Re: I thought was had a good summer!

[Guest guest]

This is just my opinion, but what I found is that the public schools (is

your son in public?) just let our children slip by easily. they never learn

to work for anything. Our school would tell my son he made 100 even when he

failed. My son gained no confidence, and wants to giveup as soon as things

get difficult.

You get him to change by making him WORK for everything. You may also want

to consider joining the Texas Autism Advocacy Group where these types of

issues are often discussed. It is a very good group for support and venting

when you feel the need. It's not just for parents from Texas.

I home-school now and my son has to work for things. Computer time? You've

got to work for it. TV time? You've got to work for it. He has to do

chores. He has to complete a certain amount for school work everyday.

Questions that require a lot of prompting do not get counted as correct. He

has to do it on his own and figure it out in order for it to be counted

right.

Make up some cards on the computer and laminate them. Put PECS of things

that he enjoys and things that matter to him. If he does something, then he

earns whatever is on the card you give him.

Do not let him use his diagnosis as an excuse for bad behavior nor an excuse

for not having to work at things.

Hope this helps.

[Guest guest]

We do something similar with my son. He has a task board with things he has to

do daily as well as some behavioal goals (no whining, no tantrums, please and

thank you). He gets a star for every task on the board he does and if the

whining is minimal. If he gets all the stars at the end of the week, he gets a

surprise, could be a small toy or book, trip to the zoo, something he likes. He

also knows if he misbehaves at school or during therapy, he loses a star and

cant earn it back. Its worked well here.

I have to say that the public school he is at is really good. The teachers hold

him accountable and dont cut him much slack, but still foster an environment

that he can flourish in. They also nudge him out of his comfort zone and hes

handling it pretty well. He looks forward to school.

Karla

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> This is just my opinion, but what I found is that the public schools (is

> your son in public?) just let our children slip by easily. they never learn

> to work for anything. Our school would tell my son he made 100 even when he

> failed. My son gained no confidence, and wants to giveup as soon as things

> get difficult.

>

> You get him to change by making him WORK for everything. You may also want

> to consider joining the Texas Autism Advocacy Group where these types of

> issues are often discussed. It is a very good group for support and venting

> when you feel the need. It's not just for parents from Texas.

>

> I home-school now and my son has to work for things. Computer time? You've

> got to work for it. TV time? You've got to work for it. He has to do

> chores. He has to complete a certain amount for school work everyday.

> Questions that require a lot of prompting do not get counted as correct. He

> has to do it on his own and figure it out in order for it to be counted

> right.

>

> Make up some cards on the computer and laminate them. Put PECS of things

> that he enjoys and things that matter to him. If he does something, then he

> earns whatever is on the card you give him.

>

> Do not let him use his diagnosis as an excuse for bad behavior nor an excuse

> for not having to work at things.

>

> Hope this helps.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Karla,

You have no idea how lucky you are! If it is in Texas please tell us where

as most of us might want to move there --it might well be the only " good "

public school for ASD kids in Texas, so please don't keep it a secret.

[Guest guest]

Sorry, not from Texas, but Colorado. And coming from So Cal, trust me Im aware

of how lucky Im. Dont get me wrong, there's good and bad wherever you are, but

Riverside County was pretty bad. The teachers were good and did the best they

could, but funding was a constant issue and the number of kids in the system was

staggering. Everyone got short changed.

We have a good relationship with this school and the preschool before. We talk

alot. I keep them in the loop on therapy, diet and most biomed issues, what Im

seeing and they let me know what they're seeing and things that I can emphasize

at home (to complement what they're doing). They've been great about making

sure my concerns get addressed and they know at this point that if they identify

a problem, academically or behaviorally, I'll do what I need to do on my end to

address it.

Karla

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> Karla,

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> You have no idea how lucky you are! If it is in Texas please tell us where

> as most of us might want to move there --it might well be the only " good "

> public school for ASD kids in Texas, so please don't keep it a secret.

>

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