Fathering Indigos Male Energy and the Indigo Children

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Fathering Indigos

Male Energy and the Indigo Children

By Dahlgren

I am the father of a 12-year-old son who fits the description of an

indigo child. I love the children of indigo persuasion; I see them as

a precious intermediate step that connects the humans we were to the

humans we are becoming in our evolutionary journey. I do not feel they

are here to conquer the world or take things over. Their primary

purpose as a group is to smooth the way for the children of crystal

vibration, the next evolutionary step for humankind on the game-board

of free choice.

It is my belief that indigo children are here to create a lot of

problems and much of this is appropriate. However, there are limits.

Universal laws are in effect and each action has a consequence. If the

indigos go too far the universe will respond in kind. Therefore, they

need parental help to temper their actions so that they need not face

the wrath of the universe. A father who has in his heart only the

highest desires for his children is ideally suited to take on this task.

I am painfully aware that these little ones have much to do as I

personally participate in this life drama through the overactive

participation of my son, who has been appropriately labeled a " System

Buster " . There are many days I sit with heavy heart, worried, as any

parent would be when reports come back from the teacher saying my son

is disruptive, impulsive, and appears immature for his age. My son is

as precious to me as the air that I breathe. When people tell me that

he is less than what they expect him to be I think: " My son, please

conform. I want these people to see you in the same golden light that

your father does. " Yet simultaneously I know he has a job to do and I

know that it's necessary. I am behind his work; however there are

limits, and it's my job to not let him fall on his own sword.

Discipline must be imposed, strongly at times, to stop this very thing.

Our planet is in the process of balancing the masculine and feminine

energies. Nowhere is this more evident than in family roles.

Traditionally the father took the role of stern disciplinarian and the

mother balanced this by taking on the nurturing role. In our efforts

to find balance within ourselves we have encouraged fathers to become

more nurturing, but in the interim we seem to have swung to the

opposite extreme where neither parent provides the discipline that

used to fall under the domain of the masculine polarity.

The indigo children are extremely strong-willed and if there is no

balancing discipline to help them develop self-discipline, they may be

inclined to impose their will on others. How do we teach this

self-discipline? I feel that fathers can play an important role here.

By setting firm limits and adhering to them, they teach their children

to do the same for themselves. However, the limits must be based on

truth and integrity. The indigo children seem to have built in " truth

meters " . They cannot be lied to, because they will verify internally

the truth of what is said to them. There is a way to approach the

children that will serve them the best and that is to be strong,

forthright, to know what your intentions are before you state them and

to firmly back them up once you have set yourself in a position that

you feel is appropriate to their own highest good.

It is time that the indigos are questioned seriously by their parents

as to what it is that motivates them in situations they face. They

need to learn self-evaluation of their motives so that they learn how

to interact with themselves appropriately. They understand that right

and wrong is relative and often depends on context... what's right in

one situation may be wrong in another. They notice that adults are

often inconsistent in their behavior so it isn't always easy for them

to build a coherent value system. In the absence of strong role models

it's easy for a child to assume that the only reliable thing to serve

is the self and its goals.

Indigo children as a group seem to be " pre-programmed " to change

things. We, as adults, are beginning to understand they are paving the

way for the children of Crystal Vibration, but the children themselves

do not consciously realize this. They are not sacrificial lambs; they

have their own goals and purposes in the changes they are making. It

isn't their goal to create chaos, but something inside them won't let

them complacently accept things the way they have always been. When

they imagine something could be better, they seem to be compelled to

speak up or to act in order to make changes. I feel they are here to

create space that can eventually be filled with peace, which allows

the love that brings in the children of Crystal Vibration.

The Indigo children have much to learn from the Masters that already

walk the planet: many of them are part of the Now/New Age movement and

many are in other areas and religions of the world. However, in order

to best teach the young ones, the Masters must ensure there is balance

between the masculine and feminine vibrations in the home. While in

biology, the masculine vibration is equated with the male gender and

the feminine vibration with the female gender. This is changing as

both genders learn to balance their male and female energies.

The difference between the balanced male of now and the more polarized

male of the past is that the balanced male of today comes from his

heart in love. When the disciplining is done the new kind of father is

there immediately with love and forgiveness. His arms open once again

soon after the discipline has been imposed. This is a more difficult

role for him to play, because he must be willing to go straight back

into discipline mode if the children need it. However, if a father is

able to do this he also becomes a model for his children to emulate.

He can show the indigo child how to balance strength with love and how

to integrate the polarities of the masculine and feminine energies in

the self. I encourage all fathers to develop this balance within

themselves so they can parent their Indigo children more effectively.

May all those around them assist their purpose and welcome them in

their new role. It is much needed.

Dahlgren is the father of a son aged 12 and a daughter aged 9.

He lives in Vancouver, Washington, where he works as a scientist. He

can be reached by email at david@...