Guest guest Posted June 11, 2010 Report Share Posted June 11, 2010 I have to agree, until he gets older and better able to self regulate, its not worth it. At 2, my son couldnt sit still, really couldnt handle the noise in a restaurant. It was just too much stimulation for him to handle. He was miserable, we were miserable and other people in the restaurant werent that happy either. We did take out and picnics at the park, beach, zoo for 3 years. Less stress for all of us. We took him to restaurants priodically to see how he'd do, but it wasnt until he was 5 that it wasnt a problem. I understand about the babysitting. I was still in the military when my son was diagnosed, and had a hard time getting support and that was stateside. Being overseas makes it an even bigger challenge. It can definately be isolating. Does your base offer any respite services through your family support center? Youre at Lakenheath right? I know the CDCs arent required to provide respite, but they may be able to help you find a sitter that works with kids on the spectrum. Your Family Support center might be able to help as well. Hang in there. Karla > > > From: DIANA <dmniemes@...> > Subject: [ ] ADVICE PLEASE!!!! > > Date: Friday, June 11, 2010, 2:15 PM > > > Â > > > > > Our son who was diagnosed with moderate autism last month will be two > years old in two weeks and lately it's become a nightmare for my husband > and I to go out to eat with him. We always bring him his gfcf food, his > own table mat (so he won't touch the restaurants tables), toys, portable > dvd player etc. in case he gets bored but despite any type of > entertainment he's been having these meltdowns that result in us eating > VERY fast and having to leave. My husband is in the military and we live > overseas so we can't turn to family and we haven't made any friends that > we can trust here also my husband is scared to leave him with a sitter > because he's afraid they won't have patience with him in case he has a > tantrum. > > I feel guilty for not having the patience I should have with him in > those times when he's having the meltdowns but I'm the only one that > takes care of him and on those rare occasions that my husband is not > working 15 hour shifts and we would like to go out to eat we take our > son but I need to know how other parents do it with a child on the > spectrum? > > He wasn't always like this. I don't know if it's due to his diagnosis or > if it's just the terrible two's kicking in. He's our first son so I > might be clueless about these behaviors especially after his diagnosis. > > Thank you in advance for any advice. > > Sorry it's so long:/ > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 11, 2010 Report Share Posted June 11, 2010 My son was 4 when he regressed and it's only in the past 6 months (he's now 7) that we can take him along to a restaurant. His sensory issues were simply incapable of handling a restaurant. Think about it: the noises of conversation, dishes banging, music, sometimes there are fluorescent lights, the smells of all different kinds of food, the colors, the people, the motion.....too much. We just didn't go out to eat for those years, unless we had a sitter. We had to hire a special needs sitter, and we trained her for months while I was home with her until she could handle our son on her own and we trusted her. 14 months into AC chelation and 3 yrs into biomed, not only do we go out to eat, my son can eat with us, with an enzyme, and we are now taking him to Disney! Anyone have a social story for an airline trip? > > > Our son who was diagnosed with moderate autism last month will be two > years old in two weeks and lately it's become a nightmare for my husband > and I to go out to eat with him. We always bring him his gfcf food, his > own table mat (so he won't touch the restaurants tables), toys, portable > dvd player etc. in case he gets bored but despite any type of > entertainment he's been having these meltdowns that result in us eating > VERY fast and having to leave. My husband is in the military and we live > overseas so we can't turn to family and we haven't made any friends that > we can trust here also my husband is scared to leave him with a sitter > because he's afraid they won't have patience with him in case he has a > tantrum. > > I feel guilty for not having the patience I should have with him in > those times when he's having the meltdowns but I'm the only one that > takes care of him and on those rare occasions that my husband is not > working 15 hour shifts and we would like to go out to eat we take our > son but I need to know how other parents do it with a child on the > spectrum? > > He wasn't always like this. I don't know if it's due to his diagnosis or > if it's just the terrible two's kicking in. He's our first son so I > might be clueless about these behaviors especially after his diagnosis. > > Thank you in advance for any advice. > > Sorry it's so long:/ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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