Re: BETH IN HR--& others with opinions

[Guest guest]

Sierra,

Good luck !!! Me i would think two weeks is enough ,,, are you trying to get a less stressfull position ?

johnsnowdrift52003 <snowdrift52003@...> wrote:

I'm planning to change jobs, and have just begun my job search. A few months ago, when a co-worker left, I mentioned to my supervisor that I had looked to see how that position was advertised in the want ads. My supervisor said she always gets a little nervous when she hears someone is looking at the want ads, and she asked if I was looking for another job. At that time I wasn't, and I said no. She asked me to please tell her if/when the time should come that I do start to look for a new job.I said that I would. This "promise" was made on the spur-of-the-moment, and in response to her worry. I didn't think about what it would mean for me.Now that the time has come, I find that I don't want to share my plans with her. It feels like it would bog me down to have to deal with the reactions of others in addition to my own inner

conflicts about leaving.Yet, I want to keep my promise and do the ethical thing. How much notice is typically given by someone in a management role?A month?I have an intreview on Tuesday. Wish me luck!Sierra__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

Hi Sierra,

I am a recruiter and deal a lot with people looking for new positions, hiring

managers, etc.

It seems you have made up your mind to find a new job. I would definitely not

tell your supervisor. She may offer you more money and that might help in the

short run, but the stress will still exist. Most importantly, your supervisor

will

never trust you again because you have " cheated " on her. Every time you call

out of work she will think you are interviewing.

Also, two weeks is the norm, anything more is above and beyond and I deal

with people up to the Executive VP level. If a company was going to lay you

off they wouldn't give you a month's notice!

Why not take a one week break in between jobs? Be professional and

courteous, but in the end do what is best for you because that's what a

company does.

Good luck!

Why not take

> I'm planning to change jobs, and have just begun my job search. A few

> months ago, when a co-worker left, I mentioned to my supervisor that I

> had looked to see how that position was advertised in the want ads. My

> supervisor said she always gets a little nervous when she hears someone

> is looking at the want ads, and she asked if I was looking for another

> job. At that time I wasn't, and I said no. She asked me to please tell

> her if/when the time should come that I do start to look for a new job.

> I said that I would. This " promise " was made on the spur-of-the-moment,

> and in response to her worry. I didn't think about what it would mean

> for me.

>

> Now that the time has come, I find that I don't want to share my plans

> with her. It feels like it would bog me down to have to deal with the

> reactions of others in addition to my own inner conflicts about leaving.

> Yet, I want to keep my promise and do the ethical thing.

>

> How much notice is typically given by someone in a management role?

> A month?

>

> I have an intreview on Tuesday. Wish me luck!

>

> Sierra

[Guest guest]

Thanks for your thoughts. I need to be reminded to look out for my

own interests because it is my habit to attend to everyone else's

first. Also, I've been treated very well at this job, so I feel a lot

of loyalty. But...a high stress job is not good for my RA, and after

lots of agonizing, I have realized that the change is needed. Now

it's just a matter of getting through this transition.

Sierra

> > I'm planning to change jobs, and have just begun my job search. A

few

> > months ago, when a co-worker left, I mentioned to my supervisor

that I

> > had looked to see how that position was advertised in the want

ads. My

> > supervisor said she always gets a little nervous when she hears

someone

> > is looking at the want ads, and she asked if I was looking for

another

> > job. At that time I wasn't, and I said no. She asked me to please

tell

> > her if/when the time should come that I do start to look for a

new job.

> > I said that I would. This " promise " was made on the spur-of-the-

moment,

> > and in response to her worry. I didn't think about what it would

mean

> > for me.

> >

> > Now that the time has come, I find that I don't want to share my

plans

> > with her. It feels like it would bog me down to have to deal with

the

> > reactions of others in addition to my own inner conflicts about

leaving.

> > Yet, I want to keep my promise and do the ethical thing.

> >

> > How much notice is typically given by someone in a management

role?

> > A month?

> >

> > I have an intreview on Tuesday. Wish me luck!

> >

> > Sierra

[Guest guest]

I think you are now looking to see whether another suitable job exists. Until you make an application you are not really looking for a job. I don't think the "promise" you made was all that serious so I think you can easily wait for a while before letting your boss know. God bless.

----- Original Message -----

From: snowdrift52003

Rheumatoid Arthritis

Sent: Sunday, July 31, 2005 10:15 AM

Subject: BETH IN HR-- & others with opinions

I'm planning to change jobs, and have just begun my job search. A few months ago, when a co-worker left, I mentioned to my supervisor that I had looked to see how that position was advertised in the want ads. My supervisor said she always gets a little nervous when she hears someone is looking at the want ads, and she asked if I was looking for another job. At that time I wasn't, and I said no. She asked me to please tell her if/when the time should come that I do start to look for a new job.I said that I would. This "promise" was made on the spur-of-the-moment, and in response to her worry. I didn't think about what it would mean for me.Now that the time has come, I find that I don't want to share my plans with her. It feels like it would bog me down to have to deal with the reactions of others in addition to my own inner conflicts about leaving.Yet, I want to keep my promise and do the ethical thing. How much notice is typically given by someone in a management role?A month?I have an intreview on Tuesday. Wish me luck!Sierra

[Guest guest]

I totally agree. My government contract

is in danger of not being renewed; we will know for sure on Christmas day. My

boss, the contract manager, just quit and gave 3 weeks notice.

I was 80% sure he was looking, but it came

as a shock anyway. I have been putting in 50 – 60 hour weeks for the

last 6 weeks with little end in sight. I did interview for the job on Wednesday,

so maybe I will hear in 2 weeks or so. I know that if they had know about him

looking, it would have been bad for him – disloyal to the company, etc.

Have a great day,

Lynette & Molly (the fruit stealing

Boston Terrier)

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Re: BETH IN HR-- & others with opinions

Hi Sierra,

I am a recruiter and deal a lot with people

looking for new positions, hiring

managers, etc.

It seems you have made up your mind to find a new

job. I would definitely not

tell your supervisor. She may offer you more

money and that might help in the

short run, but the stress will still exist.

Most importantly, your supervisor will

never trust you again because you have

" cheated " on her. Every time you call

out of work she will think you are

interviewing.

Also, two weeks is the norm, anything more is

above and beyond and I deal

with people up to the Executive VP level. If

a company was going to lay you

off they wouldn't give you a month's notice!

Why not take a one week break in between

jobs? Be professional and

courteous, but in the end do what is best for you

because that's what a

company does.

Good luck!