Now that erections are a sure deal, how to get the wife to make use of them :-}

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> I agree with you 100% on pleasing your wife.

Hi,

good!

the old line of " if momma ain't happy nobody is happy " has the flip

side... so make sure she's as happy as possible

> I have a question though. A second or third time isn't much of a

> problem for me, but I find they really don't feel that great,

> compared to the first time.

yea the first time IS often the best...

you've got more to pump etc and that feels good.

you're also undoubtedly quicker. :-{

so quit worrying about YOU and see to it SHE comes 2+ times to your 1.

> So if you are going that often in a day does it

> really feel that good?

it can be GREAT... this last weekend for example the last time Sunday

afternoon (which counting from friday night was like joining #14) was

INCREDIBLE... a back to back double header so to speak and we ended up

collapsed in each others arms in bed after her 2nd O that time.

why?

wife was just very enthusiastic :-} she pounced on me in the computer

room with a back rub... and then had her way with me... :-}

she -knew- I could deliver and would be willing to do whatever it took

to get HER there.

a lot of guys here have gone -years- without being able to reliably

get an erection... and that can have a powerful negative impact on a

guys psyche...

and some guys are less than comfortable with other than traditional

penetrative sex so the wife/lover isn't getting off (as is her due,

she's your wife and pleasing her is a marital obligation) when there

is an erection failure because hubby isn't taking care of business.

(there has been more than one couple where she strayed because he'd

demand BJs but wouldn't reciprocate... why I don't know but LOTS of

guys " our age " just won't give their wife oral sex)

so their wives have come to expect non-performance and little or no

pleasure from sex.

and then there's not getting off with mr. minuteman... (who all so

often won't clear the brush, prepare the zone, and warm up the engines

either) so they won't initiate and are less than enthusiastic at the

proposition of love making...

but now that he's gotten his test levels good etc he's physically very

capable...

but their wives/lovers can still be " gun shy " ...

there have been so many failed attempts... (and that really is tough

on her psyche too... the " am I not sexy enough for him anymore? " thing)

with little pleasure for the wife/lover.

but I've turned that around...

I can... and I -WILL- do WHATEVER it takes to please HER...

I do not care if I get off.... really... it's a non-issue.

I care if SHE gets off, again and again (as a mere man we're all

handicapped that way... women are FAR more capable and she comes FAR

more times than I)...

the combination of ability (test UP, e2 down, etc) and the willingness

to focus on HER PLEASURE means I don't have to care about getting off...

trust me on this one...

once she learns that you can bring her to orgasm again and again

she'll use you like a sex toy! (and there's nothing wrong with

bringing in her favorite sex toys too... she can show you how to

" drive " and you'll learn things... and it gives you something fun to

do while you're recovering).

so no more " begging " for sex...

or " obligatory " just lying there sex...

but wild " porno " sex.

'cause SHE likes it.

and I'm more than happy to oblige her ;-}

think about it... if you'd been " obliging " your wife for 10 years

without any pleasure you'd be less than enthusiastic too...

so make sure SHE gets off... might take some doing... like getting her

to open up about what REALLY pleases her...

and more than a few multi-orgasmic sessions for her...

but she'll come to know that sex isn't a " maybe he can " thing... and

instead sex is a sure orgasm or two or three for her (how hardly

matters as long as you deliver it).

and btw... when I'm talking about making love for 7 hours I'm not

talking continuously (people had the same mistaken concept about

Sting)... sure there are breaks, time to snuggle, make-out/foreplay

(is it still foreplay if you've had sex already?), etc...but nobody

gets dressed ;-}

Take care of your wife's sexual needs and yours will be met. ;-}