18 month old - I need guidance

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I have a 4.5 year old who is going through chelation and we have been healing

him with biomedicine for over a year now. He has not been diagnosed as being on

the spectrum, but I think if we didn't start working on him when we did, he

would fit the asperger's category.

Anyway, my question is not about him, but his younger brother who is 1.5 years

old. He has been very different from his older brother from the start, good

sleeper from day one, no colic, easy going, etc, but he DOES have the gut issues

and I believe we are dealing with yeast and bacteria which I am attempting to

treat naturally, plus we supplement him, have him on a GFCF rotation diet, so we

are trying to prevent. I don't know if he was able to catch these things from

his brother and may fight them off with treatment or if we need to consider

chelation with him, as well. He has never been vaccinated. He shows none of

the same signs we saw with my older son, although most of them started much

later for our older son, like hand flapping, lining up cars and ear

swatting...just strange little behaviors that cropped up over time. There is

something I don't recall dealing with and it relates to food. First of all, he

is hungry ALL the time. I can take him out of his seat after a big meal and he

will undoubtedly ask for a snack in a matter of 30 minutes or less and when he

has his mind set on a snack, he will end up in tears or hanging off my legs

repeating his request until I get him something. He is often happy just

carrying around something in a little snack container, so I can't tell if it's

truly hunger or just a comfort for him. He won't TOUCH a vegetable unless I

puree it and pretty much make him eat it by distracting him and feeding at the

same time, he will eat table foods if they are snacky or sweet like all fruits,

and he used to eat meats with no problem, but lately he is turning his nose up

to anything that has to do with a regular meal. When I puree foods to make sure

he is at least getting some nutrition (I cook everything myself) he is clamping

his mouth shut most of the time, I have to play with him to get him eating

(Seems almost like a battle of the wits to me) and when he does eat the pureed

foods, any little teeny tiny speck of a chunk in it gets spit right out, he

won't chew it!! Although he can eat everything from hard cereal and celery

stuffed with nut butter to all textures of fruits, even kiwi and banana, he will

eat his oatmeal chunky as long as it is uniformly chunky, so it doesn't appear

to be a texture issue. I feel like he should be eating foods like us, cut up on

his tray, am I wrong? Every time I cut food up and put it on his tray, he

tosses it all on the floor. I am really at my wits end with this and I don't

want to make mealtime stressful either. I know that allergies are born from

stress associations, so I am completely at a loss. If I don't feed him healthy

foods, he will walk around yelling snack, snack, snack all afternoon, which he

does anyway, lol. My snack options are so limited with him already. I am just

wondering if this seems like a sensory issue, some sort of regression or just

normal picky kid stuff (I don't know what is normal since our first isn't quite

" normal " in any way, ha ha, he was advanced in many ways and still is and has

major sensory processing disorder issues when the gut is out of balance, but he

is our FABULOUS eater too). One thing that is probably important to know about

our younger son is that he got teeth very late, even now, he still only has the

four front teeth and he just recently got his molars, weird, I know, but that

must play into this a bit? How can a child comfortably eat table food when they

don't have all of their chompers? I want to make sure he can digest all of his

food properly so I always provide some cut food on his tray (which he mostly

throws off rather than eating) and I puree the rest into a mixed meal. I just

don't want to be an enabler either...is this a case of needing him to let me

know when he is ready to advance or do I need to do something different? I do

try things like giving him foods that I want him to eat with dips like pureed

fruits, which sometimes works, other times ends up in dumped dips and food on

the floor, anyway. Amazingly, he ate raw purple cabbage dipped into baby pears,

so sometimes it works. I just didn't know, if I should call the state or not, he

is in the system, because he was born with torticollis, so I have access, but

didn't know if this was something to even worry about. I don't want to be the

second-time dweeby mom who worries over everything by comparing her two kids....