Guest guest Posted April 20, 1999 Report Share Posted April 20, 1999 Beth (BPSMAS), I believe someone else posted the Asperger's web site for you. If you look at it you might also check out a link from that site to another site on Hyperlexia. Is your son especially precocious about reading, words or counting? Just a thought. My daughter gets obsessional interests, too, but nothing like what you describe. Take care, Lesli Dana Carvalho wrote: > From: Dana Carvalho <clayvon@...> > > Hi and welcome to the list. My daughter occasionally gets " obssessional interests " , something that sparks her and she gets driven by it. It could be anything from the waitress at a > restaurant (then she starts trying to get all her attention) to an idea about something she wants to do. It's not like a regular interest - she gets absolutely driven. This has lessoned > with meds. However, I agree with , your son's obbssessional interests sound different than this and I agree with her suggestion to find out more about Aspergers Syndrome. There is a > website with info about it but I don't remember what it is, maybe someone else on this list can. In any case, there is hope for either of these conditions, OCD or Aspergers, and the people > on this list are a great resource and support. > Take care > Dana in NC > > BPSMAS@... wrote: > > > From: BPSMAS@... > > > > Hello everyone, > > I am new to this list. I have been finding it very helpful. I must admit > > the volume of mail is a bit overwhelming for me right now. > > Thank you Kathy for the advice on finding a CBI therapist. Colin is almost > > 10 yr. old and his ocd symptoms revolved around his room, hoarding, checking > > and " just so " compulsions. In the past 6- 12 months things have spiraled out > > of control and he is now having attention problems in school, behavior > > problems in an after-school program, and has no friends. We have tried > > counseling and herbal products with no success. I found a Dr. who is in the > > process of doing a thorough eval. We have the second part next week. He > > started Colin on 25 mg of Zoloft and then raised it to 50mg. We still have > > not seen any changes in his ocd behaviors. What is the adult dosage? Colin > > may have comorbidity. His issues are very complex. > > > > Since Colin was a toddler he was " obsessed " with something. First it was > > Birthdays, then the Wizard of Oz, then gemstones, then New York City, then > > tornados and currently Star Wars. All he does centers on those themes. He > > has extremely limited interests beyond the current theme. Since I have been > > doing a lot of reading about ocd, this is a kind of obsession I'm not seeing > > anything on. Is this part of ocd or is this something else? I'd appreciate > > hearing if anyone has a child with similar difficulties. > > > > Best wishes to everyone - this is a nice place to be. Beth > > > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > > Looking to expand your world? > > http://www.ONElist.com > > ONElist has over 115,000 e-mail communities from which to chose! > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > > The is sponsored by the OCSDA. You may visit their web site at http://www.ocdhelp.org/ and view schedules for chatroom support at http://www.ocdhelp.org/chat.html > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > Has ONElist changed your life? > http://www.ONElist.com > Visit our homepage and share with us your experiences at ONElist of the Week! > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > The is sponsored by the OCSDA. You may visit their web site at http://www.ocdhelp.org/ and view schedules for chatroom support at http://www.ocdhelp.org/chat.html Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2000 Report Share Posted June 28, 2000 Ellen: Check out Barb Kirby's website http://www.udel.edu/bkirby/asperger/. It is a wealth of information. I used to be on an as listserv, but I can't seem to find any archived emails that would tell me how you can subscribe. I'll write to a friend of mine and see if she has it. Hope this helps. Jule in Cleveland Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2000 Report Share Posted June 28, 2000 Ellen, I have a friend who has a son with Aspergers and I can ask her for information if you would like. She lives in our area and she was telling me that she has found much help on the web. I know one of the sites is www.asperger's.com......it is their homepage. Hope this helps. If you need more specific info, let me know and I'll ask her that as well. Noelle Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2000 Report Share Posted June 28, 2000 sure Noelle, I obviously can use all the help I can get! Always fun learning about a new disorder which may or may not affect our kids. This one sounds an awful lot on the money, however...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2000 Report Share Posted June 28, 2000 sure Noelle, I obviously can use all the help I can get! Always fun learning about a new disorder which may or may not affect our kids. This one sounds an awful lot on the money, however...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 26, 2001 Report Share Posted July 26, 2001 > Hello, > I am wondering if there is a link between Aspergers and vaccinations, > similar to that of Autism and vax? I know very little about Aspergers, but > am curious about what you all know! I hope this question hasn't been gone > over too much already! Thank you all, blessings, > Doc and Dena================================================= > Discover the most powerful natural healing substance on Earth, > the Compensation Plan destined to put you on easy street > and the Automated Marketing System that makes it happen. > www.spiritualaroma.com > Dena, My 15 yr. old son has Asperger's. He was very different from birth even in the nursery his cry was different from all the other babies. He had food intolerances, even to my breastmilk. Was diagnosed failure to thrive at three. With all that said there was some bad reactions to vaccines. His 4 month DPT was very bad inconsolable crying for at least 8 hours, and a high fever. After every round of boosters his weight stayed the same or there was a loss. The MMR put him in the hospital twice. I have been doing a lot of research, and this is my take on it. I believe it is in the genes, but when they are over loaded with vaccines and all the toxins involved especially when their little brains are growing, they just can't handle it. I believe there was much damage done, and if he didn't receive the vaccines he might just have a tendency towards AS instead of being diagnosed with it. Hope this helps!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 19, 2005 Report Share Posted May 19, 2005 Hi! It sounds like we have twins!My son was seen at the dotors when he was 3 also and was said to have ADHD ,however I never let them medicate him because I didn't think all of the pieces fit.He is now 10 and was diagnosed with As.He too loves to play chess by himself,he hasn't started writing down the moves...yet,but give him time.He also is good at everything at school,really without even trying.He too is on honor roll,it seems without even trying. His teacher this year even excused him from doing homework,because in her words:he's just bored with it.They had local college students come in yesterday and talk to their class about going to college and now he's intent on being a scientist. I look at AS as a gift,and tell Him he's lucky for having it because certain things come easier for him. He also has kids he calls his friends,but no best friends,and at recess he prefers to play by himself.Good luck to your son and his success in life.Who knows maybe one day they'll be in a chess championship playing against each other or doing research together:) From: Laha1960@... Date: Wed May 18 21:29:41 CDT 2005 Autism and Aspergers Treatment Subject: ASPERGERS AOL Email I? Whoever wrote the following below. just described my son exactly. HE was diagnosed at age three with ADHD. Then? before age ten, we had suspected things were not normal and he had more than just ADHD.? However a therapist diagnosed him with Aspergers when he was ten. We were really sure that was what he had and he is very much like the things you said below. He is now in high school, age 16, just finished his sophomore year of school yesterday and starts in August as a junior! WOW.? He is doing well in school, gets alls As, on the high honor roll, and he takes all reg classes and some honor classes. Next fall I worry as he starts taking Chemistry and Algebra 2. I never took those in my life and I have a BA degree, but I was not into math at all. Anyway,? I am proud of my son and he works hard. This morning, after I took his younger brother, my 5th grader to school, as he gets out in a week, I took a nap and went online for a while. I came in the kitchen and could not find . He was sitting at the table and playing chess with himself, trying to figure out moves and write them down. He is on the chess team for the school. He loves chess. is very smart, and loves to do things that involve reading, writing and chess and figuring things out. However, he has no friends and social skills.? He has certain people in school that he calls friends. HE does have a one on one aide in school for most classes. His Elementary school would not let me get one for him as they always placed him in classes that had one for several in the class. Now that he is in high school, he is in a large school and he needed one to get around and just survive. He is doing much better than we ever thought and I am excited as we only have two more years to do this!? HE also is in choir and loves it. ? in IL ? ********************* n a message dated 5/18/05 4:05:02 A.M. Central Daylight Time, Autism and Aspergers Treatment writes: That's why it's called aspergers. My son does laugh at things too, and finds humor in alot of things,jokes,cartoons-espeacially Bugs Bunny,and so on. He does have problems distinguishing sarcasm if it is directed toward him,but he even finds this funny sometimes.And as far as your son being able to speak, whoa!! Let me tell you my son will talk until he's blue in the face,to the point where it almost gets annoying. You could leave the room and come back in and he will still be talking as if you never left.He sounds like a little proffesor staing fact,after fact, after fact,after fact, after fact, after fact:) We were told this is directly related to aspergers.And as far as eye contact , my son will only give breif episodes of eye contact and then start looking over your shoulder or wherever,but? I think I would rather have him doing that than staring me down to make eye contact.Who really does that anyway ? How long do they have to stare at them to be considered making eye contact? ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 19, 2005 Report Share Posted May 19, 2005 My son age 8 sounds just like this to. I am confused though he’s diagnosis is Autism Spectrum Disorder with Language Disorder and High IQ. I believe he is Aspergers but don’t understand why he has the diagnosis he does. I plan on asking our next visit. Problem is it’s always 6mo away (we have one scheduled coming in June). I wanted to ask you a few things. Because they are so bright do you guys find it more difficult to see his disorders? I have a very hard time with my husband and try to explain things to him but that’s hard as well. Because of the diagnosis and the specifics of why he does the things he does. My husband as cruel as it may seem, doesn’t see any of his Aspergers it’s always a conflict with the two of them. I am afraid of what will be the outcome here. Any tips? ASPERGERS I Whoever wrote the following below. just described my son exactly. HE was diagnosed at age three with ADHD. Then before age ten, we had suspected things were not normal and he had more than just ADHD. However a therapist diagnosed him with Aspergers when he was ten. We were really sure that was what he had and he is very much like the things you said below. He is now in high school, age 16, just finished his sophomore year of school yesterday and starts in August as a junior! WOW. He is doing well in school, gets alls As, on the high honor roll, and he takes all reg classes and some honor classes. Next fall I worry as he starts taking Chemistry and Algebra 2. I never took those in my life and I have a BA degree, but I was not into math at all. Anyway, I am proud of my son and he works hard. This morning, after I took his younger brother, my 5th grader to school, as he gets out in a week, I took a nap and went online for a while. I came in the kitchen and could not find . He was sitting at the table and playing chess with himself, trying to figure out moves and write them down. He is on the chess team for the school. He loves chess. is very smart, and loves to do things that involve reading, writing and chess and figuring things out. However, he has no friends and social skills. He has certain people in school that he calls friends. HE does have a one on one aide in school for most classes. His Elementary school would not let me get one for him as they always placed him in classes that had one for several in the class. Now that he is in high school, he is in a large school and he needed one to get around and just survive. He is doing much better than we ever thought and I am excited as we only have two more years to do this! HE also is in choir and loves it. in IL ********************* n a message dated 5/18/05 4:05:02 A.M. Central Daylight Time, Autism and Aspergers Treatment writes: That's why it's called aspergers. My son does laugh at things too, and finds humor in alot of things,jokes,cartoons-espeacially Bugs Bunny,and so on. He does have problems distinguishing sarcasm if it is directed toward him,but he even finds this funny sometimes.And as far as your son being able to speak, whoa!! Let me tell you my son will talk until he's blue in the face,to the point where it almost gets annoying. You could leave the room and come back in and he will still be talking as if you never left.He sounds like a little proffesor staing fact,after fact, after fact,after fact, after fact, after fact:) We were told this is directly related to aspergers.And as far as eye contact , my son will only give breif episodes of eye contact and then start looking over your shoulder or wherever,but I think I would rather have him doing that than staring me down to make eye contact.Who really does that anyway ? How long do they have to stare at them to be considered making eye contact? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 19, 2005 Report Share Posted May 19, 2005 HI!I'm the mom with the ten year old. I had alot of problems making his dad understand also,but after alot of work I think I finally got it across when I explained that Clay may be intelligent and really far above the others academically,but emotionally and socially he,s really far behind.But I'll have to just wait and see...Maybe if you could find common ground between them.Like for my two it's fishing.I also told him, " I may be totally wrong (I knew I wasn't),but would you rather me take action now and find out nothing's wrong,or .....would you want me to not do anything and find out later that he's been suffering.He picked the first one. tiff From: Barry Hitchcock <bazndeb@...> Date: Thu May 19 09:48:12 CDT 2005 Autism and Aspergers Treatment Subject: RE: ASPERGERS AOL Email My son age 8 sounds just like this to. Iam confused though he?s diagnosis is Autism Spectrum Disorder withLanguage Disorder and High IQ. I believe he is Aspergers but don?tunderstand why he has the diagnosis he does. I plan on asking our next visit.Problem is it?s always 6mo away (we have one scheduled coming in June). Iwanted to ask you a few things. Because they are so bright do you guys find itmore difficult to see his disorders? I have a very hard time with my husbandand try to explain things to him but that?s hard as well. Because of thediagnosis and the specifics of why he does the things he does. My husband ascruel as it may seem, doesn?t see any of his Aspergers it?s alwaysa conflict with the two of them. I am afraid of what will be the outcome here.Any tips? ? ASPERGERS ? I? Whoever wrote the following below. just described my son exactly. HE was diagnosed at age three with ADHD. Then? before age ten, we had suspected things were not normal and he had more than just ADHD.? However a therapist diagnosed him with Aspergers when he was ten. We were really sure that was what he had and he is very much like the things you said below. He is now in high school, age 16, just finished his sophomore year of school yesterday and starts in August as a junior! WOW.? He is doing well in school, gets alls As, on the high honor roll, and he takes all reg classes and some honor classes. Next fall I worry as he starts taking Chemistry and Algebra 2. I never took those in my life and I have a BA degree, but I was not into math at all. Anyway,? I am proud of my son and he works hard. This morning, after I took his younger brother, my 5th grader to school, as he gets out in a week, I took a nap and went online for a while. I came in the kitchen and could not find . He was sitting at the table and playing chess with himself, trying to figure out moves and write them down. He is on the chess team for the school. He loves chess. is very smart, and loves to do things that involve reading, writing and chess and figuring things out. However, he has no friends and social skills.? He has certain people in school that he calls friends. HE does have a one on one aide in school for most classes. His Elementary school would not let me get one for him as they always placed him in classes that had one for several in the class. Now that he is in high school, he is in a large school and he needed one to get around and just survive. He is doing much better than we ever thought and I am excited as we only have two more years to do this!? HE also is in choir and loves it. ? in IL ? ********************* n a message dated 5/18/05 4:05:02 A.M. Central Daylight Time, Autism and Aspergers Treatment writes: That's why it's called aspergers. My son does laugh at things too, and finds humor in alot of things,jokes,cartoons-espeacially Bugs Bunny,and so on. He does have problems distinguishing sarcasm if it is directed toward him,but he even finds this funny sometimes.And as far as your son being able to speak, whoa!! Let me tell you my son will talk until he's blue in the face,to the point where it almost gets annoying. You could leave the room and come back in and he will still be talking as if you never left.He sounds like a little proffesor staing fact,after fact, after fact,after fact, after fact, after fact:) We were told this is directly related to aspergers.And as far as eye contact , my son will only give breif episodes of eye contact and then start looking over your shoulder or wherever,but? I think I would rather have him doing that than staring me down to make eye contact.Who really does that anyway ? How long do they have to stare at them to be considered making eye contact? ? ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 19, 2005 Report Share Posted May 19, 2005 HI!I'm the mom with the ten year old. I had alot of problems making his dad understand also,but after alot of work I think I finally got it across when I explained that Clay may be intelligent and really far above the others academically,but emotionally and socially he,s really far behind.But I'll have to just wait and see...Maybe if you could find common ground between them.Like for my two it's fishing.I also told him, " I may be totally wrong (I knew I wasn't),but would you rather me take action now and find out nothing's wrong,or .....would you want me to not do anything and find out later that he's been suffering.He picked the first one. tiff From: Barry Hitchcock <bazndeb@...> Date: Thu May 19 09:48:12 CDT 2005 Autism and Aspergers Treatment Subject: RE: ASPERGERS AOL Email My son age 8 sounds just like this to. Iam confused though he?s diagnosis is Autism Spectrum Disorder withLanguage Disorder and High IQ. I believe he is Aspergers but don?tunderstand why he has the diagnosis he does. I plan on asking our next visit.Problem is it?s always 6mo away (we have one scheduled coming in June). Iwanted to ask you a few things. Because they are so bright do you guys find itmore difficult to see his disorders? I have a very hard time with my husbandand try to explain things to him but that?s hard as well. Because of thediagnosis and the specifics of why he does the things he does. My husband ascruel as it may seem, doesn?t see any of his Aspergers it?s alwaysa conflict with the two of them. I am afraid of what will be the outcome here.Any tips? ? ASPERGERS ? I? Whoever wrote the following below. just described my son exactly. HE was diagnosed at age three with ADHD. Then? before age ten, we had suspected things were not normal and he had more than just ADHD.? However a therapist diagnosed him with Aspergers when he was ten. We were really sure that was what he had and he is very much like the things you said below. He is now in high school, age 16, just finished his sophomore year of school yesterday and starts in August as a junior! WOW.? He is doing well in school, gets alls As, on the high honor roll, and he takes all reg classes and some honor classes. Next fall I worry as he starts taking Chemistry and Algebra 2. I never took those in my life and I have a BA degree, but I was not into math at all. Anyway,? I am proud of my son and he works hard. This morning, after I took his younger brother, my 5th grader to school, as he gets out in a week, I took a nap and went online for a while. I came in the kitchen and could not find . He was sitting at the table and playing chess with himself, trying to figure out moves and write them down. He is on the chess team for the school. He loves chess. is very smart, and loves to do things that involve reading, writing and chess and figuring things out. However, he has no friends and social skills.? He has certain people in school that he calls friends. HE does have a one on one aide in school for most classes. His Elementary school would not let me get one for him as they always placed him in classes that had one for several in the class. Now that he is in high school, he is in a large school and he needed one to get around and just survive. He is doing much better than we ever thought and I am excited as we only have two more years to do this!? HE also is in choir and loves it. ? in IL ? ********************* n a message dated 5/18/05 4:05:02 A.M. Central Daylight Time, Autism and Aspergers Treatment writes: That's why it's called aspergers. My son does laugh at things too, and finds humor in alot of things,jokes,cartoons-espeacially Bugs Bunny,and so on. He does have problems distinguishing sarcasm if it is directed toward him,but he even finds this funny sometimes.And as far as your son being able to speak, whoa!! Let me tell you my son will talk until he's blue in the face,to the point where it almost gets annoying. You could leave the room and come back in and he will still be talking as if you never left.He sounds like a little proffesor staing fact,after fact, after fact,after fact, after fact, after fact:) We were told this is directly related to aspergers.And as far as eye contact , my son will only give breif episodes of eye contact and then start looking over your shoulder or wherever,but? I think I would rather have him doing that than staring me down to make eye contact.Who really does that anyway ? How long do they have to stare at them to be considered making eye contact? ? ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2005 Report Share Posted May 23, 2005 My 3rd child was diagnosed with autism at age 2. He will be 6 next month and just assessed as moderate to severe. He is non-verbal, still in diapers and needs help with many of his basic needs. For almost 4 years I have had low-functioning autism staring at me in the face but I never recognized the signs in my oldest child. It took him doing something really stupid and hurtful for me to step back and wonder why he did what he did. Now I am kicking myself wondering why I didn't notice sooner. My asperger son didn't talk until he was 3. Even now at age 13, he tends to stumble over his words, at times talks robotic-like, is slow and has difficulty determining the appropriate volume. I thought it was due to him being a boy yet my husband always felt he was just lazy. In social situations I have heard him say things that are obvious or could be taken as insulting and always wondered why he did not understand but I had no idea this would be a sign of a disability. He has never been uncomfortable in social situations but I think this is due to the fact that he is homeschooled so he has not had negative social experiences. I have always been amazed at his drawing. He will draw a cartoon character such as Rugrats, Spongebob or Peanuts which amazing detail. When I ask to see the original that he copied from, he will tell me he just did it from memory. When he saw a Star Wars movie, he drew a picture of one of the spaceships a month later. The detail was absolutely incredible. After a brief glimpse, how could he remember all the markings? After reading about aspergers and talking to him, I finally realized he has a photographic memory. This gift can be really beneficial to him later on. I also have a hard time getting my husband to understand. He seems to be afraid that the more I know about aspergers, the more I will excuse away his weaknesses. I just read Freaks, Geeks and Asperger Syndrome. This is written by a 13 year old asperger boy. He comes from a family with 5 children and has a younger brother with autism and another brother with ADHD. He writes about how he sees the world and how he sees the similarities and differences between him, his brothers and his NT sisters. His book is primarily focused on telling other asperger kids how to cope with our world in a tone of being greatful for the pluses that go with AS while working on the negatives. I found it very helpful to understand things such as why they are fascinated with certain things, why they stim, how to use their current obsession to their advantage, how confusing our world is and what it took for him to understand us. I have been able to use the understanding I got from this book to slowly help my husband recognize where our son is coming from. We still have a long way to go as I only figured this out a couple months ago but after reading this book I feel so much better prepared. One thing I especially found helpful is to emphasize with my husband the good aspects of his condition (his memory, his not desiring to do wrong to appeal to others, he is kind, he has a special relationship with his autistic brother, since he is rule- oriented we can trust he will not try to disobey etc). If he sees that there are good things associated with this condition, he may be more willing to accept the bad. I keep telling my husband I am not asking him to excuse the things my son does wrong but instead partner with him in helping him overcome this together with an understanding that he wants to do right but needs help understanding what right is. > My son age 8 sounds just like this to. I am confused though he's > diagnosis is Autism Spectrum Disorder with Language Disorder and High > IQ. I believe he is Aspergers but don't understand why he has the > diagnosis he does. I plan on asking our next visit. Problem is it's > always 6mo away (we have one scheduled coming in June). I wanted to ask > you a few things. Because they are so bright do you guys find it more > difficult to see his disorders? I have a very hard time with my husband > and try to explain things to him but that's hard as well. Because of the > diagnosis and the specifics of why he does the things he does. My > husband as cruel as it may seem, doesn't see any of his Aspergers it's > always a conflict with the two of them. I am afraid of what will be the > outcome here. Any tips? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 24, 2005 Report Share Posted May 24, 2005 your 13 year old sounds allot like my son, he also can draw with amazing detail. We did not get his diagnosis until this year so don't think you're alone in missing it! I've always known something was "different" about him but he was my first child so I did not make much of it. I have the same hubby issues too, so your not alone there either! -Charlotte Re: ASPERGERS My 3rd child was diagnosed with autism at age 2. He will be 6 next month and just assessed as moderate to severe. He is non-verbal, still in diapers and needs help with many of his basic needs. For almost 4 years I have had low-functioning autism staring at me in the face but I never recognized the signs in my oldest child. It took him doing something really stupid and hurtful for me to step back and wonder why he did what he did. Now I am kicking myself wondering why I didn't notice sooner. My asperger son didn't talk until he was 3. Even now at age 13, he tends to stumble over his words, at times talks robotic-like, is slow and has difficulty determining the appropriate volume. I thought it was due to him being a boy yet my husband always felt he was just lazy. In social situations I have heard him say things that are obvious or could be taken as insulting and always wondered why he did not understand but I had no idea this would be a sign of a disability. He has never been uncomfortable in social situations but I think this is due to the fact that he is homeschooled so he has not had negative social experiences. I have always been amazed at his drawing. He will draw a cartoon character such as Rugrats, Spongebob or Peanuts which amazing detail. When I ask to see the original that he copied from, he will tell me he just did it from memory. When he saw a Star Wars movie, he drew a picture of one of the spaceships a month later. The detail was absolutely incredible. After a brief glimpse, how could he remember all the markings? After reading about aspergers and talking to him, I finally realized he has a photographic memory. This gift can be really beneficial to him later on. I also have a hard time getting my husband to understand. He seems to be afraid that the more I know about aspergers, the more I will excuse away his weaknesses. I just read Freaks, Geeks and Asperger Syndrome. This is written by a 13 year old asperger boy. He comes from a family with 5 children and has a younger brother with autism and another brother with ADHD. He writes about how he sees the world and how he sees the similarities and differences between him, his brothers and his NT sisters. His book is primarily focused on telling other asperger kids how to cope with our world in a tone of being greatful for the pluses that go with AS while working on the negatives. I found it very helpful to understand things such as why they are fascinated with certain things, why they stim, how to use their current obsession to their advantage, how confusing our world is and what it took for him to understand us. I have been able to use the understanding I got from this book to slowly help my husband recognize where our son is coming from. We still have a long way to go as I only figured this out a couple months ago but after reading this book I feel so much better prepared. One thing I especially found helpful is to emphasize with my husband the good aspects of his condition (his memory, his not desiring to do wrong to appeal to others, he is kind, he has a special relationship with his autistic brother, since he is rule-oriented we can trust he will not try to disobey etc). If he sees that there are good things associated with this condition, he may be more willing to accept the bad. I keep telling my husband I am not asking him to excuse the things my son does wrong but instead partner with him in helping him overcome this together with an understanding that he wants to do right but needs help understanding what right is.> My son age 8 sounds just like this to. I am confused though he's> diagnosis is Autism Spectrum Disorder with Language Disorder and High> IQ. I believe he is Aspergers but don't understand why he has the> diagnosis he does. I plan on asking our next visit. Problem is it's> always 6mo away (we have one scheduled coming in June). I wanted to ask> you a few things. Because they are so bright do you guys find it more> difficult to see his disorders? I have a very hard time with my husband> and try to explain things to him but that's hard as well. Because of the> diagnosis and the specifics of why he does the things he does. My> husband as cruel as it may seem, doesn't see any of his Aspergers it's> always a conflict with the two of them. I am afraid of what will be the> outcome here. Any tips? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 27, 2005 Report Share Posted May 27, 2005 I just had to chime in here on getting others to understand ... My son is only 5.5 ... its only been a since the fall that he's had a diagnosis. Prior to my reading everything under the son on HFA, my poor little guy had tantrums unbelievable. I was treating him like a NT kid in discipline and life in general. For instance, " 5 minutes I'm turning the computer off " Then when you do, all hell broke lose. Once I read everything I realized that is not the right approach. Excusing behavior isn't what I'm doing ... it is trying to work within the realm of my son's thinking. My husband has come around alot. But, it didn't happen without a few arguements. The only way to get anyone to understand that our children aren't misbehaving spoiled brats is to understand the way they think and they can't help it. We've come a very long way over this first school year ... I was so worried about him going to kindergarten because I thought for sure they'd think I was a horrible mother ... I spend countless hours talking with his teacher and helping her to understand. It took some time, but he's loving school and everyone is working with him very well. I'm not sure what it will be like when he's older .. different issues to deal with but I'm hoping we'll just continue to grow together ... good luck! Kathy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 27, 2005 Report Share Posted May 27, 2005 You know Kathy - you've summed up what i've been doing with my son for years. We've had to try and explain that there ARE boundaries and some behaviur is acceptable in company some not. It's taken us a long time, and we're still working on it - he sometimes knowq when he's done something naughty, and we explain - and try to get him to expalin - why this is so. Doesn't always wor!! But, we pick ourselcves up, dust down and get on with life. And you lknow what - at the age of 15, he's a lovely boy. Yeah - there are issuess, but on the whole, he's a goot kid. But i'm his mum and i love him - even when he tests the patience of a saint (and i ain't no saint!!) And me - well, my kids laugh and say i make Cruella de Vil look good!! I think (!!) in a roundabout way, they're telling me things are ok. Re: ASPERGERS I just had to chime in here on getting others to understand ... My son is only 5.5 ... its only been a since the fall that he's had a diagnosis. Prior to my reading everything under the son on HFA, my poor little guy had tantrums unbelievable. I was treating him like a NT kid in discipline and life in general. For instance, "5 minutes I'm turning the computer off" Then when you do, all hell broke lose. Once I read everything I realized that is not the right approach. Excusing behavior isn't what I'm doing ... it is trying to work within the realm of my son's thinking. My husband has come around alot. But, it didn't happen without a few arguements. The only way to get anyone to understand that our children aren't misbehaving spoiled brats is to understand the way they think and they can't help it. We've come a very long way over this first school year ... I was so worried about him going to kindergarten because I thought for sure they'd think I was a horrible mother ... I spend countless hours talking with his teacher and helping her to understand. It took some time, but he's loving school and everyone is working with him very well.I'm not sure what it will be like when he's older .. different issues to deal with but I'm hoping we'll just continue to grow together ... good luck!Kathy No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG Anti-Virus.Version: 7.0.322 / Virus Database: 266.11.17 - Release Date: 25/05/2005 No virus found in this outgoing message. Checked by AVG Anti-Virus. Version: 7.0.322 / Virus Database: 266.11.17 - Release Date: 25/05/2005 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 27, 2005 Report Share Posted May 27, 2005 ... I have another thought here too. My husband thought we were giving all the control back to my son with saying stuff like this " Why don't you tell me when it will be a good time to get off the computer? " And, he would. Ok, this totally breaks every discpline rule with a NT. But if your kid has Aspergers, you'll see there's a methodical way they need to end things. Sometimes I need to help him because in some things there is no end LOL ... So my husband's and my fear was that our NT son who is 3, will watch the way we are with our 5 year old and manipulate us. My answer to that is, that is when you explain that your brother has special needs. God forgive me, but sometimes I look at my NT son and wish he had a dash of what my 5 year old has cause honestly, my Aspergers son is easier! I'm actually finding the literal thinking fascinating. He never lies. If he does something wrong - he tells me exactly what he did. " I picked up the block and hit him over the head with it mommy. " hahahahha A NT response is " I didn't do anything! " One day my 3 year old wouldn't stop and I said " please stop I can't even think! " My Aspergers son looked at me and said " Why not mommy? You have a brain in your head, why can't you use it? " This morning I tried to explain to him what it meant when I said " don't let your brother push your buttons. " hahahahha Kathy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 10, 2006 Report Share Posted March 10, 2006 I must ask, are you "putting" him in baseball or has he chosen to play baseball? Tha reason I ask is because my AS son never showd any interest in sports and of all the people that I know who have AS sons this is also the case. (I myself LOVE sports) TTFN, Monte mrs_prince71 <mrs_prince71@...> wrote: Has anyone put their asperger child in sports? I am putting my 9 year old in baseball. I am kinda nervous on how others will respond to him.My son has problems holding his bowels. I have tried alot of things. Anyone has any suggestions? I think other kids at school are making fun of him because sometimes he smells. I get real sad about this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 10, 2006 Report Share Posted March 10, 2006 Is your son in pt? (physical therapy) That strengthened my son's muscles significantly and led to our success with toilet training. Just a thought. aspergers Has anyone put their asperger child in sports? I am putting my 9 year old in baseball. I am kinda nervous on how others will respond to him.My son has problems holding his bowels. I have tried alot of things. Anyone has any suggestions? I think other kids at school are making fun of him because sometimes he smells. I get real sad about this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 10, 2006 Report Share Posted March 10, 2006 Is your son in pt? (physical therapy) That strengthened my son's muscles significantly and led to our success with toilet training. Just a thought. aspergers Has anyone put their asperger child in sports? I am putting my 9 year old in baseball. I am kinda nervous on how others will respond to him.My son has problems holding his bowels. I have tried alot of things. Anyone has any suggestions? I think other kids at school are making fun of him because sometimes he smells. I get real sad about this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 10, 2006 Report Share Posted March 10, 2006 My son hated sports until he was 9. He learned the rules to baseball and football through playing the video games with my husband though one year. He decided he wanted to play baseball. It was hard, there was teasing and the schedule was very intense. I think it was WAY to much for him. That was the only year we’ve done a sport. He now likes collecting things about the teams (baseball and football) (and I think it’s to be like his dad) but he tells people “I’m not really a “sports” guy” From: Autism and Aspergers Treatment [mailto:Autism and Aspergers Treatment ] On Behalf Of Monte Crow Sent: Friday, March 10, 2006 1:41 AM Autism and Aspergers Treatment Subject: Re: aspergers I must ask, are you " putting " him in baseball or has he chosen to play baseball? Tha reason I ask is because my AS son never showd any interest in sports and of all the people that I know who have AS sons this is also the case. (I myself LOVE sports) TTFN, Monte mrs_prince71 <mrs_prince71@...> wrote: Has anyone put their asperger child in sports? I am putting my 9 year old in baseball. I am kinda nervous on how others will respond to him. My son has problems holding his bowels. I have tried alot of things. Anyone has any suggestions? I think other kids at school are making fun of him because sometimes he smells. I get real sad about this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 10, 2006 Report Share Posted March 10, 2006 aspergers Has anyone put their asperger child in sports? I am putting my 9 year old in baseball. *******This is tough but frankly we found baseball to be downright dangerous for our son. His reaction time was too slow and would be hit in the face with the ball. My son, 13, hates sports. He just not have the coordination and being so poor at sports left him feeling bad about himself. How about chess, swimming, or the card collecting games kids are into…..Gail A. ,13 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 10, 2006 Report Share Posted March 10, 2006 It's an uphill battle.....my aspie is 14 now, this is his second year on the track team. The school created a position for him, he is the manager. He just keeps track of the scores. He thinks it's the greatest thing in the world, but as usual, none of the kids like him. He basically hangs out with the coaches. As far as the bowel problem, my son does not have that issue, but I have heard there are tests for yeast? Maybe someone can chime in who knows better. I would suggest that if he does have an accident, have it in his IEP to have a safe person to go to that will understand & help him clean up. That's what kills me about these teachers, or just some adults in general, if he smells, help him out. I wish you luck, keep your head up. aspergers Has anyone put their asperger child in sports? I am putting my 9 year old in baseball. I am kinda nervous on how others will respond to him.My son has problems holding his bowels. I have tried alot of things. Anyone has any suggestions? I think other kids at school are making fun of him because sometimes he smells. I get real sad about this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 10, 2006 Report Share Posted March 10, 2006 >>As far as the bowel problem, my son does not have that issue, but I have >>heard there are tests for yeast? Maybe someone can chime in who knows >>better. << It could be intolerance to gluten or casein or both. in England Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 10, 2006 Report Share Posted March 10, 2006 My son wants to join baseball---I am the one that is nervous about it. The only good thing is the coach has a daughter with autism-so he should be pretty sensitive to his needs. wants so hard to fit in sometimes--its just hard to see other kids make fun of him. For the most part I pay no attention to them. I focus on my son. I just don't what I am going to do about his bowel problems. I have taken him to the specialist and they say just keep doing what I am doing because it is a sensory issue.Monte Crow <singledad132@...> wrote: I must ask, are you "putting" him in baseball or has he chosen to play baseball? Tha reason I ask is because my AS son never showd any interest in sports and of all the people that I know who have AS sons this is also the case. (I myself LOVE sports) TTFN, Monte mrs_prince71 <mrs_prince71@...> wrote: Has anyone put their asperger child in sports? I am putting my 9 year old in baseball. I am kinda nervous on how others will respond to him.My son has problems holding his bowels. I have tried alot of things. Anyone has any suggestions? I think other kids at school are making fun of him because sometimes he smells. I get real sad about this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 10, 2006 Report Share Posted March 10, 2006 Monte Crow wrote: > I must ask, are you " putting " him in baseball or has he chosen to play > baseball? > Tha reason I ask is because my AS son never showd any interest in sports > and of all the people that I know who have AS sons this is also the case. > (I myself LOVE sports) > TTFN, > Monte I think it depends on the person and the sport. F'rinstance, our son was always interested in watching sports, but it wasn't until he was 21 that he ever did one. He runs track. And I think that he probably would have before then if he'd been given the opportunity. Also, if you count bowling as a sport, well, he's always loved both watching and doing bowling, even when he was in elementary school. Annie, who loves ya annie@... -- “I don’t have the discipline to be a hippie.” -- Homer Simpson Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 10, 2006 Report Share Posted March 10, 2006 I agree with you singledad, my son has never shown interest in sports. We tried baseball, tennis and track. He is a very fast runner but the fact that he couldn't have the full attention of the coach it was a problem. Now, arts and crafts drawing is his passion and I might say he is very very good at it. So I just let the sports thang ride. As long as he is comprehensive in somthing extracirrcular I won't push him. Kids can be mean no matter what he does. > Has anyone put their asperger child in sports? I am putting my 9 year > old in baseball. I am kinda nervous on how others will respond to him. > My son has problems holding his bowels. I have tried alot of things. > Anyone has any suggestions? I think other kids at school are making fun > of him because sometimes he smells. I get real sad about this. > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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