Guest guest Posted February 25, 2002 Report Share Posted February 25, 2002 Ken & I have T-shirts with the motto: the only reason SOME people are still alive is because it's against the law to kill them! Sharon Zeis wrote: > Aww Machelle, the bad news is it's going to get > worse. The good news is your not alone. My daughter is > stubborn, defiant and sometimes a plain bitch, but > she's a good kid. She's almost 14 and been quite a > handful all her life,but she's always there for me > when I need her. She even called me an asshole about a > year ago. She's still alive because I ran out of the > house and calmed down before I grounded her. I have > her and custody of 4 step kids. It seems like there is > always at least one who is trying to figure out how to > get out of schoolwork. Last year it was my daughter. > This year it's my 14 year old stepson. I spend a lot > of time in consultation with teachers. I fought my > daughter until this year. She has finally realized > it's easier to do thw work and pull the grades than to > put up with my shit. Luckily with I turn him > over to his dad if he won't listen to me. In fact my > border collie/shepherd mix hides behind me whenever > and Greg get started on Algebra. Greg is one > of the calmest, most rational people I've met, but > that dog knows algebra is bad news. cries > easily and I think that upsets the dog. It sometimes > upsets me too. But instead of running and hiding, I'd > like to tell him to snap out of it. > Anyway, my college kid still blames his poor grades > on someone else. (his roommate,professor anyone but > himself) > Try to remind yourself, this too shall pass. I've > also learned how to say how it's going to be and walk > away. I used to let my daughter draw me into the worst > arguments. My husband taught me that I don't have to > validate myself, I can just make the rules without > having to explain why. You will get through this time > and remember you will be one of these parents who will > die for their child when they're 30. (If you let him > live that long. lol) > Good luck and I know where you're coming from but you > can't shoot him. It's against the law and you'll be > sorry later. > Sharon > --- Machelle <catkrazy@...> wrote: > > So how are yall today? I'm kinda tired > > today...worked too hard yesterday I > > guess. But I did get everything I wanted to do done. > > > > Just got off the phone with my son's school > > counselor. He's getting to be > > quite a handful at home. I can't handle it alone. My > > husband believes in the > > too firm hand...my grandmother (who's keeping him > > until we get his new room > > ready) believes in NO hand, his father isn't here to > > see the problems. So > > I'm stuck with being the bad guy. It's running me > > down fast. I can be on > > top of the world all day long, but the minute he > > steps in the house, all > > hell seems to break loose. He's very defiant. It's > > his way or no way. > > Yesterday he came home and had already done his > > homework (after I've told > > him to BRING IT HOME to do). Thought he'd get away > > with it and I wouldn't > > check it...well out of 25 problems, he missed 6 of > > them... on the first page > > (no big deal usually BUT was on something he learned > > LAST YEAR) Each > > problem's answer was 1 number away from the right > > answer, so I know he flew > > through it. Then when we went over it, he would just > > guess at the answers > > and not try. The second page was unreadable. So I > > made him to do it over > > again....Again, I'm the bad guy. I got so upset with > > him that I told him No > > outside time this week. > > > > Sometimes I wonder how he'd behave IF he was living > > with his father. Not > > that i would give him to his father without a huge > > fight. > > > > The Bad Guy, > > Machelle > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2002 Report Share Posted February 25, 2002 bullets ain't that expensive when you can reload them yourself...we have a relative who does just this...we just save the casings......Those 9mm bullets can get very costly!! arlene Terry Long wrote: > Arlene I feel the same way. Another thing I keep > telling myself they arn't worth the cost of the builit > to get rid of them. > Terry > --- ACE <arken@...> wrote: > > Ken & I have T-shirts with the motto: the only > > reason SOME people are still > > alive is because it's against the law to kill them! > > > > Sharon Zeis wrote: > > > > > Aww Machelle, the bad news is it's going to get > > > worse. The good news is your not alone. My > > daughter is > > > stubborn, defiant and sometimes a plain bitch, but > > > she's a good kid. She's almost 14 and been quite a > > > handful all her life,but she's always there for me > > > when I need her. She even called me an asshole > > about a > > > year ago. She's still alive because I ran out of > > the > > > house and calmed down before I grounded her. I > > have > > > her and custody of 4 step kids. It seems like > > there is > > > always at least one who is trying to figure out > > how to > > > get out of schoolwork. Last year it was my > > daughter. > > > This year it's my 14 year old stepson. I spend a > > lot > > > of time in consultation with teachers. I fought my > > > daughter until this year. She has finally realized > > > it's easier to do thw work and pull the grades > > than to > > > put up with my shit. Luckily with I turn > > him > > > over to his dad if he won't listen to me. In fact > > my > > > border collie/shepherd mix hides behind me > > whenever > > > and Greg get started on Algebra. Greg is > > one > > > of the calmest, most rational people I've met, but > > > that dog knows algebra is bad news. cries > > > easily and I think that upsets the dog. It > > sometimes > > > upsets me too. But instead of running and hiding, > > I'd > > > like to tell him to snap out of it. > > > Anyway, my college kid still blames his poor > > grades > > > on someone else. (his roommate,professor anyone > > but > > > himself) > > > Try to remind yourself, this too shall pass. I've > > > also learned how to say how it's going to be and > > walk > > > away. I used to let my daughter draw me into the > > worst > > > arguments. My husband taught me that I don't have > > to > > > validate myself, I can just make the rules without > > > having to explain why. You will get through this > > time > > > and remember you will be one of these parents who > > will > > > die for their child when they're 30. (If you let > > him > > > live that long. lol) > > > Good luck and I know where you're coming from but > > you > > > can't shoot him. It's against the law and you'll > > be > > > sorry later. > > > Sharon > > > --- Machelle <catkrazy@...> wrote: > > > > So how are yall today? I'm kinda tired > > > > today...worked too hard yesterday I > > > > guess. But I did get everything I wanted to do > > done. > > > > > > > > Just got off the phone with my son's school > > > > counselor. He's getting to be > > > > quite a handful at home. I can't handle it > > alone. My > > > > husband believes in the > > > > too firm hand...my grandmother (who's keeping > > him > > > > until we get his new room > > > > ready) believes in NO hand, his father isn't > > here to > > > > see the problems. So > > > > I'm stuck with being the bad guy. It's running > > me > > > > down fast. I can be on > > > > top of the world all day long, but the minute he > > > > steps in the house, all > > > > hell seems to break loose. He's very defiant. > > It's > > > > his way or no way. > > > > Yesterday he came home and had already done his > > > > homework (after I've told > > > > him to BRING IT HOME to do). Thought he'd get > > away > > > > with it and I wouldn't > > > > check it...well out of 25 problems, he missed 6 > > of > > > > them... on the first page > > > > (no big deal usually BUT was on something he > > learned > > > > LAST YEAR) Each > > > > problem's answer was 1 number away from the > > right > > > > answer, so I know he flew > > > > through it. Then when we went over it, he would > > just > > > > guess at the answers > > > > and not try. The second page was unreadable. So > > I > > > > made him to do it over > > > > again....Again, I'm the bad guy. I got so upset > > with > > > > him that I told him No > > > > outside time this week. > > > > > > > > Sometimes I wonder how he'd behave IF he was > > living > > > > with his father. Not > > > > that i would give him to his father without a > > huge > > > > fight. > > > > > > > > The Bad Guy, > > > > Machelle > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 26, 2002 Report Share Posted February 26, 2002 Machelle my kids live with their father and when they make Cs he tells them it is my fault..Hum I wonder if when they make honor roll if I should definitly take the credit then too!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 26, 2002 Report Share Posted February 26, 2002 Aww Machelle, the bad news is it's going to get worse. The good news is your not alone. My daughter is stubborn, defiant and sometimes a plain bitch, but she's a good kid. She's almost 14 and been quite a handful all her life,but she's always there for me when I need her. She even called me an asshole about a year ago. She's still alive because I ran out of the house and calmed down before I grounded her. I have her and custody of 4 step kids. It seems like there is always at least one who is trying to figure out how to get out of schoolwork. Last year it was my daughter. This year it's my 14 year old stepson. I spend a lot of time in consultation with teachers. I fought my daughter until this year. She has finally realized it's easier to do thw work and pull the grades than to put up with my shit. Luckily with I turn him over to his dad if he won't listen to me. In fact my border collie/shepherd mix hides behind me whenever and Greg get started on Algebra. Greg is one of the calmest, most rational people I've met, but that dog knows algebra is bad news. cries easily and I think that upsets the dog. It sometimes upsets me too. But instead of running and hiding, I'd like to tell him to snap out of it. Anyway, my college kid still blames his poor grades on someone else. (his roommate,professor anyone but himself) Try to remind yourself, this too shall pass. I've also learned how to say how it's going to be and walk away. I used to let my daughter draw me into the worst arguments. My husband taught me that I don't have to validate myself, I can just make the rules without having to explain why. You will get through this time and remember you will be one of these parents who will die for their child when they're 30. (If you let him live that long. lol) Good luck and I know where you're coming from but you can't shoot him. It's against the law and you'll be sorry later. Sharon --- Machelle <catkrazy@...> wrote: > So how are yall today? I'm kinda tired > today...worked too hard yesterday I > guess. But I did get everything I wanted to do done. > > Just got off the phone with my son's school > counselor. He's getting to be > quite a handful at home. I can't handle it alone. My > husband believes in the > too firm hand...my grandmother (who's keeping him > until we get his new room > ready) believes in NO hand, his father isn't here to > see the problems. So > I'm stuck with being the bad guy. It's running me > down fast. I can be on > top of the world all day long, but the minute he > steps in the house, all > hell seems to break loose. He's very defiant. It's > his way or no way. > Yesterday he came home and had already done his > homework (after I've told > him to BRING IT HOME to do). Thought he'd get away > with it and I wouldn't > check it...well out of 25 problems, he missed 6 of > them... on the first page > (no big deal usually BUT was on something he learned > LAST YEAR) Each > problem's answer was 1 number away from the right > answer, so I know he flew > through it. Then when we went over it, he would just > guess at the answers > and not try. The second page was unreadable. So I > made him to do it over > again....Again, I'm the bad guy. I got so upset with > him that I told him No > outside time this week. > > Sometimes I wonder how he'd behave IF he was living > with his father. Not > that i would give him to his father without a huge > fight. > > The Bad Guy, > Machelle > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 26, 2002 Report Share Posted February 26, 2002 Yes you should. Good or bad it's our fault. My husband's ex blamed everything on their dad. Then she got tired of being a mom and gave them to the ogre. lol Sharon --- Jannewilms42@... wrote: > Machelle my kids live with their father and when > they make Cs he tells them > it is my fault..Hum I wonder if when they make honor > roll if I should > definitly take the credit then too!!! > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 26, 2002 Report Share Posted February 26, 2002 Yea but I don't get the blame for the good grades just the bad ones..So I have to give it to myself.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 26, 2002 Report Share Posted February 26, 2002 I just don't know how much of this my nerves will take...Already it looks like he will be repeating the 2nd grade. Not only are his grades horrible, his teacher seems to really dislike him. She is always sending me little notes telling me the same thing over and over. She seems to think he needs to be put on medicine and has preached to me about it several times. The doctor I took him to, seems to think it's just a behavior problem. So it's damn if I do, damn if I don't. And all of this I am keeping from his father. Don't need more fuel for the fire...(see original Custody Battle email in archives) One thing I don't do is spank my son, but after the counselor told me that was an okay thing to do from time to time, I do believe I am going to start doing that. Restrictions just aren't working... Only thing, I'm scared that when I do it, I'll really let him have it.... Machelle Re: [ ] The Bad Guy Aww Machelle, the bad news is it's going to get worse. The good news is your not alone. My daughter is stubborn, defiant and sometimes a plain bitch, but she's a good kid. She's almost 14 and been quite a handful all her life,but she's always there for me when I need her. She even called me an asshole about a year ago. She's still alive because I ran out of the house and calmed down before I grounded her. I have her and custody of 4 step kids. It seems like there is always at least one who is trying to figure out how to get out of schoolwork. Last year it was my daughter. This year it's my 14 year old stepson. I spend a lot of time in consultation with teachers. I fought my daughter until this year. She has finally realized it's easier to do thw work and pull the grades than to put up with my shit. Luckily with I turn him over to his dad if he won't listen to me. In fact my border collie/shepherd mix hides behind me whenever and Greg get started on Algebra. Greg is one of the calmest, most rational people I've met, but that dog knows algebra is bad news. cries easily and I think that upsets the dog. It sometimes upsets me too. But instead of running and hiding, I'd like to tell him to snap out of it. Anyway, my college kid still blames his poor grades on someone else. (his roommate,professor anyone but himself) Try to remind yourself, this too shall pass. I've also learned how to say how it's going to be and walk away. I used to let my daughter draw me into the worst arguments. My husband taught me that I don't have to validate myself, I can just make the rules without having to explain why. You will get through this time and remember you will be one of these parents who will die for their child when they're 30. (If you let him live that long. lol) Good luck and I know where you're coming from but you can't shoot him. It's against the law and you'll be sorry later. Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 26, 2002 Report Share Posted February 26, 2002 So will he have a different teacher if he has to do 2nd grade again? If he'll have the same teacher,it may be a problem. I keep telling my kids if they have to do a grade over, it will be that much longer in school. At 8, they don't really get that though. I doubt if you will beat him because you are aware that you could. There have been times I've wanted to kill a kid so I walk away for awhile and become sane. My daughter DID tell me once that when I got real Quiet, it scared her because then she didn't know what I'd do. I guess yelling became normal. Hopefully someone else can give you some feedback. We all just do the best we can and go on. Raising kids is the hardest job in the world. Sharon __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 26, 2002 Report Share Posted February 26, 2002 If he does, he'd BETTER have a different teacher or else I'll him from there and put him in another school.....I really dislike that woman. You can see her house from my front porch... Re: [ ] The Bad Guy So will he have a different teacher if he has to do 2nd grade again? If he'll have the same teacher,it may be a problem. I keep telling my kids if they have to do a grade over, it will be that much longer in school. At 8, they don't really get that though. I doubt if you will beat him because you are aware that you could. There have been times I've wanted to kill a kid so I walk away for awhile and become sane. My daughter DID tell me once that when I got real Quiet, it scared her because then she didn't know what I'd do. I guess yelling became normal. Hopefully someone else can give you some feedback. We all just do the best we can and go on. Raising kids is the hardest job in the world. Sharon __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 26, 2002 Report Share Posted February 26, 2002 Hey Sharon, My Baby (30) daughter thought she was big and bad enough to call me a bitch under her breath this summer.... Bare footed with my neck brace on and bad back I flew across the road and snatched her up and slapped her face so hard she thought I punched her..... She has lived in Florida for 6 years or more and she was home for a visit.......She is 5'7 " and outweighs me... I am 5'2 " and 108 lbs. but I taught her respect and she will remember what I taught her..... I'll be dammed if my kid is calling me a curse word and getting away with it... She was yelling Mom!!!! Don't hit me!!!! It is funny now, but she will think twice before she does that again....... I didn't want to hurt her.... Just slapped her mouth..... AND..... She can't call DYFS........ LOL...... Angel Hugs, Diane May Rainbow Dreams Color Your World With Love, Hope, Peace & Unity Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 26, 2002 Report Share Posted February 26, 2002 Yeah, they get bold, don't they. I told my daughter she was allowed to think that but she'd better never put in into words again. Sharon --- diane214@... wrote: > Hey Sharon, > My Baby (30) daughter thought she was big and bad > enough to call me a > bitch under her breath this summer.... Bare footed > with my neck brace on > and bad back I flew across the road and snatched her > up and slapped her > face so hard she thought I punched her..... She has > lived in Florida for > 6 years or more and she was home for a > visit.......She is 5'7 " and > outweighs me... I am 5'2 " and 108 lbs. but I taught > her respect and she > will remember what I taught her..... I'll be dammed > if my kid is calling > me a curse word and getting away with it... She was > yelling Mom!!!! > Don't hit me!!!! It is funny now, but she will think > twice before she > does that again....... I didn't want to hurt her.... > Just slapped her > mouth..... AND..... She can't call DYFS........ > LOL...... > > Angel Hugs, > Diane > > May Rainbow Dreams Color Your World With Love, Hope, > Peace & Unity > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 26, 2002 Report Share Posted February 26, 2002 Jan if you the blame for only having C's. It's only fare that you get the credit for the good. Your ex sounds like a jerk. Terry --- Jannewilms42@... wrote: > Machelle my kids live with their father and when > they make Cs he tells them > it is my fault..Hum I wonder if when they make honor > roll if I should > definitly take the credit then too!!! > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 26, 2002 Report Share Posted February 26, 2002 Our daughter had the same thing in the first year. Except the teacher kept telling us we were not discpling her enough. The poor girl was in trouble the whole year. The next year we were in a different school. The first week in the new school, her teacher called my wife suggesting we have a doctor check her out. They dicovered she was hyper active. They put her on meds that work untill her teens then there was other problms. Terry --- Machelle <catkrazy@...> wrote: > I just don't know how much of this my nerves will > take...Already it looks > like he will be repeating the 2nd grade. Not only > are his grades horrible, > his teacher seems to really dislike him. She is > always sending me little > notes telling me the same thing over and over. She > seems to think he needs > to be put on medicine and has preached to me about > it several times. The > doctor I took him to, seems to think it's just a > behavior problem. So it's > damn if I do, damn if I don't. And all of this I am > keeping from his father. > Don't need more fuel for the fire...(see original > Custody Battle email in > archives) One thing I don't do is spank my son, > but after the counselor > told me that was an okay thing to do from time to > time, I do believe I am > going to start doing that. Restrictions just aren't > working... Only thing, > I'm scared that when I do it, I'll really let him > have it.... > > Machelle > > > > Re: [ ] The Bad Guy > > > Aww Machelle, the bad news is it's going to get > worse. The good news is your not alone. My daughter > is > stubborn, defiant and sometimes a plain bitch, but > she's a good kid. She's almost 14 and been quite a > handful all her life,but she's always there for me > when I need her. She even called me an asshole about > a > year ago. She's still alive because I ran out of the > house and calmed down before I grounded her. I have > her and custody of 4 step kids. It seems like there > is > always at least one who is trying to figure out how > to > get out of schoolwork. Last year it was my daughter. > This year it's my 14 year old stepson. I spend a lot > of time in consultation with teachers. I fought my > daughter until this year. She has finally realized > it's easier to do thw work and pull the grades than > to > put up with my shit. Luckily with I turn him > over to his dad if he won't listen to me. In fact my > border collie/shepherd mix hides behind me whenever > and Greg get started on Algebra. Greg is one > of the calmest, most rational people I've met, but > that dog knows algebra is bad news. cries > easily and I think that upsets the dog. It sometimes > upsets me too. But instead of running and hiding, > I'd > like to tell him to snap out of it. > Anyway, my college kid still blames his poor grades > on someone else. (his roommate,professor anyone but > himself) > Try to remind yourself, this too shall pass. I've > also learned how to say how it's going to be and > walk > away. I used to let my daughter draw me into the > worst > arguments. My husband taught me that I don't have to > validate myself, I can just make the rules without > having to explain why. You will get through this > time > and remember you will be one of these parents who > will > die for their child when they're 30. (If you let him > live that long. lol) > Good luck and I know where you're coming from but > you > can't shoot him. It's against the law and you'll be > sorry later. > Sharon > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 26, 2002 Report Share Posted February 26, 2002 Diane If one of my kids talked like that to Susy, they will have me on there backs & I'll kick their behinds from Az & they will land up by your house with instruction to walk back home. When Susy was a teen " her parents were in there early 40's when she was born " She decidded she was big & tough. Her Mom told her to stop what she was doing or she was going to slap her. The next thing Susy knew she was on the other side of the room. That was the last time she talked back to her parents. Terry --- diane214@... wrote: > Hey Sharon, > My Baby (30) daughter thought she was big and bad > enough to call me a > bitch under her breath this summer.... Bare footed > with my neck brace on > and bad back I flew across the road and snatched her > up and slapped her > face so hard she thought I punched her..... She has > lived in Florida for > 6 years or more and she was home for a > visit.......She is 5'7 " and > outweighs me... I am 5'2 " and 108 lbs. but I taught > her respect and she > will remember what I taught her..... I'll be dammed > if my kid is calling > me a curse word and getting away with it... She was > yelling Mom!!!! > Don't hit me!!!! It is funny now, but she will think > twice before she > does that again....... I didn't want to hurt her.... > Just slapped her > mouth..... AND..... She can't call DYFS........ > LOL...... > > Angel Hugs, > Diane > > May Rainbow Dreams Color Your World With Love, Hope, > Peace & Unity > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 26, 2002 Report Share Posted February 26, 2002 Arlene I feel the same way. Another thing I keep telling myself they arn't worth the cost of the builit to get rid of them. Terry --- ACE <arken@...> wrote: > Ken & I have T-shirts with the motto: the only > reason SOME people are still > alive is because it's against the law to kill them! > > Sharon Zeis wrote: > > > Aww Machelle, the bad news is it's going to get > > worse. The good news is your not alone. My > daughter is > > stubborn, defiant and sometimes a plain bitch, but > > she's a good kid. She's almost 14 and been quite a > > handful all her life,but she's always there for me > > when I need her. She even called me an asshole > about a > > year ago. She's still alive because I ran out of > the > > house and calmed down before I grounded her. I > have > > her and custody of 4 step kids. It seems like > there is > > always at least one who is trying to figure out > how to > > get out of schoolwork. Last year it was my > daughter. > > This year it's my 14 year old stepson. I spend a > lot > > of time in consultation with teachers. I fought my > > daughter until this year. She has finally realized > > it's easier to do thw work and pull the grades > than to > > put up with my shit. Luckily with I turn > him > > over to his dad if he won't listen to me. In fact > my > > border collie/shepherd mix hides behind me > whenever > > and Greg get started on Algebra. Greg is > one > > of the calmest, most rational people I've met, but > > that dog knows algebra is bad news. cries > > easily and I think that upsets the dog. It > sometimes > > upsets me too. But instead of running and hiding, > I'd > > like to tell him to snap out of it. > > Anyway, my college kid still blames his poor > grades > > on someone else. (his roommate,professor anyone > but > > himself) > > Try to remind yourself, this too shall pass. I've > > also learned how to say how it's going to be and > walk > > away. I used to let my daughter draw me into the > worst > > arguments. My husband taught me that I don't have > to > > validate myself, I can just make the rules without > > having to explain why. You will get through this > time > > and remember you will be one of these parents who > will > > die for their child when they're 30. (If you let > him > > live that long. lol) > > Good luck and I know where you're coming from but > you > > can't shoot him. It's against the law and you'll > be > > sorry later. > > Sharon > > --- Machelle <catkrazy@...> wrote: > > > So how are yall today? I'm kinda tired > > > today...worked too hard yesterday I > > > guess. But I did get everything I wanted to do > done. > > > > > > Just got off the phone with my son's school > > > counselor. He's getting to be > > > quite a handful at home. I can't handle it > alone. My > > > husband believes in the > > > too firm hand...my grandmother (who's keeping > him > > > until we get his new room > > > ready) believes in NO hand, his father isn't > here to > > > see the problems. So > > > I'm stuck with being the bad guy. It's running > me > > > down fast. I can be on > > > top of the world all day long, but the minute he > > > steps in the house, all > > > hell seems to break loose. He's very defiant. > It's > > > his way or no way. > > > Yesterday he came home and had already done his > > > homework (after I've told > > > him to BRING IT HOME to do). Thought he'd get > away > > > with it and I wouldn't > > > check it...well out of 25 problems, he missed 6 > of > > > them... on the first page > > > (no big deal usually BUT was on something he > learned > > > LAST YEAR) Each > > > problem's answer was 1 number away from the > right > > > answer, so I know he flew > > > through it. Then when we went over it, he would > just > > > guess at the answers > > > and not try. The second page was unreadable. So > I > > > made him to do it over > > > again....Again, I'm the bad guy. I got so upset > with > > > him that I told him No > > > outside time this week. > > > > > > Sometimes I wonder how he'd behave IF he was > living > > > with his father. Not > > > that i would give him to his father without a > huge > > > fight. > > > > > > The Bad Guy, > > > Machelle > > > > > > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 26, 2002 Report Share Posted February 26, 2002 Arlene I know that reloads are cheeper. But these jerks that are around that you would love to rid the world of. Are not even worth the cost of a reload. I remmber a coulple of story's my bother inlaw told me. Susy's ex went out to the other Brother's " JIM " farm Bill was there " after she finaly left the jerk but befor the DIVORICE " asked them to take him hunting " they both knew that the ex used Susy " Baby sister " as aunching bag. Bill was all for taking the jerk hunting but Jim talked him out of it say there was no way they could convence a cort that it was axcendtal A couple of years later Bill was driving his truck pulling a horse traller & saw mim hitch hiking, Bill said it was tempting to whip the traller around so that it would hit him then thought better of it. Terry --- ACE <arken@...> wrote: > bullets ain't that expensive when you can reload > them yourself...we have a > relative who does just this...we just save the > casings......Those 9mm bullets > can get very costly!! > arlene > > Terry Long wrote: > > > Arlene I feel the same way. Another thing I > keep > > telling myself they arn't worth the cost of the > builit > > to get rid of them. > > Terry > > --- ACE <arken@...> wrote: > > > Ken & I have T-shirts with the motto: the only > > > reason SOME people are still > > > alive is because it's against the law to kill > them! > > > > > > Sharon Zeis wrote: > > > > > > > Aww Machelle, the bad news is it's going to > get > > > > worse. The good news is your not alone. My > > > daughter is > > > > stubborn, defiant and sometimes a plain bitch, > but > > > > she's a good kid. She's almost 14 and been > quite a > > > > handful all her life,but she's always there > for me > > > > when I need her. She even called me an asshole > > > about a > > > > year ago. She's still alive because I ran out > of > > > the > > > > house and calmed down before I grounded her. I > > > have > > > > her and custody of 4 step kids. It seems like > > > there is > > > > always at least one who is trying to figure > out > > > how to > > > > get out of schoolwork. Last year it was my > > > daughter. > > > > This year it's my 14 year old stepson. I spend > a > > > lot > > > > of time in consultation with teachers. I > fought my > > > > daughter until this year. She has finally > realized > > > > it's easier to do thw work and pull the grades > > > than to > > > > put up with my shit. Luckily with I > turn > > > him > > > > over to his dad if he won't listen to me. In > fact > > > my > > > > border collie/shepherd mix hides behind me > > > whenever > > > > and Greg get started on Algebra. Greg > is > > > one > > > > of the calmest, most rational people I've met, > but > > > > that dog knows algebra is bad news. > cries > > > > easily and I think that upsets the dog. It > > > sometimes > > > > upsets me too. But instead of running and > hiding, > > > I'd > > > > like to tell him to snap out of it. > > > > Anyway, my college kid still blames his poor > > > grades > > > > on someone else. (his roommate,professor > anyone > > > but > > > > himself) > > > > Try to remind yourself, this too shall pass. > I've > > > > also learned how to say how it's going to be > and > > > walk > > > > away. I used to let my daughter draw me into > the > > > worst > > > > arguments. My husband taught me that I don't > have > > > to > > > > validate myself, I can just make the rules > without > > > > having to explain why. You will get through > this > > > time > > > > and remember you will be one of these parents > who > > > will > > > > die for their child when they're 30. (If you > let > > > him > > > > live that long. lol) > > > > Good luck and I know where you're coming from > but > > > you > > > > can't shoot him. It's against the law and > you'll > > > be > > > > sorry later. > > > > Sharon > > > > --- Machelle <catkrazy@...> > wrote: > > > > > So how are yall today? I'm kinda tired > > > > > today...worked too hard yesterday I > > > > > guess. But I did get everything I wanted to > do > > > done. > > > > > > > > > > Just got off the phone with my son's school > > > > > counselor. He's getting to be > > > > > quite a handful at home. I can't handle it > > > alone. My > > > > > husband believes in the > > > > > too firm hand...my grandmother (who's > keeping > > > him > > > > > until we get his new room > > > > > ready) believes in NO hand, his father isn't > > > here to > > > > > see the problems. So > > > > > I'm stuck with being the bad guy. It's > running > > > me > > > > > down fast. I can be on > > > > > top of the world all day long, but the > minute he > > > > > steps in the house, all > > > > > hell seems to break loose. He's very > defiant. > > > It's > > > > > his way or no way. > > > > > Yesterday he came home and had already done > his > > > > > homework (after I've told > > > > > him to BRING IT HOME to do). Thought he'd > get > > > away > > > > > with it and I wouldn't > > > > > check it...well out of 25 problems, he > missed 6 > > > of > > > > > them... on the first page > > > > > (no big deal usually BUT was on something he > > > learned > > > > > LAST YEAR) Each > > > > > problem's answer was 1 number away from the > > > right > > > > > answer, so I know he flew > > > > > through it. Then when we went over it, he > would > > > just > > > > > guess at the answers > > > > > and not try. The second page was > unreadable. So > > > I > > > > > made him to do it over > > > > > again....Again, I'm the bad guy. I got so > upset > > > with > > > > > him that I told him No > > > > > outside time this week. > > > > > > > > > > Sometimes I wonder how he'd behave IF he was > > > living > > > > > with his father. Not > > > > > that i would give him to his father without > a > > > huge > > > > > fight. > > > > > > > > > > The Bad Guy, > > > > > Machelle > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 27, 2002 Report Share Posted February 27, 2002 He is an ass Terry..Now since he is going on a vacation to Florida with his wife he won't let the kids come down this weekend..Says he don't trust I'll bring them home..R U ready to come down and give him that ass whippin yet?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 27, 2002 Report Share Posted February 27, 2002 I suffered from ADHD as a child (I still do). It was undetected then and I just went through school trying to get through. I was usually in trouble, and my teachers tended to dislike me also. I had trouble with authority figures and they all thought that I was not working up to my potential. Little knowing why. I am on medication for it now. (ritalin) I know you hate the idea of having to put a kid on meds that young, just some food for thought. I wish I had been treated earlier. I ended up dropping out of high school. I got my GED later and just got my associates degree at 46 years old... Good luck, lots of tough decisions. I know I was watching my son very closely through his earlier years, they say ADHD will become apparent by 8-10 years old. He seems unaffected by it. -dz- --- Machelle <catkrazy@...> wrote: > I just don't know how much of this my nerves will > take...Already it looks > like he will be repeating the 2nd grade. Not only > are his grades horrible, > his teacher seems to really dislike him. She is > always sending me little > notes telling me the same thing over and over. She > seems to think he needs > to be put on medicine and has preached to me about > it several times. The > doctor I took him to, seems to think it's just a > behavior problem. So it's > damn if I do, damn if I don't. And all of this I am > keeping from his father. > Don't need more fuel for the fire...(see original > Custody Battle email in > archives) One thing I don't do is spank my son, > but after the counselor > told me that was an okay thing to do from time to > time, I do believe I am > going to start doing that. Restrictions just aren't > working... Only thing, > I'm scared that when I do it, I'll really let him > have it.... > > Machelle > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 27, 2002 Report Share Posted February 27, 2002 Terry, I think she learned her lesson!!!!!!! Took her 30 years to even get brave enough to say it under her breath..(I wasn't supposed to hear it)... Will take her another 30 years to get over the shock that I still had it in me!!!!!!! ;o I get the respect now...... I rocked her world....... Angel Hugs, Diane May Rainbow Dreams Color Your World With Love, Hope, Peace & Unity Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 27, 2002 Report Share Posted February 27, 2002 Diane when my son was a small boy into his teens I would get on the floor wrestle with him & I would take him down every time. Up untill he moved out of state. He would get to thanking OLD DAD couldn't do it anymore & I would have to show him OLD DAD still had it him. It wasn't as easy as it use to be but I would still take him down. Terry --- diane214@... wrote: > Terry, > I think she learned her lesson!!!!!!! Took her 30 > years to even get > brave enough to say it under her breath..(I wasn't > supposed to hear > it)... Will take her another 30 years to get over > the shock that I still > had it in me!!!!!!! ;o I get the respect now...... I > rocked her > world....... > > Angel Hugs, > Diane > > May Rainbow Dreams Color Your World With Love, Hope, > Peace & Unity > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 27, 2002 Report Share Posted February 27, 2002 I would love to, Jerks like this are good for nothing. Most of them are big & tough with a woman but when they have to face another man they run away. Terry --- Jannewilms42@... wrote: > He is an ass Terry..Now since he is going on a > vacation to Florida with his > wife he won't let the kids come down this > weekend..Says he don't trust I'll > bring them home..R U ready to come down and give him > that ass whippin yet?? > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 27, 2002 Report Share Posted February 27, 2002 Hum seems like you know my ex Terry because that is exactly how he is... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 28, 2002 Report Share Posted February 28, 2002 Hi dz, I have just heard so many negative things about Ritalin and similar medications. Some say that it will lead to drug use, that he will be a zombie, that it will make him where he can't sleep at night...etc... I'm just not sure about it. I want to help him NOW, but what about in the long run, will it really be helping him? Machelle Treasure the love you receive about all. It will survive long after your gold and good health have vanished. -Og Mandino Re: [ ] The Bad Guy I suffered from ADHD as a child (I still do). It was undetected then and I just went through school trying to get through. I was usually in trouble, and my teachers tended to dislike me also. I had trouble with authority figures and they all thought that I was not working up to my potential. Little knowing why. I am on medication for it now. (ritalin) I know you hate the idea of having to put a kid on meds that young, just some food for thought. I wish I had been treated earlier. I ended up dropping out of high school. I got my GED later and just got my associates degree at 46 years old... Good luck, lots of tough decisions. I know I was watching my son very closely through his earlier years, they say ADHD will become apparent by 8-10 years old. He seems unaffected by it. -dz- --- Machelle <catkrazy@...> wrote: > I just don't know how much of this my nerves will > take...Already it looks > like he will be repeating the 2nd grade. Not only > are his grades horrible, > his teacher seems to really dislike him. She is > always sending me little > notes telling me the same thing over and over. She > seems to think he needs > to be put on medicine and has preached to me about > it several times. The > doctor I took him to, seems to think it's just a > behavior problem. So it's > damn if I do, damn if I don't. And all of this I am > keeping from his father. > Don't need more fuel for the fire...(see original > Custody Battle email in > archives) One thing I don't do is spank my son, > but after the counselor > told me that was an okay thing to do from time to > time, I do believe I am > going to start doing that. Restrictions just aren't > working... Only thing, > I'm scared that when I do it, I'll really let him > have it.... > > Machelle > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 28, 2002 Report Share Posted February 28, 2002 You can also go to a health food store and there is something we use to put my grandson on for ADHD..It is so much better than Ritilan on a child..It doesn't make them a zombit but you do see the difference within 30 minutes..Just go to the heath food store and tell them you want something for ADHD and they know what it is..Wouldn't hurt to try it..It cost about $13.00 for a big bottle of it..It is tablets.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 28, 2002 Report Share Posted February 28, 2002 Hey Diane.Glad to see ya....Vicky she is right..We had been on the subject of our Hep for a while and we just needed a little break..Laughter is good for the soul.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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