessary to give here but I don't

know what to add so please ask me questions and give me advise.

>

> Are there homeopathic things he can take? Are there things I can do? How do I

broach this subject without crushing him? I want better for us and I know he's

defensive, how could anyone not be? I know this must be hard for all of you so

what did you guys do to recognize it? Last night he swore he was normal and

healthy and that everything is in my head so how can I kindly show him once a

month is not normal for a guy this young?

>

> Please help me and him and us. Thank you!!!

>

[Guest guest]

I agree with the Phil's reply. But I bet you he does have low T and if it is

prolonged he will have more problems associated with it. Finding out why he has

low T is the first step and then if it turns out that it is age related, then

there is hope and you can be involved as well. =]

>

> > From: ntamez28 <ntamez28@...>

> > Subject: Lack of sexual activity

> >

> > Date: Monday, October 5, 2009, 4:17 PM

> > I have an issue and it's extremely

> > delicate and upsetting to me plus I'm not even 100% sure

> > that this is where to post it but after reading a few things

> > on your forum thought you guys might be able to help me.

> >

> > My husband and I have been married for 5 months now and we

> > seem to have a situation with us not having any sort of

> > regular sex life. He's only 43 and very active with

> > bicycling. Some days he seems rather tiered and worn out but

> > I would associate that with anyone under possible stress.

> > The other problem and the really difficult one for me is

> > that he seems to not be turned on at all. Sex once a month

> > seems to be ok for him and yet I know from past experience

> > this isn't normal. Just to be clear because I'm obviously

> > also having issues now from this, I'm not fat, over weight,

> > ugly or unwilling. I'm 29 and active and don't want him

> > upset or discouraged. I'm not interested in making him feel

> > bad or hurting him but deep within me I just know this isn't

> > normal. You'll have to forgive me I'm sure there's more

> > information necessary to give here but I don't know what to

> > add so please ask me questions and give me advise.

> >

> > Are there homeopathic things he can take? Are there things

> > I can do? How do I broach this subject without crushing him?

> > I want better for us and I know he's defensive, how could

> > anyone not be? I know this must be hard for all of you so

> > what did you guys do to recognize it? Last night he swore he

> > was normal and healthy and that everything is in my head so

> > how can I kindly show him once a month is not normal for a

> > guy this young?

> >

> > Please help me and him and us. Thank you!!!

> >

> >

> >

> > ------------------------------------

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Your welcome do keep us in the loop on how it goes and just remember the bike

part is just one thing that can cause a problem. Doing labs will show the

story.

Co-Moderator

Phil

> From: ntamez28 <ntamez28@...>

> Subject: Re: Lack of sexual activity

>

> Date: Wednesday, October 7, 2009, 12:31 AM

> I can't thank all of you guys enough

> for your help and ideas. My husband and I are having some

> really great discussions about what's going on and getting a

> lot of ideas as to what he's going to have tested, what

> vitamins he's going to try to help at first and what Doctors

> we want to get involved. I'm so appreciative of your support

> to me and to him. Plus your help in examples of what is

> normal and what to look forward to. Thanks again!!!

>

>

> >

> > I have an issue and it's extremely delicate and

> upsetting to me plus I'm not even 100% sure that this is

> where to post it but after reading a few things on your

> forum thought you guys might be able to help me.

> >

> > My husband and I have been married for 5 months now

> and we seem to have a situation with us not having any sort

> of regular sex life. He's only 43 and very active with

> bicycling. Some days he seems rather tiered and worn out but

> I would associate that with anyone under possible stress.

> The other problem and the really difficult one for me is

> that he seems to not be turned on at all. Sex once a month

> seems to be ok for him and yet I know from past experience

> this isn't normal. Just to be clear because I'm obviously

> also having issues now from this, I'm not fat, over weight,

> ugly or unwilling. I'm 29 and active and don't want him

> upset or discouraged. I'm not interested in making him feel

> bad or hurting him but deep within me I just know this isn't

> normal. You'll have to forgive me I'm sure there's more

> information necessary to give here but I don't know what to

> add so please ask me questions and give me advise.

> >

> > Are there homeopathic things he can take? Are there

> things I can do? How do I broach this subject without

> crushing him? I want better for us and I know he's

> defensive, how could anyone not be? I know this must be hard

> for all of you so what did you guys do to recognize it? Last

> night he swore he was normal and healthy and that everything

> is in my head so how can I kindly show him once a month is

> not normal for a guy this young?

> >

> > Please help me and him and us. Thank you!!!

> >

>

>

>

>

> ------------------------------------

>

>

[Guest guest]

On Wed, 07 Oct 2009 04:28:36 -0000, you wrote:

>He does have a specialized seat now but did ride for several years without one.

Not sure if that caused damage and we're just now realizing there are

consequences.

It's unlikely this is involved. Bike seats injuries cause erectile

issues but do not ordinarily diminish T levels, sex drive, energy,

etc.

[Guest guest]

Good point yes if his Testosterone levels are low it's best to find out why he

is low before going on Testosterone meds. Once one goes on TRT you can't find

out why your low. In my story you can see how it took me 23 yrs to figure this

out after seeing one Dr. after the other for yrs I wish today I had the money I

spent on them.

http://forums.realthyroidhelp.com/viewtopic.php?f=5 & t=9239

Co-Moderator

Phil

> From: vadielunn <trance325@...>

> Subject: Re: Lack of sexual activity

>

> Date: Wednesday, October 7, 2009, 1:59 AM

> I agree with the Phil's reply. But I

> bet you he does have low T and if it is prolonged he will

> have more problems associated with it.  Finding out why

> he has low T is the first step and then if it turns out that

> it is age related, then there is hope and you can be

> involved as well.  =]

>

>

>

>

> >

> > > From: ntamez28 <ntamez28@...>

> > > Subject: Lack of sexual activity

> > >

> > > Date: Monday, October 5, 2009, 4:17 PM

> > > I have an issue and it's extremely

> > > delicate and upsetting to me plus I'm not even

> 100% sure

> > > that this is where to post it but after reading a

> few things

> > > on your forum thought you guys might be able to

> help me.

> > >

> > > My husband and I have been married for 5 months

> now and we

> > > seem to have a situation with us not having any

> sort of

> > > regular sex life. He's only 43 and very active

> with

> > > bicycling. Some days he seems rather tiered and

> worn out but

> > > I would associate that with anyone under possible

> stress.

> > > The other problem and the really difficult one

> for me is

> > > that he seems to not be turned on at all. Sex

> once a month

> > > seems to be ok for him and yet I know from past

> experience

> > > this isn't normal. Just to be clear because I'm

> obviously

> > > also having issues now from this, I'm not fat,

> over weight,

> > > ugly or unwilling. I'm 29 and active and don't

> want him

> > > upset or discouraged. I'm not interested in

> making him feel

> > > bad or hurting him but deep within me I just know

> this isn't

> > > normal. You'll have to forgive me I'm sure

> there's more

> > > information necessary to give here but I don't

> know what to

> > > add so please ask me questions and give me

> advise.

> > >

> > > Are there homeopathic things he can take? Are

> there things

> > > I can do? How do I broach this subject without

> crushing him?

> > > I want better for us and I know he's defensive,

> how could

> > > anyone not be? I know this must be hard for all

> of you so

> > > what did you guys do to recognize it? Last night

> he swore he

> > > was normal and healthy and that everything is in

> my head so

> > > how can I kindly show him once a month is not

> normal for a

> > > guy this young?

> > >

> > > Please help me and him and us. Thank you!!!

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > ------------------------------------

> > >

> > >

[Guest guest]

jbbooks1901 wrote:

>> He was surprised to hear what bicycling can do to the prostate and > that

this can effect other issues like the thyroid. This interested > him because

he's also trying to loose a little weight (not much)

>> and is having trouble with it.

>

> Hi,

>

> I didn't even think about the bicycling and the prostate...

>

> I take a saw palmetto cap every night for that... does he get up at night to

go P? especially more than once and/or every night?

There is also sleep apnea that can cause one to get up and go to the

bathroom once to several times at night. Sleep apnea causes cortisol to

rise as a response to lack of oxygen as well as adrenalin (fight or

flight response). The rise in these hormones increases kidney

production filling the bladder faster. After getting on a CPAP machine

for sleep apnea, my regular nightly trips to the bathroom almost

completely stopped and I usually have 1-2 glasses of water before I go

to bed.

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