Guest guest Posted April 15, 2006 Report Share Posted April 15, 2006 Hi Jayson, I'm sorry. That is a low blow from someone you supported through hodgkins. I suspect you are stronger than her. She sounds like a coward. You'll make it. best wishes, marti > > Hi guys, > > I haven't posted in a while. My wife has asked me for a divorce. She says my limitations physically because of the PA and MS are too much for her (after 9 years of marriage!!!) and that she believes I will never be able to meet her needs in terms of being active. I'm absolutely devastated. I believed in my marriage vows. Nursed her through Hodgkins disease...aaaaahhhh. She is using the " we are both going in 2 different directions " thing on me. She says the PA and MS are different than her cancer because the cancer was short-lived and these are for life...in terms of whether she can handle it. She's been having an emotional affair with someone from our cancer support group for 2 years. I didn't realize the extent of it until the day after she asked me for the divorce. I'm sure there's more to all of this. Like she just really wants her freedom...isn't in love with me... whatever it is she isn't saying, but it hurts so much to have her use my diseases against me. I can't control it. I would if I could. > > Jayson > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 15, 2006 Report Share Posted April 15, 2006 Jayson, I am so sorry and please know I am sending a hug. I know there is not much I can say but know you are not the only one this has happen to. Be strong and I believe she had this planned and your illness had nothing to do with it. She is just using it as a way out. Blessings are sent to you. Zoella " The only people to get even with are those who have helped you. " When He was on the cross....You was on His mind --------------------------------- Messenger with Voice. Make PC-to-Phone Calls to the US (and 30+ countries) for 2¢/min or less. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 15, 2006 Report Share Posted April 15, 2006 Oh, Jayson, I'm so sorry! If your wife doesn't want to be married, it's her problem. You had no control over what happened to your body. Maybe realizing you have physical limitations is too threatening to her...it may remind her of her own terror when she had cancer. There is life after divorce, but it's a tough time for anyone. Keep posting here. We really care about you. Ruth jbarsic@... wrote: Hi guys, I haven't posted in a while. My wife has asked me for a divorce. She says my limitations physically because of the PA and MS are too much for her (after 9 years of marriage!!!) and that she believes I will never be able to meet her needs in terms of being active. I'm absolutely devastated. I believed in my marriage vows. Nursed her through Hodgkins disease...aaaaahhhh. She is using the " we are both going in 2 different directions " thing on me. She says the PA and MS are different than her cancer because the cancer was short-lived and these are for life...in terms of whether she can handle it. She's been having an emotional affair with someone from our cancer support group for 2 years. I didn't realize the extent of it until the day after she asked me for the divorce. I'm sure there's more to all of this. Like she just really wants her freedom...isn't in love with me... whatever it is she isn't saying, but it hurts so much to have her use my diseases against me. I can't control it. I would if I could. Jayson Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 16, 2006 Report Share Posted April 16, 2006 Hiya , My heart goes out to you, it really does. You have so much to cope with already and now this. Try to see it as a blessing in disguise, hard I know, but when one chapter closes in our life another one opens for us. So many people now do not respect the marriage vows they make, its all to easy to give up when the going gets tough and look elsewhere, society now has made it that way. Although your hurting right now (understandable) it will come to pass, you don't want someone to be with you just to nurse you or to feel sorry for you anyway, you want them there for their love and understanding, you want them there because they want to be there. The best thing you can give yourself when a relationship breaks down is TIME. Things will get better. My thoughts are with you. Gentle hugs. Love and light Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 16, 2006 Report Share Posted April 16, 2006 Marti -- I couldn't agree more. She is showing cowardice I didn't know was in her. I'm stronger than I thought. Man...I took my marriage vows very seriously. Very. I'm sad to see she didn't. Thanks to everyone for your support. Jayson >From: snowbound22003 <mlw402@...> >Date: Sat Apr 15 21:49:49 CDT 2006 > >Subject: [ ] Re: OT...kind of. >Hi Jayson, > > I'm sorry. That is a low blow from someone you supported through >hodgkins. I suspect you are stronger than her. She sounds like a >coward. You'll make it. > > best wishes, >marti Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 17, 2006 Report Share Posted April 17, 2006 I haven't posted in a while. My wife has asked me > for a divorce. Oh Jayson, I'm so sorry to hear about this, you're stress level must be off the charts. Our disease is tough enough to deal with, and now you have to go thru this too...I'll be remembering you in my prayers. warm blessings, jane __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 17, 2006 Report Share Posted April 17, 2006 SO SORRY Jayson to hear about the problems you are having. With this disease you definitly need someone who will be understanding to what you are going through, and someone that will stand by you no matter what. As a single 26 year old female I often wonder if I will ever find someone that will be able to deal with all the issues I face on a daily basis. Some people just don't want to put in that type of effort into a relationship. Its frusturating at times, but we will make it through. Just know that there are people who understand and care about what you are going through. Sending you a big hug and some compassion all the way from San ...... W. jbarsic@... wrote: Hi guys, I haven't posted in a while. My wife has asked me for a divorce. She says my limitations physically because of the PA and MS are too much for her (after 9 years of marriage!!!) and that she believes I will never be able to meet her needs in terms of being active. I'm absolutely devastated. I believed in my marriage vows. Nursed her through Hodgkins disease...aaaaahhhh. She is using the " we are both going in 2 different directions " thing on me. She says the PA and MS are different than her cancer because the cancer was short-lived and these are for life...in terms of whether she can handle it. She's been having an emotional affair with someone from our cancer support group for 2 years. I didn't realize the extent of it until the day after she asked me for the divorce. I'm sure there's more to all of this. Like she just really wants her freedom...isn't in love with me... whatever it is she isn't saying, but it hurts so much to have her use my diseases against me. I can't control it. I would if I could. Jayson Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 17, 2006 Report Share Posted April 17, 2006 Hi Jayson, Sorry to hear about what you're going through. I agree with the one who said time is what you will need to get through this. Take care of yourself. As we all know stress doesn't help this disease. But, look at it this way, you need someone who is going to be supportive of you - and evidently, sadly, she's not going to be. Which I think is pretty low. Jenn in Arkansas Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 17, 2006 Report Share Posted April 17, 2006 Jayson, I am so so sorry for your loss. I hope that you have other family to lean on during your time of need. Divorces are never easy, I know from experience. Take care! ~ jbarsic@... wrote: Hi guys, I haven't posted in a while. My wife has asked me for a divorce. She says my limitations physically because of the PA and MS are too much for her (after 9 years of marriage!!!) and that she believes I will never be able to meet her needs in terms of being active. I'm absolutely devastated. I believed in my marriage vows. Nursed her through Hodgkins disease...aaaaahhhh. She is using the " we are both going in 2 different directions " thing on me. She says the PA and MS are different than her cancer because the cancer was short-lived and these are for life...in terms of whether she can handle it. She's been having an emotional affair with someone from our cancer support group for 2 years. I didn't realize the extent of it until the day after she asked me for the divorce. I'm sure there's more to all of this. Like she just really wants her freedom...isn't in love with me... whatever it is she isn't saying, but it hurts so much to have her use my diseases against me. I can't control it. I would if I could. Jayson Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 18, 2006 Report Share Posted April 18, 2006 Jayson, I am so so sorry to hear this. I can't fathom your devastation. I wish you peace and strength to get through this.... Jody --- jbarsic@... wrote: > Hi guys, > > I haven't posted in a while. My wife has asked me > for a divorce. She says my limitations physically > because of the PA and MS are too much for her (after > 9 years of marriage!!!) and that she believes I will > never be able to meet her needs in terms of being > active. I'm absolutely devastated. I believed in > my marriage vows. Nursed her through Hodgkins > disease...aaaaahhhh. She is using the " we are both > going in 2 different directions " thing on me. She > says the PA and MS are different than her cancer > because the cancer was short-lived and these are for > life...in terms of whether she can handle it. She's > been having an emotional affair with someone from > our cancer support group for 2 years. I didn't > realize the extent of it until the day after she > asked me for the divorce. I'm sure there's more to > all of this. Like she just really wants her > freedom...isn't in love with me... whatever it is > she isn't saying, but it hurts so much to have her > use my diseases against me. I can't control it. I > would if I could. > > Jayson > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 8, 2006 Report Share Posted May 8, 2006 Hi Jayson: I am so sorry to hear this. Some of us are just by nature more giving than others, and less selfish. I hope you can meet someone else who is better for you. Hang in there.. Jeanette jbarsic@... wrote: Hi guys, I haven't posted in a while. My wife has asked me for a divorce. She says my limitations physically because of the PA and MS are too much for her (after 9 years of marriage!!!) and that she believes I will never be able to meet her needs in terms of being active. I'm absolutely devastated. I believed in my marriage vows. Nursed her through Hodgkins disease...aaaaahhhh. She is using the " we are both going in 2 different directions " thing on me. She says the PA and MS are different than her cancer because the cancer was short-lived and these are for life...in terms of whether she can handle it. She's been having an emotional affair with someone from our cancer support group for 2 years. I didn't realize the extent of it until the day after she asked me for the divorce. I'm sure there's more to all of this. Like she just really wants her freedom...isn't in love with me... whatever it is she isn't saying, but it hurts so much to have her use my diseases against me. I can't control it. I would if I could. Jayson Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 11, 2006 Report Share Posted May 11, 2006 Jayson, I am so sorry about your marriage breakup..My first husband divorced me too for similar reasons..I am remarried and my husband is the greatest!! You deserve someone who understands what for better for worse really means..I am like you there must be more to the story...And hey she better hope that hodgkins doesnt come back...because it very well could.. This is what I live by..hope it helps.. " I dont know what my future holds but I know who holds my future " I thank The Lord for seeing me thru so many things on my life.. Please write on here anytime you need to talk.. Hang in there and take care of yourself the best you can!! Sincerely, Vickey jbarsic@... wrote: Hi guys, I haven't posted in a while. My wife has asked me for a divorce. She says my limitations physically because of the PA and MS are too much for her (after 9 years of marriage!!!) and that she believes I will never be able to meet her needs in terms of being active. I'm absolutely devastated. I believed in my marriage vows. Nursed her through Hodgkins disease...aaaaahhhh. She is using the " we are both going in 2 different directions " thing on me. She says the PA and MS are different than her cancer because the cancer was short-lived and these are for life...in terms of whether she can handle it. She's been having an emotional affair with someone from our cancer support group for 2 years. I didn't realize the extent of it until the day after she asked me for the divorce. I'm sure there's more to all of this. Like she just really wants her freedom...isn't in love with me... whatever it is she isn't saying, but it hurts so much to have her use my diseases against me. I can't control it. I would if I could. Jayson Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2006 Report Share Posted May 25, 2006 In a message dated 17/04/2006 15:34:51 GMT Daylight Time, janekarsten@... writes: I haven't posted in a while. My wife has asked me > for a divorce. Hi Jayson, I was sorry to hear this. I hope that you are coping ok. You know everyone is here for you anyway. I know I am on a part-time basis just now but I'm here nevertheless. Take care, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2006 Report Share Posted May 25, 2006 Hi Jayson, so very sorry, Jeanette Re: [ ] OT...kind of. > > In a message dated 17/04/2006 15:34:51 GMT Daylight Time, > janekarsten@... writes: > > I haven't posted in a while. My wife has asked me >> for a divorce. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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