Guest guest Posted April 25, 2000 Report Share Posted April 25, 2000 Hi Cristi, Thanks so much for posting this, it gave me a great idea. I would love to do several tapes and I am ready to get started on the audio tapes this week, great timing. I would love to hear some ideas of the kind of affirmations you would all like. I am after all making these for all of you. Ultimately it helps if I know what kind of phrases feel good to each of you. Send them to my personal email rashelle@... when you have a minute and I will start putting the scripting together. I am going to tape the releasing negative, replacing with positive messages tape first, but I have that one down since I have used it for years in my seminars. The affirmation tapes will be done in a way that will help you use both sides of your brain to connect with the messages. Please send a short message that I don't need to reply to if possible, I have a ton of mail to catch up on after being away for the weekend so on this just your suggestions for affirmations that I can put into a file would be great. Love to you all,. Rashelle Be sure to check out all of the great specials available on my web sites. Save $30 on the Large Body Wrap package until April 30thVisit us at http://www.lifelift.com or http://www.angelmagic.com. All other web sites belong to distributors, these are my personal web sites.Join our discussion group at LifeLift-subscribe@... Affirmations Just thought I would post an address for anaffirmation handbook for us to use while Rashelle isworking on the affirmation tapes.http://www.io.com/~rga/affirm.htmlThere are some nice short affirmations in there.Cristi__________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 25, 2000 Report Share Posted April 25, 2000 Wow, great website, thanks Cristi, Sandy Affirmations > Just thought I would post an address for an > affirmation handbook for us to use while Rashelle is > working on the affirmation tapes. > > http://www.io.com/~rga/affirm.html > > There are some nice short affirmations in there. > > Cristi > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 26, 2000 Report Share Posted April 26, 2000 Thank you so much for this site sis. It is GREAT!!!!!! {{{HUGS}}} & God bless, Bonnie **********************************************With God, ALL things are possible.********************************************** Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 20, 2004 Report Share Posted April 20, 2004 Very well said Sherry and . Simona Affirmations Date: Tue, 20 Apr 2004 03:25:40 -0700 (PDT) From: Abbadi <kmabbadi@...> Speaking of which, every day I repeat to myself three times, " My body is perfect in every way. Every day, I am getting better and better and better. " Good for you, ! The mind is a powerful force and the mind/body connection is very real, despite what Western medicine seems to think. You might consider going one step further and saying, " My body is perfect in every way. I am now totally well and full of energy.... " or something like that. The theory is that what the mind conceives, the body acts out. So if we image ourselves healthy the body has no choice but to make it reality. Saying that we are only in the process of getting better -- rather than already there -- tends to keep us in the " getting there " mode rather than the " already there " mode. Plus, I do the positive affirmations whenever I think of them throughout the day, as many times as possible. Just another take on the subject. Sherry (from Oregon) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 20, 2004 Report Share Posted April 20, 2004 Date: Tue, 20 Apr 2004 08:53:59 -0700 (PDT) From: Abbadi <kmabbadi@...> Sherry, thanks for the interesting idea. I would worry about lying to myself though. What do you think? Ah but it's not lying to yourself -- it's creating the reality you want. Especially if you take a few moments to get quiet and then imagine yourself healthy and all that you want to be, allow yourself to experience the feelings of joy as if it's real today, then those feelings help bring about the change. You may have heard it said that a person cannot put a smile on his face and still feel angry or sad. It's impossible. That's the idea behind affirmations. Talk yourself into believing it and it will happen. Best of luck!! Sherry (from Oregon) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 21, 2004 Report Share Posted April 21, 2004 Thanks, Sherry. Will do. Best, Sherry Bowlin <sjbowlin@...> wrote: Date: Tue, 20 Apr 2004 08:53:59 -0700 (PDT) From: Abbadi <kmabbadi@...>Sherry, thanks for the interesting idea. I would worry about lying tomyself though. What do you think? Ah but it's not lying to yourself -- it's creating the reality you want.Especially if you take a few moments to get quiet and then imagine yourselfhealthy and all that you want to be, allow yourself to experience thefeelings of joy as if it's real today, then those feelings help bring aboutthe change. You may have heard it said that a person cannot put a smile onhis face and still feel angry or sad. It's impossible. That's the ideabehind affirmations. Talk yourself into believing it and it will happen.Best of luck!!Sherry (from Oregon) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 12, 2009 Report Share Posted January 12, 2009 Hi Bonnie, In this ever challenging, and sometimes cold natured world we live in, we sometimes forget that we can at least try to create some positive energy. Thanks for sharing this as I plan on incorporating this into my life. I love what you did by wearing your sweater instead of "saving it"....that is what really made it make sense for me. Again, great plan and thanks for sharing! G [ ] Affirmations Hi Everyone, I've been having a few issues lately not related to Flatback or revision surgery, and so has my daughter. Since I'm not at a great place to help her spirits much, and she's not in a great place to help mine, I devised a way for us to help ourselves and each other, and it seems to work. I told her that we should send each other an email every day, telling each other what we have to be grateful for that day, and what it is that we've done for ourselves that day to make us feel good. For instance, a few days ago, I emailed my daughter that I was grateful that day for my pain doctor giving me his pager number, and, the thing I did for myself that day to make me feel good was that I wore my favorite sweater instead of "saving" it... Simple things. We email each other in the evening. So, I need to live my live each day thinking of what I am grateful for that day and I need to find something each day to do to make myself feel good. It takes work, but it makes me much calmer and keeps my mind off the bad stuff, and I enjoy the stuff I do for myself each day. I thought that this might help anyone in the Group going through a rough time. So, try it! Bonnie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 13, 2009 Report Share Posted January 13, 2009 Hi Bonnie, This is great! Today, I have emailed my flatback friends and put a crock pot of chili on for my work buddies. Yum! Thanks for the tip. Life is a little brighter if I look out instead of in. > > Hi Everyone, > > I've been having a few issues lately not related to Flatback or revision surgery, and so has my daughter. Since I'm not at a great place to help her spirits much, and she's not in a great place to help mine, I devised a way for us to help ourselves and each other, and it seems to work. I told her that we should send each other an email every day, telling each other what we have to be grateful for that day, and what it is that we've done for ourselves that day to make us feel good. For instance, a few days ago, I emailed my daughter that I was grateful that day for my pain doctor giving me his pager number, and, the thing I did for myself that day to make me feel good was that I wore my favorite sweater instead of " saving " it... Simple things. We email each other in the evening. So, I need to live my live each day thinking of what I am grateful for that day and I need to find something each day to do to make myself feel good. It takes work, but it makes me much calmer and keeps my mind off the bad stuff, and I enjoy the stuff I do for myself each day. I thought that this might help anyone in the Group going through a rough time. So, try it! > > Bonnie > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 13, 2009 Report Share Posted January 13, 2009 Though this may not technically be an affirmation, I thought this would be a good place to comment on a "realization" of something I've learned in this whole maze of things over the years after having to forego climbing trees and belly dancing (never quite mastered that)...I have honestly learned to be patient. And I think it to the level where I don't even think about it, it has just become part of who I am. I was never what you'd typically call an IMpatient person, but one who certainly didn't have the patience of Jobe. Here's the story....last summer I ordered some jeans online. They've got a little bling on the front and back pockets, very trendy in today's fashion, in that they're sort'ove low rise, and the back pockets are low in the boodie section, they're distressed, have faded spots, wear and tear areas, really sharp looking, and had a hefty price tag BUT were marked down ridicuously low. They didn't have any in my particular size (which I really don't know what that is in today's jeans) but since they were marked down so low and I love, loved the way they looked I ordered them. Of course they were about 6 inches too long - when will the designers/manufacturers ever realize that we're not all born with 40 inch long legs! These are also stretch denim jeans but by no means look like polyester. So when they arrived I tried them on, and pinned the hemlines UP to where I could get a better look-see as to how they fit, other than having way too much width where the front pockets are rivited - right across the widest part, and one of the most difficult areas to alter ...however they fit so well in the crotch area, and didn't accentuate my BELLY FAT, I saw some potential in the jeans, but with lots of alterations, and I mean lots. The outer cut of the upper legs had excess fabric as well. Also, there was the hemming that was necessary and to me, jeans just have to have that stitched machine type hem. To do a hemline like those on dress pants, without that heavy topstitching, then the jeans don't look like jeans (IMHO). I should also mention that I had, had being the operative word here, no jeans that fit, since I had gained some weight over a period of time, and the jeans I would wear I would always wear a long tunic top to cover up what lied underneath...gotta love those tunics! Since November I've really been cutting back on calories, and finally am starting to see some progress - minimal but yet progress (est. 7 lbs.).... One more thing here - I have two sewing machines but have yet to locate them since our move to this house in 2005. It was during my recovery of my 3rd surgery so I wasn't involved in the move, plus we were consolidating things from my mom's house ... still a lot of topsy turvey ... so I knew that if I was going to embark on this major jean overhaul that it would be via sewing by hand. Since I've already over-extended internet space with preliminary details, I'll cut to the chase...it took me over a month, but I pulled it off, hem and all! They now fit! AND, they don't just look like jeans that had some seams taken up and hemmed, they look custom fit. It was a long journey that I considered many times abandoning, but I had an image in my mind of wearing them with a top that didn't have to come down to my knees (I'm not a vain person, but geez, I live in flannel gowns & just wanted these jeans to fit!) ...so Saturday I finished them. I surprised Bob with a mini-fashion show, sporting the jeans with a cute top. Was he ever surprised! I told him I could actually see the blue in his eyes as he was checking me out!! It dawned on my while ago that in a different day/time/body condition/life experiences that I would never have had the patience to meticuously do all of the work by hand - to the point of finished, ready to wear. SO, what I have learned, and what has evidently become part of who I am now, is patience...on a whole new level. Makes me proud of myself! Ok, end of story, just had to tell someone!! G [ ] Re: Affirmations Hi Bonnie,This is great! Today, I have emailed my flatback friends and put a crock pot of chili on for my work buddies. Yum! Thanks for the tip. Life is a little brighter if I look out instead of in. >> Hi Everyone,> > I've been having a few issues lately not related to Flatback or revision surgery, and so has my daughter. Since I'm not at a great place to help her spirits much, and she's not in a great place to help mine, I devised a way for us to help ourselves and each other, and it seems to work. I told her that we should send each other an email every day, telling each other what we have to be grateful for that day, and what it is that we've done for ourselves that day to make us feel good. For instance, a few days ago, I emailed my daughter that I was grateful that day for my pain doctor giving me his pager number, and, the thing I did for myself that day to make me feel good was that I wore my favorite sweater instead of "saving" it... Simple things. We email each other in the evening. So, I need to live my live each day thinking of what I am grateful for that day and I need to find something each day to do to make myself feel good. It takes work, but it makes me much calmer and keeps my mind off the bad stuff, and I enjoy the stuff I do for myself each day. I thought that this might help anyone in the Group going through a rough time. So, try it!> > Bonnie> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 13, 2009 Report Share Posted January 13, 2009 Great story!!!! Yeah....I'm the belly dance girl who pretty much blew a gasket in my back last summer that led to my surgery...it was coming sooner or later...I had other issues going on in there that i was not aware of. My thing is to never let anyone or anything define who you are. You were not detered from you mission with the jeans and you saw a vision of yourself and you went for it----despite obstacles. Me, first fusion at 8----dr. said that I could do what I wanted...I did gymnastics. Next fusion and rod at 16, yes in the big ol cast, around my head so my neck didn't move and down to my hips. I went sled riding down a construction site hill 2 months later! Had a blast! I had to be loaded on and rolled of the sled and climbing the hill was a bitch ...but I did it. spent the nest 30 years having children, riding coasters, water skiinbg, belly dancing...etc. Now, 6 weeks after my lower fusion...I was a little depressed reading about other peoples limitiations, But then I reminded myself, I am only limited if I let myself be. I need to recapture that childhood spirit of just taking on the world carefree. Just like the jeans story, I will envision my life and just go for it!!! Thank you for the story!!! Lynn Ps...thinking about getting some CRAZY tattoo up the scar on my back when i'm healed. Something beautiful and symbolic. Time to embrace my history!!!! From: Gross <lgross1@...> Sent: Tuesday, January 13, 2009 7:19:18 PMSubject: Re: [ ] Re: Affirmations Though this may not technically be an affirmation, I thought this would be a good place to comment on a "realization" of something I've learned in this whole maze of things over the years after having to forego climbing trees and belly dancing (never quite mastered that)...I have honestly learned to be patient. And I think it to the level where I don't even think about it, it has just become part of who I am. I was never what you'd typically call an IMpatient person, but one who certainly didn't have the patience of Jobe. Here's the story....last summer I ordered some jeans online. They've got a little bling on the front and back pockets, very trendy in today's fashion, in that they're sort'ove low rise, and the back pockets are low in the boodie section, they're distressed, have faded spots, wear and tear areas, really sharp looking, and had a hefty price tag BUT were marked down ridicuously low. They didn't have any in my particular size (which I really don't know what that is in today's jeans) but since they were marked down so low and I love, loved the way they looked I ordered them. Of course they were about 6 inches too long - when will the designers/manufactu rers ever realize that we're not all born with 40 inch long legs! These are also stretch denim jeans but by no means look like polyester. So when they arrived I tried them on, and pinned the hemlines UP to where I could get a better look-see as to how they fit, other than having way too much width where the front pockets are rivited - right across the widest part, and one of the most difficult areas to alter ...however they fit so well in the crotch area, and didn't accentuate my BELLY FAT, I saw some potential in the jeans, but with lots of alterations, and I mean lots. The outer cut of the upper legs had excess fabric as well. Also, there was the hemming that was necessary and to me, jeans just have to have that stitched machine type hem. To do a hemline like those on dress pants, without that heavy topstitching, then the jeans don't look like jeans (IMHO). I should also mention that I had, had being the operative word here, no jeans that fit, since I had gained some weight over a period of time, and the jeans I would wear I would always wear a long tunic top to cover up what lied underneath.. .gotta love those tunics! Since November I've really been cutting back on calories, and finally am starting to see some progress - minimal but yet progress (est. 7 lbs.).... One more thing here - I have two sewing machines but have yet to locate them since our move to this house in 2005. It was during my recovery of my 3rd surgery so I wasn't involved in the move, plus we were consolidating things from my mom's house ... still a lot of topsy turvey ... so I knew that if I was going to embark on this major jean overhaul that it would be via sewing by hand. Since I've already over-extended internet space with preliminary details, I'll cut to the chase...it took me over a month, but I pulled it off, hem and all! They now fit! AND, they don't just look like jeans that had some seams taken up and hemmed, they look custom fit. It was a long journey that I considered many times abandoning, but I had an image in my mind of wearing them with a top that didn't have to come down to my knees (I'm not a vain person, but geez, I live in flannel gowns & just wanted these jeans to fit!) ...so Saturday I finished them. I surprised Bob with a mini-fashion show, sporting the jeans with a cute top. Was he ever surprised! I told him I could actually see the blue in his eyes as he was checking me out!! It dawned on my while ago that in a different day/time/body condition/life experiences that I would never have had the patience to meticuously do all of the work by hand - to the point of finished, ready to wear. SO, what I have learned, and what has evidently become part of who I am now, is patience...on a whole new level. Makes me proud of myself! Ok, end of story, just had to tell someone!! G [ ] Re: Affirmations Hi Bonnie,This is great! Today, I have emailed my flatback friends and put a crock pot of chili on for my work buddies. Yum! Thanks for the tip. Life is a little brighter if I look out instead of in. >> Hi Everyone,> > I've been having a few issues lately not related to Flatback or revision surgery, and so has my daughter. Since I'm not at a great place to help her spirits much, and she's not in a great place to help mine, I devised a way for us to help ourselves and each other, and it seems to work. I told her that we should send each other an email every day, telling each other what we have to be grateful for that day, and what it is that we've done for ourselves that day to make us feel good. For instance, a few days ago, I emailed my daughter that I was grateful that day for my pain doctor giving me his pager number, and, the thing I did for myself that day to make me feel good was that I wore my favorite sweater instead of "saving" it... Simple things. We email each other in the evening. So, I need to live my live each day thinking of what I am grateful for that day and I need to find something each day to do to make myself feel good. It takes work, but it makes me much calmer and keeps my mind off the bad stuff, and I enjoy the stuff I do for myself each day. I thought that this might help anyone in the Group going through a rough time. So, try it!> > Bonnie> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 13, 2009 Report Share Posted January 13, 2009 Hey Lynn, Somehow I have this vision of you belly dancing wearing a Wonder Woman suit! Thanks for reading my long story about the jeans...I did feel really good about my perserverance once I realize that I DID finish the project with all the work & re-work (patience). But listen, keep the belly dancing, sled riding down that hill, and WHATEVER ELSE you're conjuring up (grin!) at game plans in your head or on paper UNTIL you've healed, OK? Love your enthusiasm, girl! Very contagious! G [ ] Re: Affirmations Hi Bonnie,This is great! Today, I have emailed my flatback friends and put a crock pot of chili on for my work buddies. Yum! Thanks for the tip. Life is a little brighter if I look out instead of in. >> Hi Everyone,> > I've been having a few issues lately not related to Flatback or revision surgery, and so has my daughter. Since I'm not at a great place to help her spirits much, and she's not in a great place to help mine, I devised a way for us to help ourselves and each other, and it seems to work. I told her that we should send each other an email every day, telling each other what we have to be grateful for that day, and what it is that we've done for ourselves that day to make us feel good. For instance, a few days ago, I emailed my daughter that I was grateful that day for my pain doctor giving me his pager number, and, the thing I did for myself that day to make me feel good was that I wore my favorite sweater instead of "saving" it... Simple things. We email each other in the evening. So, I need to live my live each day thinking of what I am grateful for that day and I need to find something each day to do to make myself feel good. It takes work, but it makes me much calmer and keeps my mind off the bad stuff, and I enjoy the stuff I do for myself each day. I thought that this might help anyone in the Group going through a rough time. So, try it!> > Bonnie> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 13, 2009 Report Share Posted January 13, 2009 G, How inspiring! I wish my surgery had given me a patient spirit like yours. It sounds like you got a good dose of perseverance, too! I think I learned compassion for others through my surgery. I learned not to judge people by the outside. Being "deformed", although "fixed" by the surgery, gave me a compassion for those who aren't perfect. One of my dearest friends is a gal who had a difficult birth causing her limited intelligence and some odd physical characteristics. Before my surgery as a teen, life was all about fitting in. In the years following this time I have often gravitated to the hurting. My kids say I am a magnet for people with struggles. I generally am not well equipped to do much except be a friend and a listening ear. I would say that without the surgery as a kid, I would not have this tender place in my heart for those who have difficulties. When I was anticipating that first surgery I remember asking my mom the "why me" question. Her response really stuck with me, and perhaps that is why I directed my energy toward compassion for others. She opened her Bible and showed me 2 Corinthians 1:3-5. It talks about the comfort God gives us in our troubles, and how we are then able to comfort others in trouble. It does always help to get my eyes off of my own struggles when I can encourage someone else. I really appreciated this topic (thanks, Bonnie!) and hearing people share ways that they find to be encouraged despite the difficulties they face. Wearing the good sweater instead of saving it was great! Diane VDW Though this may not technically be an affirmation, I thought this would be a good place to comment on a "realization" of something I've learned in this whole maze of things over the years after having to forego climbing trees and belly dancing (never quite mastered that)...I have honestly learned to be patient. And I think it to the level where I don't even think about it, it has just become part of who I am. I was never what you'd typically call an IMpatient person, but one who certainly didn't have the patience of Jobe. Here's the story....last summer I ordered some jeans online. They've got a little bling on the front and back pockets, very trendy in today's fashion, in that they're sort'ove low rise, and the back pockets are low in the boodie section, they're distressed, have faded spots, wear and tear areas, really sharp looking, and had a hefty price tag BUT were marked down ridicuously low. They didn't have any in my particular size (which I really don't know what that is in today's jeans) but since they were marked down so low and I love, loved the way they looked I ordered them. Of course they were about 6 inches too long - when will the designers/manufacturers ever realize that we're not all born with 40 inch long legs! These are also stretch denim jeans but by no means look like polyester. So when they arrived I tried them on, and pinned the hemlines UP to where I could get a better look-see as to how they fit, other than having way too much width where the front pockets are rivited - right across the widest part, and one of the most difficult areas to alter ...however they fit so well in the crotch area, and didn't accentuate my BELLY FAT, I saw some potential in the jeans, but with lots of alterations, and I mean lots. The outer cut of the upper legs had excess fabric as well. Also, there was the hemming that was necessary and to me, jeans just have to have that stitched machine type hem. To do a hemline like those on dress pants, without that heavy topstitching, then the jeans don't look like jeans (IMHO). I should also mention that I had, had being the operative word here, no jeans that fit, since I had gained some weight over a period of time, and the jeans I would wear I would always wear a long tunic top to cover up what lied underneath...gotta love those tunics! Since November I've really been cutting back on calories, and finally am starting to see some progress - minimal but yet progress (est. 7 lbs.).... One more thing here - I have two sewing machines but have yet to locate them since our move to this house in 2005. It was during my recovery of my 3rd surgery so I wasn't involved in the move, plus we were consolidating things from my mom's house ... still a lot of topsy turvey ... so I knew that if I was going to embark on this major jean overhaul that it would be via sewing by hand. Since I've already over-extended internet space with preliminary details, I'll cut to the chase...it took me over a month, but I pulled it off, hem and all! They now fit! AND, they don't just look like jeans that had some seams taken up and hemmed, they look custom fit. It was a long journey that I considered many times abandoning, but I had an image in my mind of wearing them with a top that didn't have to come down to my knees (I'm not a vain person, but geez, I live in flannel gowns & just wanted these jeans to fit!) ...so Saturday I finished them. I surprised Bob with a mini-fashion show, sporting the jeans with a cute top. Was he ever surprised! I told him I could actually see the blue in his eyes as he was checking me out!! It dawned on my while ago that in a different day/time/body condition/life experiences that I would never have had the patience to meticuously do all of the work by hand - to the point of finished, ready to wear. SO, what I have learned, and what has evidently become part of who I am now, is patience...on a whole new level. Makes me proud of myself! Ok, end of story, just had to tell someone!! 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Guest guest Posted January 14, 2009 Report Share Posted January 14, 2009 Dear , What warmed my heart about your story is not that you had patience girl, but, that you did a little fashion show, (had pride in yourself) and put a gleam in his eye....NOW that is a man worth keeping. One that can trot down the scoli lane and still twinkle. Love it. > > > > Hi Everyone, > > > > I've been having a few issues lately not related to Flatback or > revision surgery, and so has my daughter. Since I'm not at a great > place to help her spirits much, and she's not in a great place to > help mine, I devised a way for us to help ourselves and each other, > and it seems to work. I told her that we should send each other an > email every day, telling each other what we have to be grateful for > that day, and what it is that we've done for ourselves that day to > make us feel good. For instance, a few days ago, I emailed my > daughter that I was grateful that day for my pain doctor giving me > his pager number, and, the thing I did for myself that day to make me > feel good was that I wore my favorite sweater instead of " saving " > it... Simple things. We email each other in the evening. So, I need > to live my live each day thinking of what I am grateful for that day > and I need to find something each day to do to make myself feel > good. It takes work, but it makes me much calmer and keeps my mind > off the bad stuff, and I enjoy the stuff I do for myself each day. I > thought that this might help anyone in the Group going through a > rough time. So, try it! > > > > Bonnie > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2009 Report Share Posted January 15, 2009 Diane - WOW! Compassion for others is just about one of the most unselfish characteristics, a virtue, if you will. I think that in today's fast paced world, things like patience, compassion, affirmations, just fly out the window. And though we all in this forum haven't had our lives come to a halt, as we are all different, different levels of severity, correction, abilities, etc., it has slowed us down a bit. We spend less time in the fast lane (fast lane meaning life as it was before the flatback, in this case) and more time resting, or going at a slower pace which, for me, means more idle time for thinking (scarey thought!!)...I think no doubt we've probablly all re-evaluated our lives, perhaps delved into the wonders of the meanings of life, just taking more time to intake and process things...if that makes sense. I'd bet each of us has gotten "something" out of this whole experience, a realization of some inner quality, or will someday. I also hope the kids who were so cruel and critical as teens have in some way learned that life is about so much more than making themselves feel more important, or better than others by being rude to others. A wake-up call of some sorts...but life and life's experiences aren't the same for everyone. Some kids and teens don't seem capable of being compassionate and I guess some of the experts might say that it is about maturity, but I remember some people back in the younger, younger days who did seem to be on a different level, sensitive to others - I guess it is what or who we are inside and what we I loved what you shared about your mother's wisdom in showing you what you weree searching for in the Bible. I can see how that would be a moment that would stick with you the rest of your life. That is beautiful and moving. Lastly, there's a song that used to be popular, I didn't necessarily enjoy hearing the song on the radio, and didn't percieve it as a Womens' Liberation Song, but as a true, inner spirit of strength, widsom and confidence.... it is "I Am Woman" sung and perhaps written by Hellen Reddy. I love the words in that song. G Re: [ ] Re: Affirmations G, How inspiring! I wish my surgery had given me a patient spirit like yours. It sounds like you got a good dose of perseverance, too! I think I learned compassion for others through my surgery. I learned not to judge people by the outside. Being "deformed", although "fixed" by the surgery, gave me a compassion for those who aren't perfect. One of my dearest friends is a gal who had a difficult birth causing her limited intelligence and some odd physical characteristics. Before my surgery as a teen, life was all about fitting in. In the years following this time I have often gravitated to the hurting. My kids say I am a magnet for people with struggles. I generally am not well equipped to do much except be a friend and a listening ear. I would say that without the surgery as a kid, I would not have this tender place in my heart for those who have difficulties. When I was anticipating that first surgery I remember asking my mom the "why me" question. Her response really stuck with me, and perhaps that is why I directed my energy toward compassion for others. She opened her Bible and showed me 2 Corinthians 1:3-5. It talks about the comfort God gives us in our troubles, and how we are then able to comfort others in trouble. It does always help to get my eyes off of my own struggles when I can encourage someone else. I really appreciated this topic (thanks, Bonnie!) and hearing people share ways that they find to be encouraged despite the difficulties they face. Wearing the good sweater instead of saving it was great! Diane VDW Though this may not technically be an affirmation, I thought this would be a good place to comment on a "realization" of something I've learned in this whole maze of things over the years after having to forego climbing trees and belly dancing (never quite mastered that)...I have honestly learned to be patient. And I think it to the level where I don't even think about it, it has just become part of who I am. I was never what you'd typically call an IMpatient person, but one who certainly didn't have the patience of Jobe. Here's the story....last summer I ordered some jeans online. They've got a little bling on the front and back pockets, very trendy in today's fashion, in that they're sort'ove low rise, and the back pockets are low in the boodie section, they're distressed, have faded spots, wear and tear areas, really sharp looking, and had a hefty price tag BUT were marked down ridicuously low. They didn't have any in my particular size (which I really don't know what that is in today's jeans) but since they were marked down so low and I love, loved the way they looked I ordered them. Of course they were about 6 inches too long - when will the designers/manufacturers ever realize that we're not all born with 40 inch long legs! These are also stretch denim jeans but by no means look like polyester. So when they arrived I tried them on, and pinned the hemlines UP to where I could get a better look-see as to how they fit, other than having way too much width where the front pockets are rivited - right across the widest part, and one of the most difficult areas to alter ...however they fit so well in the crotch area, and didn't accentuate my BELLY FAT, I saw some potential in the jeans, but with lots of alterations, and I mean lots. The outer cut of the upper legs had excess fabric as well. Also, there was the hemming that was necessary and to me, jeans just have to have that stitched machine type hem. To do a hemline like those on dress pants, without that heavy topstitching, then the jeans don't look like jeans (IMHO). I should also mention that I had, had being the operative word here, no jeans that fit, since I had gained some weight over a period of time, and the jeans I would wear I would always wear a long tunic top to cover up what lied underneath...gotta love those tunics! Since November I've really been cutting back on calories, and finally am starting to see some progress - minimal but yet progress (est. 7 lbs.).... One more thing here - I have two sewing machines but have yet to locate them since our move to this house in 2005. It was during my recovery of my 3rd surgery so I wasn't involved in the move, plus we were consolidating things from my mom's house ... still a lot of topsy turvey ... so I knew that if I was going to embark on this major jean overhaul that it would be via sewing by hand. Since I've already over-extended internet space with preliminary details, I'll cut to the chase...it took me over a month, but I pulled it off, hem and all! They now fit! AND, they don't just look like jeans that had some seams taken up and hemmed, they look custom fit. It was a long journey that I considered many times abandoning, but I had an image in my mind of wearing them with a top that didn't have to come down to my knees (I'm not a vain person, but geez, I live in flannel gowns & just wanted these jeans to fit!) ...so Saturday I finished them. I surprised Bob with a mini-fashion show, sporting the jeans with a cute top. Was he ever surprised! I told him I could actually see the blue in his eyes as he was checking me out!! It dawned on my while ago that in a different day/time/body condition/life experiences that I would never have had the patience to meticuously do all of the work by hand - to the point of finished, ready to wear. SO, what I have learned, and what has evidently become part of who I am now, is patience...on a whole new level. Makes me proud of myself! Ok, end of story, just had to tell someone!! G____________________________________________________________ Click to find information on international programs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2009 Report Share Posted January 15, 2009 - I never even thought of all of that! I shared that with Bob and got a nice warm smile. It was a moment though - I was ready to go hit a runway somewhere! I then put my warm flannel gown back on and that pretty much ended the moment!! G [ ] Re: Affirmations Dear ,What warmed my heart about your story is not that you had patience girl, but, that you did a little fashion show, (had pride in yourself) and put a gleam in his eye....NOW that is a man worth keeping. One that can trot down the scoli lane and still twinkle. Love it. > >> > Hi Everyone,> > > > I've been having a few issues lately not related to Flatback or > revision surgery, and so has my daughter. Since I'm not at a great > place to help her spirits much, and she's not in a great place to > help mine, I devised a way for us to help ourselves and each other, > and it seems to work. I told her that we should send each other an > email every day, telling each other what we have to be grateful for > that day, and what it is that we've done for ourselves that day to > make us feel good. For instance, a few days ago, I emailed my > daughter that I was grateful that day for my pain doctor giving me > his pager number, and, the thing I did for myself that day to make me > feel good was that I wore my favorite sweater instead of "saving" > it... Simple things. We email each other in the evening. So, I need > to live my live each day thinking of what I am grateful for that day > and I need to find something each day to do to make myself feel > good. It takes work, but it makes me much calmer and keeps my mind > off the bad stuff, and I enjoy the stuff I do for myself each day. I > thought that this might help anyone in the Group going through a > rough time. So, try it!> > > > Bonnie> >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 30, 2009 Report Share Posted January 30, 2009 Lynn, I am enjoying a quiet evening at home randomly reading a few old threads. Normally, Friday is date night, but hubby is tired after 3 snow days and having to return to work (school) today. It seems he played too hard with the neighbor kids (those of you who " know " him will get this) and being at work today with the plain old school kids depleted the remainder of his steam. He also decided to shovel the drive after work and for some odd reason, started at the street in stead of the front porch, so I had to walk across about 5 feet of ice to get to the steps. Gotta love him - he hears his own drumbeat for sure!!! But that's not why I am responding.... Before and after revision, the most difficult part for me was the anterior incision. Adam (a.k.a. hubby) is convinced I should get a zipper tattoo on top of it. NOT going to happen. But if you are looking for creative ideas, there's a spark... kam > > > > Hi Everyone, > > > > I've been having a few issues lately not related to Flatback or > revision surgery, and so has my daughter. Since I'm not at a great > place to help her spirits much, and she's not in a great place to > help mine, I devised a way for us to help ourselves and each other, > and it seems to work. I told her that we should send each other an > email every day, telling each other what we have to be grateful for > that day, and what it is that we've done for ourselves that day to > make us feel good. For instance, a few days ago, I emailed my > daughter that I was grateful that day for my pain doctor giving me > his pager number, and, the thing I did for myself that day to make me > feel good was that I wore my favorite sweater instead of " saving " > it... Simple things. We email each other in the evening. So, I need > to live my live each day thinking of what I am grateful for that day > and I need to find something each day to do to make myself feel > good. It takes work, but it makes me much calmer and keeps my mind > off the bad stuff, and I enjoy the stuff I do for myself each day. I > thought that this might help anyone in the Group going through a > rough time. So, try it! > > > > Bonnie > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 31, 2009 Report Share Posted January 31, 2009 Awesome idea - I like the pic! I like the zipper idea too - seems quite appropriate for us, since we've had to have more than one surgery. However, I think that a tattoo over our posterior scars would be horribly painful. I have one on my arm and while that one hurt quite a bit, it was tolerable. But people who get them in places where there is bone directly underneath the skin (i.e. on their foot) say that it is incredibly painful compared to getting them in other places. I can only imagine how much it might hurt on our spines - especially since most of us have hardware so close to the skin. My back muscles would likely tense and cramp up very tightly during such a tattoo too. If the tattoo were on my anterior scar, well - it'd be had to cover a lot more than my surgical scar! I've got pregnancy stretch marks that go all over my tummy I didn't get a single stretch mark during my first pregnancy, but my second little one really did me in! And both of my kids were only in the 5 pound range - yikes! I can't imagine having a larger baby! > > Definitely not a zipper!! tell him thanks for the idea! > I don't know if this image willl show up but here is a link to > the tattoo! I was looking at the cherry blossom. > I thought it was beautiful, plus it is the symbol > for spring and new beginning. (see below) > I really can't do it for a year and a half or two years, that's > the time one has to wait for scar healing so it will give time > to think about the decision. > It's funny, but I teach high school math and science, > but I guess I don't look very geeky. My students just > assume I have tattoos and are surprised that I don't have any. > I have piercings but they are safe because you can always take > them out!!! Tattoos are FOREVER, unless you have thousands of > dollars to laser them off! > > PS...we're sick of shoveling snow here too and now they > are talking about the nor easter coming! It might miss Pittsburgh > if it takes a southern track. I normally don't mind snow...just not > in good shape to shovel it! I can do the snow plow shovel thing if there > is not alot of snow, but I might have to get some help if we get hit > with the snow! > thanks for the thoughts!! lynn > > http://www.dragonflyink.com/botanical_tattoos.html Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 31, 2009 Report Share Posted January 31, 2009 thanks for the encouragement!! Yeah...the tattoo artist I talked to said people get tattoos on scars all the time, BUT it can be more painful----or not too bad if the nerves are so messed up that they are deadened! We'll see...I just would rather have something really cool to look at then ugly scars, especially in the summer when things are a lttle more exposed! take care! lynn From: rebeccamaas <rebeccamaas@...> Sent: Saturday, January 31, 2009 12:35:36 PMSubject: [Flatbac_Revised] Re: Affirmations Awesome idea - I like the pic! I like the zipper idea too - seems quite appropriate for us, since we've had to have more than one surgery. However, I think that a tattoo over our posterior scars would be horribly painful. I have one on my arm and while that one hurt quite a bit, it was tolerable. But people who get them in places where there is bone directly underneath the skin (i.e. on their foot) say that it is incredibly painful compared to getting them in other places. I can only imagine how much it might hurt on our spines - especially since most of us have hardware so close to the skin. My back muscles would likely tense and cramp up very tightly during such a tattoo too. If the tattoo were on my anterior scar, well - it'd be had to cover a lot more than my surgical scar! I've got pregnancy stretch marks that go all over my tummy I didn't get a single stretch mark during my first pregnancy, but my second little one really did me in! And both of my kids were only in the 5 pound range - yikes! I can't imagine having a larger baby!>> Definitely not a zipper!! tell him thanks for the idea!> I don't know if this image willl show up but here is a link to> the tattoo! I was looking at the cherry blossom.> I thought it was beautiful, plus it is the symbol> for spring and new beginning. (see below)> I really can't do it for a year and a half or two years, that's> the time one has to wait for scar healing so it will give time> to think about the decision.> It's funny, but I teach high school math and science,> but I guess I don't look very geeky. My students just> assume I have tattoos and are surprised that I don't have any.> I have piercings but they are safe because you can always take> them out!!! Tattoos are FOREVER, unless you have thousands of> dollars to laser them off!> > PS...we're sick of shoveling snow here too and now they> are talking about the nor easter coming! It might miss Pittsburgh> if it takes a southern track. I normally don't mind snow...just not> in good shape to shovel it! I can do the snow plow shovel thing if there> is not alot of snow, but I might have to get some help if we get hit> with the snow!> thanks for the thoughts!! lynn> > http://www.dragonfl yink.com/ botanical_ tattoos.html Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 1, 2009 Report Share Posted February 1, 2009 Kam, that's so funny. When I was in for my revision, between the neurosurgery and the ortho surgery they had my back open 3 times, on top of my 1971 scar. When I saw Dr. Rand for my one year follow-up I mentioned how great my anterior scar looks, but that the posterior, well, they had that open so many times they should have put a zipper on it. He grinned, then of course he had to tell me of the steps they had taken to minimize that scar as much as possible. But the zipper tattoo -- ha-ha -- not going to happen on my old bod either, but wouldn't it be a laugh to show that to your surgeon! Sharon advokam wrote: Lynn, I am enjoying a quiet evening at home randomly reading a few old threads. Normally, Friday is date night, but hubby is tired after 3 snow days and having to return to work (school) today. It seems he played too hard with the neighbor kids (those of you who "know" him will get this) and being at work today with the plain old school kids depleted the remainder of his steam. He also decided to shovel the drive after work and for some odd reason, started at the street in stead of the front porch, so I had to walk across about 5 feet of ice to get to the steps. Gotta love him - he hears his own drumbeat for sure!!! But that's not why I am responding.... Before and after revision, the most difficult part for me was the anterior incision. Adam (a.k.a. hubby) is convinced I should get a zipper tattoo on top of it. NOT going to happen. But if you are looking for creative ideas, there's a spark... kam > > > > Hi Everyone, > > > > I've been having a few issues lately not related to Flatback or > revision surgery, and so has my daughter. Since I'm not at a great > place to help her spirits much, and she's not in a great place to > help mine, I devised a way for us to help ourselves and each other, > and it seems to work. I told her that we should send each other an > email every day, telling each other what we have to be grateful for > that day, and what it is that we've done for ourselves that day to > make us feel good. For instance, a few days ago, I emailed my > daughter that I was grateful that day for my pain doctor giving me > his pager number, and, the thing I did for myself that day to make me > feel good was that I wore my favorite sweater instead of "saving" > it... Simple things. We email each other in the evening. So, I need > to live my live each day thinking of what I am grateful for that day > and I need to find something each day to do to make myself feel > good. It takes work, but it makes me much calmer and keeps my mind > off the bad stuff, and I enjoy the stuff I do for myself each day. I > thought that this might help anyone in the Group going through a > rough time. So, try it! > > > > Bonnie > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 1, 2009 Report Share Posted February 1, 2009 Hi, I've never cared about the scar down my back. ((My surgeries were all posterior only.) After all, I can't see the scar so I don't care what it looks like! Bonnie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2010 Report Share Posted January 3, 2010 Affirmations by Owen Waters Affirmations are used to reprogram the subconscious mind in a desired direction. This helps to empower you to move through emotional blockages which may be limiting your opportunities to experience life to the fullest. Every time you make a mental affirmation, your subconscious mind hears it and adjusts towards the reality of that statement. The subconscious mind does not filter, it just acts on your statements. It is important, therefore, that you feed yourself positive thoughts about who you are. A great way to start is to make a habit of using the classic affirmation, " Every day, in every way, I am becoming better and better. " Ignore any skepticism that arises inside you when you start doing this. That's just the automatic response which comes from resistance to change. Remember, for every action in life, there is an opposite and equal reaction. When you launch into an action which will cause change, resistance to change can manifest as the automatic, opposite reaction. Just carry out your action regardless. Keep going with your affirmation, and turn it into a habit. The phrase used in the Infinite Being Meditation is extremely powerful. " I am Infinite Being " is an affirmation of your oneness with the consciousness from which all life sprang. If you find issues arising from this, such as feeling unworthy to be aligned with All That Is, then just let those thoughts go and bring your focus back onto the phrase. You do not have to justify the words or settle any internal argument about them just because of some prior conditioning as to how someone said that you " should " think in this life. Maintain the inner discipline to stay with the affirmation and let the issues fade away unchallenged. Your inner self knows the meaning of the words and resonates in joy with their exact and literal truth. Every time you repeat this affirmation, you strengthen your realization of your connection with Infinite Being. Any lesser thoughts then become healed in the light of the greater truth. For the complete Infinite Being Meditation technique, go to The Ultimate Meditation article at: http://www.infinitebeing.com/0405/ibmeditation.htm *If you enjoyed today's article, forward it to a friend! They will appreciate your thoughtfulness. This article was written by Owen Waters, author of " The Shift: The Revolution in Human Consciousness " Available in hardcover or via immediate download at: http://www.infinitebeing.com/theshift AOL users: <a href= " http://www.infinitebeing.com/theshift " > Click here for The Shift.</a> The Infinite Being newsletter brings you spiritual insights for the New Awareness each Sunday at your request from Infinite Being Publishing LLC, Delaware, USA. If you wish to STOP receiving articles, click this link: http://www.infinitebeing.com/secure/box.php?funcml=unsub2 & nl=6 & mi=304 & email=butterflygris@... or Reply to this email with the word Unsubscribe in the Subject line. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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