The Power Of Forgiveness

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The Power Of Forgiveness

By Levey-Lunden

In 1990, I received `The Power of Clearing' tool as an answer to my

desperate request to God for a way to heal pain and suffering and end

separation in relationships, after my own husband fell in love with

another woman 25 years younger than me. I told God in a prayer that I

could live for 30 days more while my husband was seeing this other

woman and while I felt so much confusion, pain and suffering in my

life about this. I felt desperate for an answer. I had given God 31

days to give me an answer to free people, as well as myself, from all

pain and suffering in relationship.

On the 31st day of my prayer, which went on day and night, when I was

not talking to my 5-year old daughter, the Holy Spirit sent a man into

my life, whose wife had fallen in love with another man at exactly the

same place and time as my husband. He had been my own student and

promoter of the courses in Sweden. The two love affairs of our

partners took place at an International Peace Conference in

Gothenburg, Sweden. This man, Mats, joined with me in a purpose: to

find a way out of all pain and suffering in relationship.

Mats came carrying A Course in Miracles under his arm and saying that

he wanted to study it. I had seen this ACIM book before. In fact, I

had received two copies in the 1980's from two of my students, when

the book was in three volumes. Over the years, I had looked into these

sets of books and felt that, if I were to study them, I would have to

change everything I felt, thought, and believed. In fact, I thought

that studying these books would change my whole life. I was not

prepared to do that in the 1980's. Now I was in total pain and

suffering and, because of that, I was prepared to study ACIM. I had

also been teaching seminars for ten years and I needed an even deeper

way to support people in their breakthroughs in the crises of

relationship break-up.

While I was living in Sweden, and Mats and I were in relationship in a

joint purpose, I received the answer to my prayer in the form of the

`Clearing Process' and `The Big Truth and Little Truth Chart'. The

`Clearing Process' exactly matches the principles of A Course in

Miracles and I began to study the Course with my new partner, as a way

of freeing myself from suffering in relationships, freeing others and

ending separation. In fact, we left Sweden for four months and went to

Hawaii to study ACIM night and day, and apply the learning in a

practical way to our thinking and our lives. ACIM became a passion and

a joining force in our lives. We still traveled back and forth to

Sweden every six weeks to teach classes there together

Forgiveness from a Course (ACIM) perspective is not the same as the

traditional teaching of how to forgive. In the traditional definition,

we forgive by overlooking something that we believe actually happened

and thus we see the error that someone has made and attempt to

overlook it. In Course based forgiveness, we recognize that it is our

thoughts about the situation that we need to forgive. We give

everything the meaning it has for us and therefore it is our

interpretation of any situation that needs to be released. So it is

all about having `a little willingness' to look at our unconscious,

limiting thoughts, feelings and beliefs in order to release them.

The Clearing assists a person in removing the unconscious and

conscious guilt from their past. It provides tools for changing the

way they view everything, from their relationships, finances, and

their personal success. Clearing is the single most useful tool I have

seen for releasing all the limiting beliefs that run peoples' lives,

send them into harmful cycles, and motivate self-destructive attitudes

and behaviors. The Clearing Process is a simple, yet profound, tool

for speaking your total truth and releasing your ego thoughts,

feelings and beliefs. In the Clearing, we are confirming the Holy

Spirit's truth in every communication. We forgive ourselves, with the

Holy Spirit as witness and guide, for believing what our egos tell us.

Current upsets are simply doorways into old thoughts and old memories

that are in the `basement' of our ego mind so that by releasing them

you can choose a life of joy instead of suffering. Choice is the most

powerful tool we have in the mind. Our power to choose determines the

world we see, the relationships we have and the success we experience.

Our thoughts, beliefs, feelings and behavior are all the result of

choices we make. In other words, we determine our experience through

the choices we make. Bringing this to awareness allows us to continue

to make better choices.

The following is a testimonial, in her own words, from a women who has

taken my classes. It is a great example of how unconscious beliefs can

effect current relationships and how forgiving those beliefs is the

biggest step that can be taken toward peace.

" When I was eight years old, I started menstruating and I was

devastated when my mother failed to communicate with and inform me

about what was happening to me and my body. Then, when I was 14, she

was frightened when she found out that a teenager at my school was

pregnant. She went into a rage, telling me that if I got pregnant,

" over her dead body " would she ever let me keep it. " I will make you

have an abortion " , she said. Meanwhile I was not sexually active, but

had always known I wanted to someday have a family. Later in life I

realized I was emotionally and physically paralyzed by these earlier

experiences. I grew up feeling that it wasn't safe for me to bring a

baby into this world. I felt it was bad to be a woman, that I should

reject all that is feminine and motherly in me. In my logical mind, I

knew this was not true, but deep down I felt I wasn't worthy of what I

wanted most.

When I was 30, I was diagnosed with endometriosis, a hormonal and

auto-immune condition that causes endometrial cells to grow outside of

the uterus. It causes internal bleeding, pain and infertility. I

scheduled a radical surgery to have the endo excised, but then changed

my mind. I decided to explore my beliefs and childhood experiences

first, to heal those, and see where that would take me. Through

working with Sandy Levey-Lunden over three courses (The Art of

Surrender, Choosing Freedom: the Way Out, and True Woman's Power) and

ACIM, I forgave my mother for her behaviour and influence. But, more

importantly, I stopped blaming her in the now, and I forgave myself

for believing – for more than a decade – that I was unworthy, unsafe,

damaged and infertile. I freed myself from learned helplessness and

embraced the truth that I am worthy, loving, lovable – that, at age

33, it was in fact safe for me to bring a baby into the world with my

loving husband. Within three months of feeling complete with this

healing journey, my husband and I conceived and our miracle baby,

Xavier, was born on April 9, 2004. "

~Krista

Through my teaching The Clearing Process over the years, I have had

the joy and honor of seeing sicknesses healed, marriages saved, and

families reunited. It was because they forgave each other and

themselves. The Clearing lifted the fog from the mirror, and they saw

their True Selves looking back at them, with the Holy Spirit at their

side, and thus could see the world through themselves clearer than

ever before. The Clearing Process is True forgiveness.

I am privileged to make teaching The Clearing Process my life purpose,

and have been able to train coaches to teach it to more and more

people. Of course, it is not a fix-all, end-all solution. Forgiveness

takes diligence and the will to be happy rather than to be right about

what you think you believe about the world and your self. I hope

everyone takes this first step to choose to forgive and end separation

in this world. It is our most important job, and we do get " paid " for

it, in rewards of freedom, peace, joy, and love.

Author's Bio

Sandy has been working as a counselor and motivational speaker for

over 27 years. She has worked with over 30,000 people in 10 countries

to help them find their true life's purpose and to tap into who they

truly are.

Source:

http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/The_Power_Of_Forgiveness2.html

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