Kids who are in pain hurt others

[Guest guest]

I am taking this behavioral analysis class and we are learning about

how people and animals who are hurting abuse others. Interestingly,

this is called " Evidence of Harm " . As a part of the online class, we

watch videos and my instructor used only one example - telling us

that if a child is physically abused, then he/she will lash out, and

be violent toward others as well. Here is my response:

This video was very disturbing to me because (last year) I had a son

who attacked me, others, and animals. He still lashes out at times,

but is mostly " recovered " from this behavior because we took out food

allergens that were causing gut inflammation and pain. We are a very

loving family and our child has NEVER suffered abuse.

When he was acting violently toward us and others, we implemented a

time-out procedure or would hold him, but nothing worked to curb the

attacking of us and others. Finally, after hours, days, and months

of research, I knew we had to decrease the immune reactions,

inflammation, and oxidative stress he was experiencing.

We put him on an anti-inflammatory diet using omega 3/6 oils and

eliminating hydrogenated fats and other foods that cause

inflammation. I started cooking all meals from home, from scratch

and took out all common allergens (gluten, casein, soy, MSG,

chocolate).

So my only concern is that you please, please PLEASE don't think that

because a kid is acting out toward others in a violent way, that it

means he/she is abused, because clearly there are other things that

can also cause pain for these children and from all my research I can

tell you gut inflammation is a BIG one.

So I leave you with this:

It might be that the child is physically abused, yes. It ALSO might

be that their violent behavior due to internal pain leads to abuse

because the parents CAN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE! (and trust me, it gets

bad because not only is your family rejected socially, but no methods

of behavior intervention/discipline techniques can cure internal

pain) Can't tell you how many times I had to lock myself in my room

and give myself a time-out because I couldn't take it anymore.

This video was a real eye-opener at the same time as it was

disturbing though because it explains why my son was hurting everyone

around him...I just wish would have mentioned that internal pain

is a factor too. Thank God I eased my son's pain because our

household is so much more peaceful now.