Sex in the City

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Sex in the City

Cadence Mandybura, 08 Dec 2009

While it's difficult for anyone to truly assess how adventurous couples might be

behind closed doors, most seem to think that not only do Chennaiites experiment

just as much as any other city, but such experimentation is nothing new.

" I think people are already experimenting in the bedroom, and people are more

open to their affectionate tendencies, " says musician Sanjeev . Niladri

Bose, radio professional says, " I am very sure that we are not conservative in

Chennai. We have practised sex for thousands of years and are extremely

creative in everything we do. I believe that people are not that open to saying

things like `We did the doggy last night' or `We tried position 43', but certain

groups and communities probably do find their space to discuss these sorts of

things. "

Where the conservatism shows through is not in how people act in the privacy of

their own bedrooms but how openly kinky sex may be discussed in public. " I think

very few people are opening up, " asserts a Niranjini, a director. " Chennai

is a decade behind other cities. Some people are opening up here, though, mostly

because of independent thinking although influences from abroad also play a

role. "

Magdalene Jeyarathnam, founder and director of the Centre for Counselling, notes

that the awareness of HIV over the past ten years has opened up discussion about

sex and pleasure. At the same time, " Talking about issues like sex toys is still

very hush-hush, and there is an assumption that those who interested in these

things are also promiscuous. "

It's possible that Chennai's stereotype of being traditional in fact encourages

racy sex. " There is an old guard with more traditional views, " says consultant

Jayraj Rau. " Parents still haven't been taught how to speak about sex with their

children. But there is a younger generation who are broad-minded, and the trend

towards open-mindedness is definitely a good thing. Strong, negative taboos can

make people obsess over sex in a negative way. " Sanjeev reaches similar

conclusions and shares, " Because of tradition people are less open about sex,

but I think this probably leads to more experimentation, as the forbidden is

always more appealing. "

Magdalene, however, takes a different stance: " Because Chennai is known as

`conservative' and `traditional', there is an assumption that we are sexually

repressed. On the contrary, Chennai is very broad-minded when it comes to

sexuality, being open to LGBT issues and even running regular columns about

sexuality in major newspapers. That is simply amazing. "

Although opinion is somewhat diverse, one way or another Chennai is progressing.

Keep your eyes peeled for a new toy shop.

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