Lyme Guilt & Moving.....

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Hi Sandi,

So glad you are doing well with the IV treatment, and so glad to see you

posting again. That in itself is a good sign. I have to address the Lyme

guilt you are experiencing with the Home nurse coming and you worrying about

the mess. I know, I worry myself about how the house looks and the burden

on my husband. While I don't have the pain level you do, I do try to pick

up and keep the house as neat as I can, but I do understand the guilt you

have leaving much of the housework to your spouse, who is working a full

time job too. I hate to ask my husband to do something I used to do easily.

Recently, he cleaned all the windows in the house, and I jokingly suggested,

now is a good time to put the house up for sale. Little did I know, he

would take me up on it! He has been wanting to move to an over 55 community

not too far from us. (He's over 55, but I'm not.) Yesterday, a Realtor came

to the house, if the sellers accept our offer, we will be listing this

house. That means, this place has to be spic and span at a moment's notice

for potential buyers....talk about stress and pressure!

Oh well, I will get through it.

All of us do the best we can, and can do no more. I doubt your house is

the messiest that the Home nurse has ever seen. When we get sick, we have

to change our priorities. What was so important before we were sick is

inconsequential and seems so trivial now. Since you and I have corresponded

privately, I know you have a great husband who is there for you and more

than willing to accept that extra burden. I sincerely believe none of was

will be remembered for how clean our house was when we leave this world, but

for the good we do in this life. Just concentrate on getting better, I am

so pleased you are feeling some relief from the IV therapy.

Hugs,

Marta

>From: <swsftwtx@...>

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>>P.S. I was " concerned " about how awful my house looked and having the

>nurse come daily, but you know what, after almost a decade of pain and

>growing debility that finally became total disability, plus my husband

>doing 99% of care taking for both of us I figured, who cares? He's

>only human, not Superman, and if anyone thinks we can afford a maid or

>help to clean after years and years of medical bills, forget it!