Guest guest Posted December 12, 2008 Report Share Posted December 12, 2008 My husband's testosterone level is 200 and for the lab he got tested at, he said the levels are 183-813. The doctor said TRT would make him sterile. On the other hand, he has no sex drive with such low testosterone. So it seems like I have to choose between either sex or kids, and can't have both? My marriage of one year is unconsummated because he never gets worked up enough during sex. Is the cause likely to be psychological? my husband is in denial and keeps blaming me for causing relationship stress which is leading to non-performance in bed. How plausible is that? I read somewhere that the cause for male sexual dysfunction is almost always physical. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 13, 2008 Report Share Posted December 13, 2008 Hi Sally, Often emotional issues go along with hormonal issues. Look at the changes women go through with post partum imbalances and menopause, they become different people. I was very low in testosterone and much more emotional than I am now. Your husband most likely has been very low hormone all his life. He cannot perform sexually and could never participate in " locker room talk " with other guys about sexual conquests, etc. So he has this very deep cover psychologically makes all manor of excuses for his inability to perform in the bedroom. I am sure that if you compare stories with your girlfriends about the men in their life, the typical guy in his early 30's is extremely sexual, wanting sex many times a week. Your guy needs lots of help both from a counselor and doctor, I don't think you are being unreasonable. You cannot be expected to flush your life away. You would like an active sex life and children. While you are still young you are marketable and you can find a great guy with no kids. You don't want to be 50 and looking for a replacement husband, all the guys are divorced with children and child support payments. If you were my daughter I would tell you to give him six months. Either he shows --->GREAT<--- progress with his counseling and doctor visits and meeting your desires.....or you walk. No one could blame you....and if they do....tough for them. Neil whenharry_metsally wrote: > > My husband's testosterone level is 200 and for the lab he got tested > at, he said the levels are 183-813. The doctor said TRT would make him > sterile. On the other hand, he has no sex drive with such low > testosterone. So it seems like I have to choose between either sex or > kids, and can't have both? My marriage of one year is unconsummated > because he never gets worked up enough during sex. > > Is the cause likely to be psychological? my husband is in denial and > keeps blaming me for causing relationship stress which is leading to > non-performance in bed. How plausible is that? I read somewhere that > the cause for male sexual dysfunction is almost always physical. > > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > > No virus found in this incoming message. > Checked by AVG. > Version: 7.5.552 / Virus Database: 270.9.17/1846 - Release Date: 12/12/2008 6:59 PM > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 13, 2008 Report Share Posted December 13, 2008 whenharry_metsally wrote: > My husband's testosterone level is 200 and for the lab he got tested > at, he said the levels are 183-813. The doctor said TRT would make him > sterile. On the other hand, he has no sex drive with such low > testosterone. So it seems like I have to choose between either sex or > kids, and can't have both? My marriage of one year is unconsummated > because he never gets worked up enough during sex. > > Is the cause likely to be psychological? my husband is in denial and > keeps blaming me for causing relationship stress which is leading to > non-performance in bed. How plausible is that? I read somewhere that > the cause for male sexual dysfunction is almost always physical. He needs to take personal responsibility for this. But, I also disagree that male sexual dysfunction is always physical. When my T was 140 in my mid 30s, the only limits on my performance was relationship limits and I was at the end of having the 6 children my wife and I had planned on. I also had very very very low normal T in my mid 20s. In retrospect, today, I would insist that my doctors do something about it knowing what I know now since I believe that low testosterone contributed to a heart attack in my mid 40s along with many many almost blocked arteries. -- Steve - dudescholar4@... Take World's Smallest Political Quiz at http://www.theadvocates.org/quiz.html " If a thousand old beliefs were ruined on our march to truth we must still march on. " --Stopford Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 13, 2008 Report Share Posted December 13, 2008 Hi, at 200 it's no wonder he's not horny! if it was me (ymmv I'm not a doctor) -I- would start 1/2cc of testosterone enthanate(sp? about 125mg... yea a SHOT... but not hard, I do mine in my thighs alternating each week) a week (on thursday am so he's " peaking " saturday/sunday when a couple might have a little more time on their hands) with 1/4mg of arimidex eod to control e2. if you want to get a little fancier (and have a better shot at fertility) add 250iu of HCG on tues and wed (assuming he sticks the test on thursday). I can get blood work through my local medical school... but you don't REALLY have to have a doctors order to get tests done and there are several places online that'll set that up. a zinc supplement would be a good addition too (I just do a calcium, magnesium, zinc tab) and a tab of arginine every afternoon. that should pick up his libido -significantly-... and may or may not make him temporarily sterile... lots of kids have been conceived by guys on steroid cycles. there are alternatives... there are some doing 1mg of arimidex a day and no test... some doing HCG and arimidex... or hcg, aromasin, and novaldex... and I believe somebody on the board is doing clomid with some success. > > My husband's testosterone level is 200 and for the lab he got tested > at, he said the levels are 183-813. The doctor said TRT would make him > sterile. On the other hand, he has no sex drive with such low > testosterone. So it seems like I have to choose between either sex or > kids, and can't have both? My marriage of one year is unconsummated > because he never gets worked up enough during sex. > > Is the cause likely to be psychological? my husband is in denial and > keeps blaming me for causing relationship stress which is leading to > non-performance in bed. How plausible is that? I read somewhere that > the cause for male sexual dysfunction is almost always physical. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 14, 2008 Report Share Posted December 14, 2008 I cannot comment on testosterone levels, " Sally " , but I use Alprostadil injections and have since 1994. Ask your husband to get his doctor to prescribe CAVERJECT or whatever you have in your country. It works for me, and should work for him irrespective of his testosterone levels. You want him to have a nice erection? Then Alprostadil will do that for him. What made me say " Is he gay? " in my last message, is because I believe that no totally heterosexual man will have erection problems and he cannot blame you or " relationship stress " for his inability to perform. There is an underlying reason. I was gay for 25 years before I got married 19 years ago. I have only needed injections for the past 14 years, and it works for me. I cannot see any reason why Alprostadil will not work for him too. He must simply get his Urologist to prescribe the dose. He doesn't need an erection that lasts for 4 hours, although you may enjoy it <wink>! Please let us know what happens. 2008/12/13 whenharry_metsally <whenharry_metsally@...> > My husband's testosterone level is 200 and for the lab he got tested > at, he said the levels are 183-813. The doctor said TRT would make him > sterile. On the other hand, he has no sex drive with such low > testosterone. So it seems like I have to choose between either sex or > kids, and can't have both? My marriage of one year is unconsummated > because he never gets worked up enough during sex. > > Is the cause likely to be psychological? my husband is in denial and > keeps blaming me for causing relationship stress which is leading to > non-performance in bed. How plausible is that? I read somewhere that > the cause for male sexual dysfunction is almost always physical. > > > -- ------------------------------------- Ian Samson, Johannesburg, ZA --------------------------------------- " an ounce of performance is worth a ton of promises " --------------------------------------- " the road to hell is paved with good intentions " --------------------------------------- Governments are like diapers. They have to be changed often and for the same reason. --------------------------------------- We speak English and understand American! ---------------------------------------- " American English " is a contradiction in terms! ---------------------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 14, 2008 Report Share Posted December 14, 2008 I cannot comment on testosterone levels, " Sally " , but I use Alprostadil injections and have since 1994. Ask your husband to get his doctor to prescribe CAVERJECT or whatever you have in your country. It works for me, and should work for him irrespective of his testosterone levels. You want him to have a nice erection? Then Alprostadil will do that for him. What made me say " Is he gay? " in my last message, is because I believe that no totally heterosexual man will have erection problems and he cannot blame you or " relationship stress " for his inability to perform. There is an underlying reason. I was gay for 25 years before I got married 19 years ago. I have only needed injections for the past 14 years, and it works for me. I cannot see any reason why Alprostadil will not work for him too. He must simply get his Urologist to prescribe the dose. He doesn't need an erection that lasts for 4 hours, although you may enjoy it <wink>! Please let us know what happens. 2008/12/13 whenharry_metsally <whenharry_metsally@...> > My husband's testosterone level is 200 and for the lab he got tested > at, he said the levels are 183-813. The doctor said TRT would make him > sterile. On the other hand, he has no sex drive with such low > testosterone. So it seems like I have to choose between either sex or > kids, and can't have both? My marriage of one year is unconsummated > because he never gets worked up enough during sex. > > Is the cause likely to be psychological? my husband is in denial and > keeps blaming me for causing relationship stress which is leading to > non-performance in bed. How plausible is that? I read somewhere that > the cause for male sexual dysfunction is almost always physical. > > > -- ------------------------------------- Ian Samson, Johannesburg, ZA --------------------------------------- " an ounce of performance is worth a ton of promises " --------------------------------------- " the road to hell is paved with good intentions " --------------------------------------- Governments are like diapers. They have to be changed often and for the same reason. --------------------------------------- We speak English and understand American! ---------------------------------------- " American English " is a contradiction in terms! ---------------------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 14, 2008 Report Share Posted December 14, 2008 Yes TRT will make him sterile whilst he is on TRT but is usually reversible on stopping TRT providing pituitary gland is not permanently suppressed and Leydig cell function can be restored (unlikely to be able to return to baseline values if on TRT for many years though). Only way to preserve fertility whilst on TRT is to use hCG (LH analogue) - only 250-500U/l needed every 3 days and if this does not restore fertility hMG can be used (FSH analogue) but this is very expensive. If this does not work it is likely the testicles are not working properly for whatever reason. > > > > My husband's testosterone level is 200 and for the lab he got tested > > at, he said the levels are 183-813. The doctor said TRT would make him > > sterile. On the other hand, he has no sex drive with such low > > testosterone. So it seems like I have to choose between either sex or > > kids, and can't have both? My marriage of one year is unconsummated > > because he never gets worked up enough during sex. > > > > Is the cause likely to be psychological? my husband is in denial and > > keeps blaming me for causing relationship stress which is leading to > > non-performance in bed. How plausible is that? I read somewhere that > > the cause for male sexual dysfunction is almost always physical. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 14, 2008 Report Share Posted December 14, 2008 Maybe I'm picking up wrong here on comment below but to insinuate that if a straight man has ED he must be gay is absurd. Many physical and emotional problems can affect a man's potency - hormone imbalances, diabetes, stress etc > > I cannot comment on testosterone levels, " Sally " , but I use Alprostadil > injections and have since 1994. Ask your husband to get his doctor to > prescribe CAVERJECT or whatever you have in your country. It works for me, > and should work for him irrespective of his testosterone levels. You want > him to have a nice erection? Then Alprostadil will do that for him. What > made me say " Is he gay? " in my last message, is because I believe that no > totally heterosexual man will have erection problems and he cannot blame you > or " relationship stress " for his inability to perform. There is an > underlying reason. I was gay for 25 years before I got married 19 years ago. > I have only needed injections for the past 14 years, and it works for me. I > cannot see any reason why Alprostadil will not work for him too. He must > simply get his Urologist to prescribe the dose. He doesn't need an erection > that lasts for 4 hours, although you may enjoy it <wink>! > > Please let us know what happens. > > > 2008/12/13 whenharry_metsally <whenharry_metsally@...> > > > My husband's testosterone level is 200 and for the lab he got tested > > at, he said the levels are 183-813. The doctor said TRT would make him > > sterile. On the other hand, he has no sex drive with such low > > testosterone. So it seems like I have to choose between either sex or > > kids, and can't have both? My marriage of one year is unconsummated > > because he never gets worked up enough during sex. > > > > Is the cause likely to be psychological? my husband is in denial and > > keeps blaming me for causing relationship stress which is leading to > > non-performance in bed. How plausible is that? I read somewhere that > > the cause for male sexual dysfunction is almost always physical. > > > > > > > > > > -- > ------------------------------------- > Ian Samson, Johannesburg, ZA > --------------------------------------- > " an ounce of performance is worth a ton of promises " > --------------------------------------- > " the road to hell is paved with good intentions " > --------------------------------------- > Governments are like diapers. They have to be changed often and for the same > reason. > --------------------------------------- > We speak English and understand American! > ---------------------------------------- > " American English " is a contradiction in terms! > ---------------------------------------- > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 14, 2008 Report Share Posted December 14, 2008 I am not insinuating anything, Chris. 2008/12/14 chrisdl2008 <chrisdl2008@...> > Maybe I'm picking up wrong here on comment below but to insinuate > that if a straight man has ED he must be gay is absurd. Many physical > and emotional problems can affect a man's potency - hormone > imbalances, diabetes, stress etc > > > > > > > I cannot comment on testosterone levels, " Sally " , but I use > Alprostadil > > injections and have since 1994. Ask your husband to get his doctor > to > > prescribe CAVERJECT or whatever you have in your country. It works > for me, > > and should work for him irrespective of his testosterone levels. > You want > > him to have a nice erection? Then Alprostadil will do that for him. > What > > made me say " Is he gay? " in my last message, is because I believe > that no > > totally heterosexual man will have erection problems and he cannot > blame you > > or " relationship stress " for his inability to perform. There is an > > underlying reason. I was gay for 25 years before I got married 19 > years ago. > > I have only needed injections for the past 14 years, and it works > for me. I > > cannot see any reason why Alprostadil will not work for him too. He > must > > simply get his Urologist to prescribe the dose. He doesn't need an > erection > > that lasts for 4 hours, although you may enjoy it <wink>! > > > > Please let us know what happens. > > > > > > 2008/12/13 whenharry_metsally <whenharry_metsally@...> > > > > > My husband's testosterone level is 200 and for the lab he got > tested > > > at, he said the levels are 183-813. The doctor said TRT would > make him > > > sterile. On the other hand, he has no sex drive with such low > > > testosterone. So it seems like I have to choose between either > sex or > > > kids, and can't have both? My marriage of one year is > unconsummated > > > because he never gets worked up enough during sex. > > > > > > Is the cause likely to be psychological? my husband is in denial > and > > > keeps blaming me for causing relationship stress which is leading > to > > > non-performance in bed. How plausible is that? I read somewhere > that > > > the cause for male sexual dysfunction is almost always physical. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > -- > > ------------------------------------- > > Ian Samson, Johannesburg, ZA > > --------------------------------------- > > " an ounce of performance is worth a ton of promises " > > --------------------------------------- > > " the road to hell is paved with good intentions " > > --------------------------------------- > > Governments are like diapers. They have to be changed often and for > the same > > reason. > > --------------------------------------- > > We speak English and understand American! > > ---------------------------------------- > > " American English " is a contradiction in terms! > > ---------------------------------------- > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 15, 2008 Report Share Posted December 15, 2008 Ian I was referring to your comment below - certainly sounded that way as no point putting thoughts into a womans head that her husband might be gay just because he can't perform - no big deal though. What made me say " Is he gay? " in my last message, is because I believe that no totally heterosexual man will have erection problems and he cannot blame you or " relationship stress " for his inability to perform. There is an underlying reason. I was gay for 25 years before I got married 19 years ago. > > > > > > > > I cannot comment on testosterone levels, " Sally " , but I use > > Alprostadil > > > injections and have since 1994. Ask your husband to get his doctor > > to > > > prescribe CAVERJECT or whatever you have in your country. It works > > for me, > > > and should work for him irrespective of his testosterone levels. > > You want > > > him to have a nice erection? Then Alprostadil will do that for him. > > What > > > made me say " Is he gay? " in my last message, is because I believe > > that no > > > totally heterosexual man will have erection problems and he cannot > > blame you > > > or " relationship stress " for his inability to perform. There is an > > > underlying reason. I was gay for 25 years before I got married 19 > > years ago. > > > I have only needed injections for the past 14 years, and it works > > for me. I > > > cannot see any reason why Alprostadil will not work for him too. He > > must > > > simply get his Urologist to prescribe the dose. He doesn't need an > > erection > > > that lasts for 4 hours, although you may enjoy it <wink>! > > > > > > Please let us know what happens. > > > > > > > > > 2008/12/13 whenharry_metsally <whenharry_metsally@> > > > > > > > My husband's testosterone level is 200 and for the lab he got > > tested > > > > at, he said the levels are 183-813. The doctor said TRT would > > make him > > > > sterile. On the other hand, he has no sex drive with such low > > > > testosterone. So it seems like I have to choose between either > > sex or > > > > kids, and can't have both? My marriage of one year is > > unconsummated > > > > because he never gets worked up enough during sex. > > > > > > > > Is the cause likely to be psychological? my husband is in denial > > and > > > > keeps blaming me for causing relationship stress which is leading > > to > > > > non-performance in bed. How plausible is that? I read somewhere > > that > > > > the cause for male sexual dysfunction is almost always physical. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > -- > > > ------------------------------------- > > > Ian Samson, Johannesburg, ZA > > > --------------------------------------- > > > " an ounce of performance is worth a ton of promises " > > > --------------------------------------- > > > " the road to hell is paved with good intentions " > > > --------------------------------------- > > > Governments are like diapers. They have to be changed often and for > > the same > > > reason. > > > --------------------------------------- > > > We speak English and understand American! > > > ---------------------------------------- > > > " American English " is a contradiction in terms! > > > ---------------------------------------- > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 15, 2008 Report Share Posted December 15, 2008 chrisdl2008 wrote: > Ian > > I was referring to your comment below - certainly sounded that way as > no point putting thoughts into a womans head that her husband might > be gay just because he can't perform - no big deal though. > > > What made me say " Is he gay? " in my last message, is because I believe > that no totally heterosexual man will have erection problems and he This I'm certain is 100% inaccurate from the readings I've done. There are many reasons for ED that are not physical. There are of course many reasons that are physical in nature. Members on this list report ED problems with Low T and High E2. I've had both low T and high E2 and performance would never have been diagnostic. > cannot blame you or " relationship stress " for his inability to > perform. There is an underlying reason. I was gay for 25 years before > I got married 19 years ago. Relationships have their complexities and one side of the story is all we've seen and is the best we have when trying to provide advice from personal experience and information. -- Steve - dudescholar4@... Take World's Smallest Political Quiz at http://www.theadvocates.org/quiz.html " If a thousand old beliefs were ruined on our march to truth we must still march on. " --Stopford Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 15, 2008 Report Share Posted December 15, 2008 Just to throw a couple of pennies at this myself. I really believe that more than 50% of ED problems are psychological. I had very low T and could still get an erection. I just didn't want sex at all. It all depends on the individual. If a man had performance anxiety or is worried about experiencing ED then the likelihood of it actually happening is very high. Once it happens a psychological milestone is made and the ED continues. The PDE5 drugs will help these men. The problem is that the man will grow dependent on drugs he really doesn't need. This is another example of the medical community not treating the root cause of things. I understand that this isn't always possible but it's also a shame to think that many very virile men are popping pills to get an erection because they " think " they can't achieve one without them. > > Ian > > > > I was referring to your comment below - certainly sounded that way as > > no point putting thoughts into a womans head that her husband might > > be gay just because he can't perform - no big deal though. > > > > > > What made me say " Is he gay? " in my last message, is because I believe > > that no totally heterosexual man will have erection problems and he > > This I'm certain is 100% inaccurate from the readings I've done. There > are many reasons for ED that are not physical. There are of course many > reasons that are physical in nature. Members on this list report ED > problems with Low T and High E2. I've had both low T and high E2 and > performance would never have been diagnostic. > > > cannot blame you or " relationship stress " for his inability to > > perform. There is an underlying reason. I was gay for 25 years before > > I got married 19 years ago. > > Relationships have their complexities and one side of the story is all > we've seen and is the best we have when trying to provide advice from > personal experience and information. > > -- > > Steve - dudescholar4@... > > Take World's Smallest Political Quiz at > http://www.theadvocates.org/quiz.html > > " If a thousand old beliefs were ruined on our march > to truth we must still march on. " --Stopford > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 15, 2008 Report Share Posted December 15, 2008 Yes, to make sure the problem is not psychological, the urologist prescribed Viagra to get him over the psychological barrier. Denial of a problem on his part has led me to resent him, and that might cause him performance anxiety. Still I think the proper route to follow is to get the physical tests done, and then assume it is psychological. What do you think? Thank you for all your responses! I am now pestering my husband to see an endocrinologist. He is making excuses, like he needs a referral from the urologist, the urologist has not returned his calls, etc. Well, I will persevere until I can drag him to the doctor. I need to accompany him because I am sure he will minimize the problem if he goes alone. Also, he says he is not sterile because he has semen. That doesn't make sense, does it? Even people with vasectomies have semen, I understand. What exact tests would I need to assess if the marriage can ever be consummated, and if I can have kids? Having kids (as well as having sex) is an important life goal for me, and I do not want to give up on that goal and give in to my husband's denial. Thanks, Sally > > > Ian > > > > > > I was referring to your comment below - certainly sounded that way as > > > no point putting thoughts into a womans head that her husband might > > > be gay just because he can't perform - no big deal though. > > > > > > > > > What made me say " Is he gay? " in my last message, is because I believe > > > that no totally heterosexual man will have erection problems and he > > > > This I'm certain is 100% inaccurate from the readings I've done. There > > are many reasons for ED that are not physical. There are of course > many > > reasons that are physical in nature. Members on this list report ED > > problems with Low T and High E2. I've had both low T and high E2 and > > performance would never have been diagnostic. > > > > > cannot blame you or " relationship stress " for his inability to > > > perform. There is an underlying reason. I was gay for 25 years before > > > I got married 19 years ago. > > > > Relationships have their complexities and one side of the story is all > > we've seen and is the best we have when trying to provide advice from > > personal experience and information. > > > > -- > > > > Steve - dudescholar4@ > > > > Take World's Smallest Political Quiz at > > http://www.theadvocates.org/quiz.html > > > > " If a thousand old beliefs were ruined on our march > > to truth we must still march on. " --Stopford > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 15, 2008 Report Share Posted December 15, 2008 Hi Sally, No doubt he has physical problems, but I also guarantee he has psych problems as well. From the time a guy is about 13 we dream of sex with girls/women, I had wild vivid dreams every night! He has 20 years of unable to perform since puberty, he has not had successful intercourse in 20 years! That will take a severe psychological toll on any guy. He has an incredible " wall " of denial built up around him, that's why you have such a cat fight on your hands. I would recommend an anti-aging or D.O. type of doctor. Endo's are an extremely POOR choice, the worst choice. They will tell him he is " a little low " and prescribe Prozac. Been there, done that. I have seen many dozens of endo horror stories both here and on the thyroid and other hormone replacement boards. I would recommend couples counseling for both of you, he needs to open up. He is not open and honest with you, your guy is The Great Wall of China. I would recommend counseling for you alone as well, your future is important with or without him and must be explored. Notice that you, the wife, is here seeking help. He is not here seeking help. :-) Please keep us posted, I need closure! Neil whenharry_metsally wrote: > > Yes, to make sure the problem is not psychological, the urologist > prescribed Viagra to get him over the psychological barrier. Denial of > a problem on his part has led me to resent him, and that might cause > him performance anxiety. Still I think the proper route to follow is > to get the physical tests done, and then assume it is psychological. > What do you think? > > Thank you for all your responses! I am now pestering my husband to see > an endocrinologist. He is making excuses, like he needs a referral > from the urologist, the urologist has not returned his calls, etc. > Well, I will persevere until I can drag him to the doctor. I need to > accompany him because I am sure he will minimize the problem if he > goes alone. > > Also, he says he is not sterile because he has semen. That doesn't > make sense, does it? Even people with vasectomies have semen, I > understand. > > What exact tests would I need to assess if the marriage can ever be > consummated, and if I can have kids? Having kids (as well as having > sex) is an important life goal for me, and I do not want to give up on > that goal and give in to my husband's denial. > > Thanks, > Sally > > > > > > Ian > > > > > > > > I was referring to your comment below - certainly sounded that > way as > > > > no point putting thoughts into a womans head that her husband might > > > > be gay just because he can't perform - no big deal though. > > > > > > > > > > > > What made me say " Is he gay? " in my last message, is because I > believe > > > > that no totally heterosexual man will have erection problems and he > > > > > > This I'm certain is 100% inaccurate from the readings I've done. > There > > > are many reasons for ED that are not physical. There are of course > > many > > > reasons that are physical in nature. Members on this list report ED > > > problems with Low T and High E2. I've had both low T and high E2 and > > > performance would never have been diagnostic. > > > > > > > cannot blame you or " relationship stress " for his inability to > > > > perform. There is an underlying reason. I was gay for 25 years > before > > > > I got married 19 years ago. > > > > > > Relationships have their complexities and one side of the story is > all > > > we've seen and is the best we have when trying to provide advice from > > > personal experience and information. > > > > > > -- > > > > > > Steve - dudescholar4@ > > > > > > Take World's Smallest Political Quiz at > > > http://www.theadvocates.org/quiz.html > <http://www.theadvocates.org/quiz.html> > > > > > > " If a thousand old beliefs were ruined on our march > > > to truth we must still march on. " --Stopford > > > > > > > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > > No virus found in this incoming message. > Checked by AVG. > Version: 7.5.552 / Virus Database: 270.9.18/1849 - Release Date: 12/15/2008 9:01 AM > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 16, 2008 Report Share Posted December 16, 2008 When you get him in front of the endo, tell him/her you want your husband's testosterone AND estrogen levels blood tested. I would bet his ratio of T to E is way off, because his T level has to be around 200 or so if he can manage only partial erections. He is going to be amazed how much better, both mentally and physically, he will feel when he gets his T level up to " normal " . Poor bastard is lucky to have you for his wife and drag him in ! norton Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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