Re: OT: and banned (To Dana)

[Guest guest]

Dana,

Really? I mean Really? Now ......... after All of the stuff that has been said

on this site that was derogatory, you want to start moderating. And then to ban

2 members who were helping others (whether I agreed with them or not,

others were helped). 

I mostly observe, read, comment where I can and see if what is being said

relates to our situation but banning them is ridiculous. 

S.

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From: Pamela H <phaselow@...>

Sent: Tue, April 20, 2010 9:30:00 AM

Subject: [ ] OT: and banned

 

Both and let me know that they were banned because of their posts

in the 'how to divide up DMSA' thread. Neither left because they wanted to and

both had their own thoughts about the other, still! It was important to

that you knew he didn't leave on his own, so I will pass that on and leave it at

that.

Internet venues are tough. Many will behave in ways they never would behave were

they face to face or even on the telephone. I wouldn't want to be the moderator

on groups like this where passions run deep and frustrations are many. Add in

the less-than-NT crowd (myself included), and you have a recipe for occasional

flare-ups. I think where and err is not knowing when to let it go

and move on.

My hope is Dana will allow one or both of them back on a moderated basis when

she has the time to deal with them. Remember, she is also living her life with 4

kids, recovery, and a job. Although we do have the ability to ignore threads

when they get hijacked by a personal argument, it is quite annoying and takes

away from the purpose of the group. I'm going to miss both of them, but I get

why Dana did what she did.

Pam

[Guest guest]

I agree with . has helped me, personally, on a number of

occasions with addressing questions about my son. They're both knowledgeable

members of the group and have a lot to offer. I would suggest that they're

invited back.

I have seen threads on this forum that were a whole lot more off the topic and

yet allowed to continue for what seems like days, almost weeks.

Lena

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From: Strozier <imyconsulting@...>

Sent: Tue, April 20, 2010 10:38:00 AM

Subject: Re: [ ] OT: and banned (To Dana)

Dana,

Really? I mean Really? Now ......... after All of the stuff that has been said

on this site that was derogatory, you want to start moderating. And then to ban

2 members who were helping others (whether I agreed with them or not, others

were helped).

I mostly observe, read, comment where I can and see if what is being said

relates to our situation but banning them is ridiculous.

S.

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From: Pamela H <phaselowwi (DOT) rr.com>

Sent: Tue, April 20, 2010 9:30:00 AM

Subject: [ ] OT: and banned

Both and let me know that they were banned because of their posts

in the 'how to divide up DMSA' thread. Neither left because they wanted to and

both had their own thoughts about the other, still! It was important to

that you knew he didn't leave on his own, so I will pass that on and leave it at

that.

Internet venues are tough. Many will behave in ways they never would behave were

they face to face or even on the telephone. I wouldn't want to be the moderator

on groups like this where passions run deep and frustrations are many. Add in

the less-than-NT crowd (myself included), and you have a recipe for occasional

flare-ups. I think where and err is not knowing when to let it go

and move on.

My hope is Dana will allow one or both of them back on a moderated basis when

she has the time to deal with them. Remember, she is also living her life with 4

kids, recovery, and a job. Although we do have the ability to ignore threads

when they get hijacked by a personal argument, it is quite annoying and takes

away from the purpose of the group. I'm going to miss both of them, but I get

why Dana did what she did.

Pam

[Guest guest]

Maybe it's time to drop this discussion and get back to the business of curing

our children.

>

> I agree with . has helped me, personally, on a number of

occasions with addressing questions about my son. They're both knowledgeable

members of the group and have a lot to offer. I would suggest that they're

invited back.

>

> I have seen threads on this forum that were a whole lot more off the topic and

yet allowed to continue for what seems like days, almost weeks.

>

> Lena

>

>

>

> ________________________________

> From: Strozier <imyconsulting@...>

>

> Sent: Tue, April 20, 2010 10:38:00 AM

> Subject: Re: [ ] OT: and banned (To Dana)

>

>

> Dana,

> Really? I mean Really? Now ......... after All of the stuff that has been said

on this site that was derogatory, you want to start moderating. And then to ban

2 members who were helping others (whether I agreed with them or not, others

were helped).

>

> I mostly observe, read, comment where I can and see if what is being said

relates to our situation but banning them is ridiculous.

> S.

>

> ____________ _________ _________ __

> From: Pamela H <phaselowwi (DOT) rr.com>

>

> Sent: Tue, April 20, 2010 9:30:00 AM

> Subject: [ ] OT: and banned

>

>

> Both and let me know that they were banned because of their posts

in the 'how to divide up DMSA' thread. Neither left because they wanted to and

both had their own thoughts about the other, still! It was important to

that you knew he didn't leave on his own, so I will pass that on and leave it at

that.

>

> Internet venues are tough. Many will behave in ways they never would behave

were they face to face or even on the telephone. I wouldn't want to be the

moderator on groups like this where passions run deep and frustrations are many.

Add in the less-than-NT crowd (myself included), and you have a recipe for

occasional flare-ups. I think where and err is not knowing when to

let it go and move on.

>

> My hope is Dana will allow one or both of them back on a moderated basis when

she has the time to deal with them. Remember, she is also living her life with 4

kids, recovery, and a job. Although we do have the ability to ignore threads

when they get hijacked by a personal argument, it is quite annoying and takes

away from the purpose of the group. I'm going to miss both of them, but I get

why Dana did what she did.

>

> Pam

>

>

[Guest guest]

In Dana's defense, this wasn't the first time and we all know it wouldn't be the

last. I can guarantee she had as many complaints about allowing them to STAY as

she does with letting them go.

Some people just can't resist going to the throats despite being repeatedly

warned. I guess you just have to make that tough decision sometimes to keep the

integrity and peace within the group.

There are others out there as valuable as . We tend to see them come out

of the woodwork once those super strong, sometimes caustic, personalities leave

us.

Like I said, if Dana has the energy she can try to bring them back on a

moderated status. That is her choice. is on other groups and I know he

would be happy to help via private email. The two of them have an obligation to

behave.

Pam

>

> Dana,

> Really? I mean Really? Now ......... after All of the stuff that has been said

on this site that was derogatory, you want to start moderating. And then to ban

2 members who were helping others (whether I agreed with them or not,

others were helped). 

>

> I mostly observe, read, comment where I can and see if what is being said

relates to our situation but banning them is ridiculous. 

> S.

>

>

>

>

> ________________________________

> From: Pamela H <phaselow@...>

>

> Sent: Tue, April 20, 2010 9:30:00 AM

> Subject: [ ] OT: and banned

>

>  

> Both and let me know that they were banned because of their posts

in the 'how to divide up DMSA' thread. Neither left because they wanted to and

both had their own thoughts about the other, still! It was important to

that you knew he didn't leave on his own, so I will pass that on and leave it at

that.

>

> Internet venues are tough. Many will behave in ways they never would behave

were they face to face or even on the telephone. I wouldn't want to be the

moderator on groups like this where passions run deep and frustrations are many.

Add in the less-than-NT crowd (myself included), and you have a recipe for

occasional flare-ups. I think where and err is not knowing when to

let it go and move on.

>

> My hope is Dana will allow one or both of them back on a moderated basis when

she has the time to deal with them. Remember, she is also living her life with 4

kids, recovery, and a job. Although we do have the ability to ignore threads

when they get hijacked by a personal argument, it is quite annoying and takes

away from the purpose of the group. I'm going to miss both of them, but I get

why Dana did what she did.

>

> Pam

>

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>

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