Molestation of Women and Dstorted Gender Perception

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Friends,

I present a live case before u. It started with my putting forth a small

statement- " " A Lt General accused of molesting a Colonel's wife is thrown out of

Army. Ye kya ho raha hai? " on the social networking site Facebook.

To this there were different answers but the one that really

stunned me was from a friend whose view was that- " No man can molest a woman,

and that too a married woman of force ... NEVER , without her willing consent " .

He also says that - " I have always observed ... that this

type of stupid behaviour is common in love affairs " .

It is this statement by an otherwise learned and sober person that I

want to present before you all for discussion and opinion making. To me the

person who made the statement is not important, nor is my idea to criticize him

or to dissect his background.

To me what really matters is the fact that even today,

in the 21st Century, there is a male perception that goes on to say that

molestation of a woman (particularly a married woman) is not possible (without

her consent).

If slightly extended this statement comes to mean that molestation,

rape and such other lurid and heinous crimes against women are simply

not possible as long as the women are not a party to it.

ly I not only completely disagree with this statement but also find it

absolutely sickening.

And also terrifying. Terrifying because it is this kind of male mind-set that is

responsible for many heinous and dangerous crimes against women go completely

unheard and unpunished.

What this gentleman is saying might as well be the mental thought process of the

Judge or the Magistrate who has been given

the responsibility of delivering Justice.

And if the person has already made a presumption that there can't be a crime of

this nature against a woman (more so in the case

of married women), then one can understand what kind of justice is the woman

going to get from the concerned court.

We have seen the dramatic version of these situations in the celebrated film

" Damini " where " Taarikh pe taarikh " could not give justice to the raped woman

till the very end.

We also know of such widely discussed cases on rape like the Mathura rape case

and Bhanwari Devi case where victim had to pass through such insulting times

even in the law courts that it led to

great revolt and resistance by the women activists from all over India.

But it seems that no change of law and regulations on Rape has been able to

actually change the deep-rooted antipathy of this kind of people for whom women

are nothing more than a plaything.

If what these people say is true then what is the need of any law on

Rape? Why have different sections on women abuse and molestation?

I am not commenting at all on the case related with the Lt Genera in the Army

where he lost his job due to the allegations made by a Colonel's wife.

Each case is different and must be treated so. I also don't say that women don't

feign wrong abuse.

In my husband Amitabh ji's policing career, I have myself come across such

cases where it was clear that the woman is making false accusations.

I remember a case in Gagaha police station in Gorakhpur, when my husband was

very new in the service and after a raid that he had conducted, the woman whom

they had arrested with weapons had made written accusations of rape against

10-12 police officers, except luckily my husband.

The matter got exposed within a day or two but it had given my husband a lot of

mental harassment.

But then to sweepingly generalize such a statement is really too much.

In my opinion it shows the poor mental outlook and extremely biased world view

of many of the male folk.

It also gives the reason why still justice is being denied to one half of the

human population in such a large measure.

I as a social activist and a gender-rights activist not only strongly

condemn such wrongly-placed mental outlook but also consider them extremely

dangerous for the proper development and functioning of human society in a just

manner.

I know that such a statement by an individual is not really important, what

actually counts is the overall gender perception. And this statement somehow

seems to represent the same distorted gender perception

Dr Nutan Thakur,

Secretary, IRDS,

Lucknow

India

# 94155-34525

e-mail: <nutanthakurlko@...>