Re: child divorcing parent?

[Guest guest]

Oh boy, I am in a very similar, boat. Plese feel free to e-mail me privately

anytime

Hugs

Judy

________________________________

From: Diane <dkbmama@...>

Sent: Wed, January 13, 2010 1:29:39 PM

Subject: [ ] child divorcing parent?

 

I am wondering if anyone has dealt with their child divorcing the other parent

that doesnt believe that they are sick? Anyone deal with any of this? Might be

an option for us right now - as my 14 almost 15 year old is refusing to go to

her fathers house because all they do is yell and scream about everything and

she no longer wants to be part of his life - because of this he is now

questioning her illness and my parenting skills...... .....let alone her father

only started trying to have a relationship with her about a year ago because the

bar was always his place of habit!! She has lived with me and her step-dad for

over 12 1/2 years....... ....just wondering if others deal with this kind of

stuff - he is only making her hate him - so sad!!

[Guest guest]

Hi Diane --

As I understand it, there is no such thing as emancipation from just one

parent.  You are either a legal adult (I think as of age 16, actually) or you

are a dependent.  In your daughter's case, her situation would be handled as a

revision of custody proceedings.

So sorry you and she have to go through this.

Natasha

From: Diane <dkbmama@...>

Subject: [ ] child divorcing parent?

Date: Wednesday, January 13, 2010, 10:29 AM

 

I am wondering if anyone has dealt with their child divorcing the other

parent that doesnt believe that they are sick? Anyone deal with any of this?

Might be an option for us right now - as my 14 almost 15 year old is refusing to

go to her fathers house because all they do is yell and scream about everything

and she no longer wants to be part of his life - because of this he is now

questioning her illness and my parenting skills...... .....let alone her father

only started trying to have a relationship with her about a year ago because the

bar was always his place of habit!! She has lived with me and her step-dad for

over 12 1/2 years....... ....just wondering if others deal with this kind of

stuff - he is only making her hate him - so sad!!

[Guest guest]

Be careful as I have heard of CPS being called over Lymes treatment as

an abuse and it was awful for the family. I don't even know what the

outcome was. But essentially her father could take you to court over

her treatment if he doesn't believe in it. I would tell her not to

talk about it with him, just to keep quiet when he mentions it and

tell him she just doesn't want to talk about it right now.

Eventually, he may stop bugging her if she refuses to argue. And if

he asks you just tell him that she is getting better and leave it at

that. That's worked for me before.

Psychology will tell you if you want a behavior to stop... ignore it

and it will eventually stop due to the lack of attention rewarded.

Whether it's negative or positive attention does not matter.

Good luck,

Suzanne

On Jan 13, 2010, at 12:29 PM, Diane wrote:

> I am wondering if anyone has dealt with their child divorcing the

> other parent that doesnt believe that they are sick? Anyone deal

> with any of this? Might be an option for us right now - as my 14

> almost 15 year old is refusing to go to her fathers house because

> all they do is yell and scream about everything and she no longer

> wants to be part of his life - because of this he is now questioning

> her illness and my parenting skills...........let alone her father

> only started trying to have a relationship with her about a year ago

> because the bar was always his place of habit!! She has lived with

> me and her step-dad for over 12 1/2 years...........just wondering

> if others deal with this kind of stuff - he is only making her hate

> him - so sad!!

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

My son is 12 and his father thinks he is fine. We haven't been together since he

was 2. He thinks I am crazy for taking him to specialists and asking him for

money and he tells my son that it's all in my head and doesn't bother to give

him the expensive probiotics or the meds that I send him over there with...

I get it. It's really hard especially for the child in the middle.

Good luck..

Peace

>

> > I am wondering if anyone has dealt with their child

> divorcing the 

> > other parent that doesnt believe that they are sick?

> Anyone deal 

> > with any of this? Might be an option for us right now

> - as my 14 

> > almost 15 year old is refusing to go to her fathers

> house because 

> > all they do is yell and scream about everything and

> she no longer 

> > wants to be part of his life - because of this he is

> now questioning 

> > her illness and my parenting skills...........let

> alone her father 

> > only started trying to have a relationship with her

> about a year ago 

> > because the bar was always his place of habit!! She

> has lived with 

> > me and her step-dad for over 12 1/2

> years...........just wondering 

> > if others deal with this kind of stuff - he is only

> making her hate 

> > him - so sad!!

> >

> >

> >

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I would call a lawyer. It seems to be a custody issue to me. Depending on where

you live, a child stating they no longer want to live with another parent in

court can influence custody. He's also putting you child at risk by not giving

her the medicine she needs. Again this all depends on where you live and the way

this stuff is handled in your county. We have an insane president judge here, so

I would NEVER suggest this for our county. There are a lot of variables that

only a local attorney would know.

I do have a thought about her questioning her illness. When my daughter was 12

her LLMD sent a letter to her pediatrician to let her know about the diagnosis

and treatment. While we were at our next appt. with her pediatrician, she looked

at us and said the following, " I took an oath to do no harm. So I feel it is my

duty to tell you that there is no such thing as Cystic Lyme. " She then went on

to tell us that my daughter was being given a very strong ab that they only give

to adults in the ICU.

This woman had been my daughter's doctor for about 4 years by that time and we

saw her a lot and reallty liked her. At this point my daughter was on a very

strict diet, which cut out most of her favorite foods and she was taking a ton

of medicine. I was dreading what I expected would be the fallout from this

ignorant doctor's remarks. On the way to the car I asked her what she thought

about what the doc had just said. Thankfully, she said she knew the doc was

wrong because she was feeling better.

The point of this story is that hopefully your daughter feels better too and is

having to see doctors less often. She's old enough to look at the situation with

her health logically, perhaps with your help and see that she is benefitting not

only from her treatment but also your parenting. She's having an understandably

emotional reaction. It is sad that her father has not had the benefit of seeing

how sick she is or was. Is there any possibility that calm education about the

symptoms and treatment might help?

The first priority, I would think though, is making sure your daughter's health

doesn't get derailed because she starts to buy into his denial. The second would

be a lawyer for me. This has the potential to get ugly.

Good luck. This has to be a nightmare. It's hard enough just trying to deal with

our kids being sick and all we have to do to try to get them well, let alone

this garbage. I'm sorry you have to go through this. I say sarcastically, it's

part of the fun of dealing with Lyme. An ignorant society doesn't help either,

unfortunately. That's why a site like this can be really nice.

Annie

________________________________

From: Diane <dkbmama@...>

Sent: Wed, January 13, 2010 1:29:39 PM

Subject: [ ] child divorcing parent?

 

I am wondering if anyone has dealt with their child divorcing the other parent

that doesnt believe that they are sick? Anyone deal with any of this? Might be

an option for us right now - as my 14 almost 15 year old is refusing to go to

her fathers house because all they do is yell and scream about everything and

she no longer wants to be part of his life - because of this he is now

questioning her illness and my parenting skills...... .....let alone her father

only started trying to have a relationship with her about a year ago because the

bar was always his place of habit!! She has lived with me and her step-dad for

over 12 1/2 years....... ....just wondering if others deal with this kind of

stuff - he is only making her hate him - so sad!!

[Guest guest]

I second Annie's experience.  Our children had a doctor who sadly wrote out two

years of sick notes for " fibromyalgia " and bemoaned that there was nothing she

could do for our kid.  When we got Lyme dx and gave her the list of

antibiotics, she called especially to tell me it was " irresponsible " to give a

child these drugs.  I did not call back, and just went along as if she had

never said anything.  Next, she questioned the diagnosis of congenital lyme. 

I told her to read up on it in an article that Dr. Ann Corson wrote on the

subject, and then read back through their entire medical file starting at birth

and she would be able to correlate the symptoms, as I did and then her LLMD

did.  It is frustrating to have doctors who don't believe you.  It is

frustrating to have teachers, administrators, my parents, etc.  You have to

really be strong in your faith that your kid is getting better and will continue

to improve.  I can't imagine how much more

frustrating if I had to fight their dad on this.

I do think this is a custody issue, if you can do it that way.  Otherwise,

" don't ask, don't tell " might be the way to go -- have your kid at least take

the antibiotics and skip the probiotics when on a visitation if they are brief,

etc.

So sorry for your additional stress.

Hang in there.

Natasha

From: Annie <akannielm@...>

Subject: Re: [ ] child divorcing parent?

Date: Wednesday, January 13, 2010, 3:57 PM

 

I would call a lawyer. It seems to be a custody issue to me. Depending on

where you live, a child stating they no longer want to live with another parent

in court can influence custody. He's also putting you child at risk by not

giving her the medicine she needs. Again this all depends on where you live and

the way this stuff is handled in your county. We have an insane president judge

here, so I would NEVER suggest this for our county. There are a lot of variables

that only a local attorney would know.

I do have a thought about her questioning her illness. When my daughter was 12

her LLMD sent a letter to her pediatrician to let her know about the diagnosis

and treatment. While we were at our next appt. with her pediatrician, she looked

at us and said the following, " I took an oath to do no harm. So I feel it is my

duty to tell you that there is no such thing as Cystic Lyme. " She then went on

to tell us that my daughter was being given a very strong ab that they only give

to adults in the ICU.

This woman had been my daughter's doctor for about 4 years by that time and we

saw her a lot and reallty liked her. At this point my daughter was on a very

strict diet, which cut out most of her favorite foods and she was taking a ton

of medicine. I was dreading what I expected would be the fallout from this

ignorant doctor's remarks. On the way to the car I asked her what she thought

about what the doc had just said. Thankfully, she said she knew the doc was

wrong because she was feeling better.

The point of this story is that hopefully your daughter feels better too and is

having to see doctors less often. She's old enough to look at the situation with

her health logically, perhaps with your help and see that she is benefitting not

only from her treatment but also your parenting. She's having an understandably

emotional reaction. It is sad that her father has not had the benefit of seeing

how sick she is or was. Is there any possibility that calm education about the

symptoms and treatment might help?

The first priority, I would think though, is making sure your daughter's health

doesn't get derailed because she starts to buy into his denial. The second would

be a lawyer for me. This has the potential to get ugly.

Good luck. This has to be a nightmare. It's hard enough just trying to deal with

our kids being sick and all we have to do to try to get them well, let alone

this garbage. I'm sorry you have to go through this. I say sarcastically, it's

part of the fun of dealing with Lyme. An ignorant society doesn't help either,

unfortunately. That's why a site like this can be really nice.

Annie

____________ _________ _________ __

From: Diane <dkbmama (DOT) com>

Sent: Wed, January 13, 2010 1:29:39 PM

Subject: [ ] child divorcing parent?

 

I am wondering if anyone has dealt with their child divorcing the other parent

that doesnt believe that they are sick? Anyone deal with any of this? Might be

an option for us right now - as my 14 almost 15 year old is refusing to go to

her fathers house because all they do is yell and scream about everything and

she no longer wants to be part of his life - because of this he is now

questioning her illness and my parenting skills...... .....let alone her father

only started trying to have a relationship with her about a year ago because the

bar was always his place of habit!! She has lived with me and her step-dad for

over 12 1/2 years....... ....just wondering if others deal with this kind of

stuff - he is only making her hate him - so sad!!

[Guest guest]

Hi,

 I have been having this problem also. I have two daughters(ages 14 and

13) with my ex . They don't want to see him . He was a regular part of their

life since last September.He then got remarried and literally CHOSE his new wife

over our girls.(than my daughter came out with some things that he did to her in

the past) (another long story)

Be careful, becasue if you don't encourage the visits, you can be in contempt of

court. We have joint legal custody, but I have done 100% of the parenting and

have made all decisions regarding the girls, since day one.

 I went to an attorney, who said that he cannot FORCE them to go. They have a

say, and if they have a good reason not to see him they don't have to go.

If things get nasty, and my ex files contempt on me , I have to get an attorney

as well as seperate ones for the girls. this would cost over $7,500. 

Get to them botttom of the whole story and find out everything you can from your

daughter. There may be more reasons she isn't telling you about.Than again, the

fact he just came into her life after so long is a reason in itself besides

everything else.

Hugs

Judy

________________________________

From: Annie <akannielm@...>

Sent: Wed, January 13, 2010 6:57:46 PM

Subject: Re: [ ] child divorcing parent?

 

I would call a lawyer. It seems to be a custody issue to me. Depending on where

you live, a child stating they no longer want to live with another parent in

court can influence custody. He's also putting you child at risk by not giving

her the medicine she needs. Again this all depends on where you live and the way

this stuff is handled in your county. We have an insane president judge here, so

I would NEVER suggest this for our county. There are a lot of variables that

only a local attorney would know.

I do have a thought about her questioning her illness. When my daughter was 12

her LLMD sent a letter to her pediatrician to let her know about the diagnosis

and treatment. While we were at our next appt. with her pediatrician, she looked

at us and said the following, " I took an oath to do no harm. So I feel it is my

duty to tell you that there is no such thing as Cystic Lyme. " She then went on

to tell us that my daughter was being given a very strong ab that they only give

to adults in the ICU.

This woman had been my daughter's doctor for about 4 years by that time and we

saw her a lot and reallty liked her. At this point my daughter was on a very

strict diet, which cut out most of her favorite foods and she was taking a ton

of medicine. I was dreading what I expected would be the fallout from this

ignorant doctor's remarks. On the way to the car I asked her what she thought

about what the doc had just said. Thankfully, she said she knew the doc was

wrong because she was feeling better.

The point of this story is that hopefully your daughter feels better too and is

having to see doctors less often. She's old enough to look at the situation with

her health logically, perhaps with your help and see that she is benefitting not

only from her treatment but also your parenting. She's having an understandably

emotional reaction. It is sad that her father has not had the benefit of seeing

how sick she is or was. Is there any possibility that calm education about the

symptoms and treatment might help?

The first priority, I would think though, is making sure your daughter's health

doesn't get derailed because she starts to buy into his denial. The second would

be a lawyer for me. This has the potential to get ugly.

Good luck. This has to be a nightmare. It's hard enough just trying to deal with

our kids being sick and all we have to do to try to get them well, let alone

this garbage. I'm sorry you have to go through this. I say sarcastically, it's

part of the fun of dealing with Lyme. An ignorant society doesn't help either,

unfortunately. That's why a site like this can be really nice.

Annie

____________ _________ _________ __

From: Diane <dkbmama (DOT) com>

Sent: Wed, January 13, 2010 1:29:39 PM

Subject: [ ] child divorcing parent?

 

I am wondering if anyone has dealt with their child divorcing the other parent

that doesnt believe that they are sick? Anyone deal with any of this? Might be

an option for us right now - as my 14 almost 15 year old is refusing to go to

her fathers house because all they do is yell and scream about everything and

she no longer wants to be part of his life - because of this he is now

questioning her illness and my parenting skills...... .....let alone her father

only started trying to have a relationship with her about a year ago because the

bar was always his place of habit!! She has lived with me and her step-dad for

over 12 1/2 years....... ....just wondering if others deal with this kind of

stuff - he is only making her hate him - so sad!!

[Guest guest]

Thank you everyone - it's just so overwhelming isnt it!!

When she is at her Dad's his girlfriend yells and screams all the time - either

at each other or she yells and screams at her son who is the same age as my

daughter.  They do not let that poor boy who is 14 years old have any friends

over or let him do anyting with any friends - he has so much pain and hate built

up in him for his mother...........her dad's girlfriend runs the show and it is

her house that her dad lives in - all I asked is if the 10% that she is there to

have fun - no stress - no screaming and yelling and make it as enjoyable as

possible as she doesn't care for them very much in the first place - they had so

many chances to make it a great experience - but they didn't - and they don't

care what Sam feels about it - it's all about them.........she when she goes

over to his house for the last month before she stopped all she did was hide in

her room -

Because of our condition and because already has JRA and IBS two auto

immune conditions we try very hard to live a life as stress free as we can -

learned not to sweat the small stuff so to say - as you all know what stress

does to us - but they dont care - they say she just has to learn how to handle

stress - that's the way it is - no understanding on first we have to get her to

a healthy point and then sure she and her body will be able to handle more - he

is more like well I grew up on a farm and had brothers and sisters we were never

allowed to complain...............oh well, have to talk to my lawyer this

morning.....why does anyone just care about them-self and not ever put there

child first - and do what is right for there child??  Tells people that I just

want to be my childs friend not her mother - she is almost 15 and we have been

through so much - he has no clue - and this is a bad thing to get along with

your child especially at 15

years old??  Am I just off my rocker?  I want him to have some placement -

but, how can I force her and it would be force her to go to a place that she is

scared and where all they do is put everything down anyone does?  They don't

talk about anything - they yell and scream....................and they cant just

bite there toung for a couple of hours while she is there?  Control and

abuse.............

Thank you very much all of you - so much to think about and worry

about..........

Diane

________________________________

From: jchabot <jchabot@...>

Sent: Thu, January 14, 2010 7:18:59 AM

Subject: Re: [ ] child divorcing parent?

 

Hi,

 I have been having this problem also. I have two daughters(ages 14 and

13) with my ex . They don't want to see him . He was a regular part of their

life since last September.He then got remarried and literally CHOSE his new wife

over our girls.(than my daughter came out with some things that he did to her in

the past) (another long story)

Be careful, becasue if you don't encourage the visits, you can be in contempt of

court. We have joint legal custody, but I have done 100% of the parenting and

have made all decisions regarding the girls, since day one.

 I went to an attorney, who said that he cannot FORCE them to go. They have a

say, and if they have a good reason not to see him they don't have to go.

If things get nasty, and my ex files contempt on me , I have to get an attorney

as well as seperate ones for the girls. this would cost over $7,500. 

Get to them botttom of the whole story and find out everything you can from your

daughter. There may be more reasons she isn't telling you about.Than again, the

fact he just came into her life after so long is a reason in itself besides

everything else.

Hugs

Judy

____________ _________ _________ __

From: Annie <akannielm (DOT) com>

Sent: Wed, January 13, 2010 6:57:46 PM

Subject: Re: [ ] child divorcing parent?

 

I would call a lawyer. It seems to be a custody issue to me. Depending on where

you live, a child stating they no longer want to live with another parent in

court can influence custody. He's also putting you child at risk by not giving

her the medicine she needs. Again this all depends on where you live and the way

this stuff is handled in your county. We have an insane president judge here, so

I would NEVER suggest this for our county. There are a lot of variables that

only a local attorney would know.

I do have a thought about her questioning her illness. When my daughter was 12

her LLMD sent a letter to her pediatrician to let her know about the diagnosis

and treatment. While we were at our next appt. with her pediatrician, she looked

at us and said the following, " I took an oath to do no harm. So I feel it is my

duty to tell you that there is no such thing as Cystic Lyme. " She then went on

to tell us that my daughter was being given a very strong ab that they only give

to adults in the ICU.

This woman had been my daughter's doctor for about 4 years by that time and we

saw her a lot and reallty liked her. At this point my daughter was on a very

strict diet, which cut out most of her favorite foods and she was taking a ton

of medicine. I was dreading what I expected would be the fallout from this

ignorant doctor's remarks. On the way to the car I asked her what she thought

about what the doc had just said. Thankfully, she said she knew the doc was

wrong because she was feeling better.

The point of this story is that hopefully your daughter feels better too and is

having to see doctors less often. She's old enough to look at the situation with

her health logically, perhaps with your help and see that she is benefitting not

only from her treatment but also your parenting. She's having an understandably

emotional reaction. It is sad that her father has not had the benefit of seeing

how sick she is or was. Is there any possibility that calm education about the

symptoms and treatment might help?

The first priority, I would think though, is making sure your daughter's health

doesn't get derailed because she starts to buy into his denial. The second would

be a lawyer for me. This has the potential to get ugly.

Good luck. This has to be a nightmare. It's hard enough just trying to deal with

our kids being sick and all we have to do to try to get them well, let alone

this garbage. I'm sorry you have to go through this. I say sarcastically, it's

part of the fun of dealing with Lyme. An ignorant society doesn't help either,

unfortunately. That's why a site like this can be really nice.

Annie

____________ _________ _________ __

From: Diane <dkbmama (DOT) com>

Sent: Wed, January 13, 2010 1:29:39 PM

Subject: [ ] child divorcing parent?

 

I am wondering if anyone has dealt with their child divorcing the other parent

that doesnt believe that they are sick? Anyone deal with any of this? Might be

an option for us right now - as my 14 almost 15 year old is refusing to go to

her fathers house because all they do is yell and scream about everything and

she no longer wants to be part of his life - because of this he is now

questioning her illness and my parenting skills...... .....let alone her father

only started trying to have a relationship with her about a year ago because the

bar was always his place of habit!! She has lived with me and her step-dad for

over 12 1/2 years....... ....just wondering if others deal with this kind of

stuff - he is only making her hate him - so sad!!

[Guest guest]

In a few years when she is driving and older and more able to legally

make her own decisions so to speak, 18ish, maybe he will treat her

differently with more respect. Good luck.

Suzanne

On Jan 14, 2010, at 10:03 AM, Diane Biel wrote:

> Thank you everyone - it's just so overwhelming isnt it!!

> When she is at her Dad's his girlfriend yells and screams all the

> time - either at each other or she yells and screams at her son who

> is the same age as my daughter. They do not let that poor boy who

> is 14 years old have any friends over or let him do anyting with any

> friends - he has so much pain and hate built up in him for his

> mother...........her dad's girlfriend runs the show and it is her

> house that her dad lives in - all I asked is if the 10% that she is

> there to have fun - no stress - no screaming and yelling and make it

> as enjoyable as possible as she doesn't care for them very much in

> the first place - they had so many chances to make it a great

> experience - but they didn't - and they don't care what Sam feels

> about it - it's all about them.........she when she goes over to his

> house for the last month before she stopped all she did was hide in

> her room -

> Because of our condition and because already has JRA and

> IBS two auto immune conditions we try very hard to live a life as

> stress free as we can - learned not to sweat the small stuff so to

> say - as you all know what stress does to us - but they dont care -

> they say she just has to learn how to handle stress - that's the way

> it is - no understanding on first we have to get her to a healthy

> point and then sure she and her body will be able to handle more -

> he is more like well I grew up on a farm and had brothers and

> sisters we were never allowed to complain...............oh well,

> have to talk to my lawyer this morning.....why does anyone just care

> about them-self and not ever put there child first - and do what is

> right for there child?? Tells people that I just want to be my

> childs friend not her mother - she is almost 15 and we have been

> through so much - he has no clue - and this is a bad thing to get

> along with your child especially at 15

> years old?? Am I just off my rocker? I want him to have some

> placement - but, how can I force her and it would be force her to go

> to a place that she is scared and where all they do is put

> everything down anyone does? They don't talk about anything - they

> yell and scream....................and they cant just bite there

> toung for a couple of hours while she is there? Control and

> abuse.............

> Thank you very much all of you - so much to think about and worry

> about..........

> Diane

>

> ________________________________

> From: jchabot <jchabot@...>

>

> Sent: Thu, January 14, 2010 7:18:59 AM

> Subject: Re: [ ] child divorcing parent?

>

>

> Hi,

> I have been having this problem also. I have two daughters(ages 14

> and 13) with my ex . They don't want to see him . He was a regular

> part of their life since last September.He then got remarried and

> literally CHOSE his new wife over our girls.(than my daughter came

> out with some things that he did to her in the past) (another long

> story)

>

> Be careful, becasue if you don't encourage the visits, you can be in

> contempt of court. We have joint legal custody, but I have done 100%

> of the parenting and have made all decisions regarding the girls,

> since day one.

> I went to an attorney, who said that he cannot FORCE them to go.

> They have a say, and if they have a good reason not to see him they

> don't have to go.

> If things get nasty, and my ex files contempt on me , I have to get

> an attorney as well as seperate ones for the girls. this would cost

> over $7,500.

> Get to them botttom of the whole story and find out everything you

> can from your daughter. There may be more reasons she isn't telling

> you about.Than again, the fact he just came into her life after so

> long is a reason in itself besides everything else.

>

> Hugs

> Judy

>

> ____________ _________ _________ __

> From: Annie <akannielm (DOT) com>

>

> Sent: Wed, January 13, 2010 6:57:46 PM

> Subject: Re: [ ] child divorcing parent?

>

>

> I would call a lawyer. It seems to be a custody issue to me.

> Depending on where you live, a child stating they no longer want to

> live with another parent in court can influence custody. He's also

> putting you child at risk by not giving her the medicine she needs.

> Again this all depends on where you live and the way this stuff is

> handled in your county. We have an insane president judge here, so I

> would NEVER suggest this for our county. There are a lot of

> variables that only a local attorney would know.

> I do have a thought about her questioning her illness. When my

> daughter was 12 her LLMD sent a letter to her pediatrician to let

> her know about the diagnosis and treatment. While we were at our

> next appt. with her pediatrician, she looked at us and said the

> following, " I took an oath to do no harm. So I feel it is my duty to

> tell you that there is no such thing as Cystic Lyme. " She then went

> on to tell us that my daughter was being given a very strong ab that

> they only give to adults in the ICU.

> This woman had been my daughter's doctor for about 4 years by that

> time and we saw her a lot and reallty liked her. At this point my

> daughter was on a very strict diet, which cut out most of her

> favorite foods and she was taking a ton of medicine. I was dreading

> what I expected would be the fallout from this ignorant doctor's

> remarks. On the way to the car I asked her what she thought about

> what the doc had just said. Thankfully, she said she knew the doc

> was wrong because she was feeling better.

> The point of this story is that hopefully your daughter feels better

> too and is having to see doctors less often. She's old enough to

> look at the situation with her health logically, perhaps with your

> help and see that she is benefitting not only from her treatment but

> also your parenting. She's having an understandably emotional

> reaction. It is sad that her father has not had the benefit of

> seeing how sick she is or was. Is there any possibility that calm

> education about the symptoms and treatment might help?

> The first priority, I would think though, is making sure your

> daughter's health doesn't get derailed because she starts to buy

> into his denial. The second would be a lawyer for me. This has the

> potential to get ugly.

> Good luck. This has to be a nightmare. It's hard enough just trying

> to deal with our kids being sick and all we have to do to try to get

> them well, let alone this garbage. I'm sorry you have to go through

> this. I say sarcastically, it's part of the fun of dealing with

> Lyme. An ignorant society doesn't help either, unfortunately. That's

> why a site like this can be really nice.

> Annie

>

> ____________ _________ _________ __

> From: Diane <dkbmama (DOT) com>

>

> Sent: Wed, January 13, 2010 1:29:39 PM

> Subject: [ ] child divorcing parent?

>

>

> I am wondering if anyone has dealt with their child divorcing the

> other parent that doesnt believe that they are sick? Anyone deal

> with any of this? Might be an option for us right now - as my 14

> almost 15 year old is refusing to go to her fathers house because

> all they do is yell and scream about everything and she no longer

> wants to be part of his life - because of this he is now questioning

> her illness and my parenting skills...... .....let alone her father

> only started trying to have a relationship with her about a year ago

> because the bar was always his place of habit!! She has lived with

> me and her step-dad for over 12 1/2 years....... ....just wondering

> if others deal with this kind of stuff - he is only making her hate

> him - so sad!!

>

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