Re: A Case Agansit Live-In Relations

[Guest guest]

Dear Dr. Nutan Thakur,

Greetings,

Re: /message/11927

I went through your article and felt it real eye opener. You discussed most of

the aspects of a co habitation(So called live in relation ship).

I am deadly against of such kind of arrangements. I always see the women

surprisingly who go for this kind of relationship and belives these uncertain

relationships.

I am extremely sorry if I am bit harsh, but I think these kind of

arrangements are the innovative methods of exploitation of women .

Because at the end of these relationships the social image of a man remain

intact while women suffers a lot. This is my personal thought and it is not

necessosary, that every one will agree with it.

But in short I would like to oppose Live in Relationship, because it is highly

based on Gender discrimination.

Few of my female friends are living in relation ship. I always saw a sence of

insecurity in those females while men feel Ok.

I would like to request to review the impacts of breakage of a Live in

relation ship on a women. I think it can open many eyes. Since I always see the

women suffering and have a great concern about the social image of those women

and impacts of breakage of such relationships.

*I am again very sorry if any of my feeling herts any body in any way but there

is an extreme need to oppose such relationships in favour of women and promote

the institution of marriege to avoid the emotional, social, economical and

health hazards of our innocent women and children born in such relationships.*

Regards,

Dr. Arshad

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Dr. Mohd. Arshad Siddiqui

9412998066

diba_arsh@...

[Guest guest]

Dear Development Professional(s),

Re: /message/11927

I am surprised to find that one is  vehemently against " any such type

of arrangements " without offering an inclusive appproach to a different

lifestyle in which securty can definitely be and must be provided under the

'Domestic violence Act' and other legal and social provisions.

" Maitri Karar " successfully institutionlized several decades back in the

western state(s) of India could secure many of the pertinent issues. Careful

concern for gender equity has been esnured on more than one occasions even in

such 'avant garde' institution/relationship.

If we are right handed, we must not be judgemental about southpaws and should

try to develop ambidextrous perspectives.

Sanctified and glorified institution of marriage does not necessarily guarantee

obviation of explotative and abusive relationship and is definitely incapable of

providing safe expression of personal choices and orientations.

Regards nad best wishes,

R.Gopal.

 

e-mail: <dr_rajeshg@...>

[Guest guest]

Dear All,

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As I have seen respected people pouring in their views so, I thought being an

activist and unapologetically feminist I should put in my view on

live-in-relationship.

' We' talk about women's rights, equality and women being equal and par with

men. And the same 'We' talk about women being innocent victims of exploitation,

image of women being spoilt in the society, etc etc.

Today's women take charge of their lives and decide for herself what she wants.

She is empowered enough to choose what she feels is right. At times what we

choose or decide might work good for other people but might not be appropriate

for us. So, the onus and responsibility is ours and we can't blame others for

it.

In short we should stop being preachers and moral science teachers. My sexuality

is my business and if I choose to live with my partner by rejecting orthodox

patriarchal norms than why other should have a problem.

Why women has to be at the receiving end? We only give term like " Bechari &

Abla " to women, worship them as Goddess and brutalized them. I think men out

there need to change their attitude and stop teaching women what she should do

and don't.

Some of us in the society of both sexes seems to be threatened by these powerful

women who takes charge of their lives. So, they become self proclaimed guardians

of society, culture , traditions & morality.

I wonder which culture they talk about where girl child is mercilessly killed,

women being raped, women killed for dowry and at their own home treated as less

virtuous in compare to the male sibling etc etc.

Guys give us all a break and talk sense.

I understand we all have our democratic rights. But we should move ahead in

times and use this progressive forum for the sole purpose it meant for.

In Solidarity

Sumit Dutta

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e-mail: <sumitdutta78@...>

[Guest guest]

Dear AIDS INDIA,

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Thanks for floating this debatable issue and thanks to Dr.Thakur for raising

the debate and putting your views.

Marriage or any relationships are never perfect. One can only admit to oneself

this fact. Exlpoitation, discrimination and injustice are part of power

dynamics in any relationship- marital or extra marital

If we know the ultimate truth is continuous conciousness and through

relationships we come to experience this, we can be fine with any arrangements.

I do not favour any one of them but respect both and recognise that human

beings are designed to experience ultimate and need tool or anchor - marital or

extra marital, secret or spiritual .

Regards

Meenal

Meenal Mehta

e-mail: <Meenalmehta@...>

[Guest guest]

Dear Dr. Rajesh Gopal,

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Good to see your comments directed to " Development professionals.

It takes time for even " developmental professionals " to grow up!

Many of them are in the HIV FIELD believing that it is just another

health issue!

As you indicated the HIV activism need to address developmental professionals as

well.

In Solidarity

Tito

Calicut

e-mail: <titothomas123@...>