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Hi , welcome!

I have a son, 17, with OCD, which all began back around age 11.5.

Came on suddenly, it seemed, and about all of us here can say it

really does affect the family, so you're not alone there! I'm a

single mom with 3 sons. 's brothers weren't always

understanding about his OCD (to put it nicely); he has a twin, not

identical, and then an older brother (now 21).

Regarding medication - well, some doctors just seem to have a

favorite or one they are more familiar with prescribing. What you

can do is read up on the different ones and see if there's 1 or 2

you'd like to try first, some doctors are OK with parent input. For

instance with my son, who still (at 17!) doesn't swallow pills, he

had to have a liquid so that narrowed our choices down. Some

medications can put on weight, like I think Paxil (Paroxetine) is the

worst for that. And seems like one is more " activating " than the

others; can't recall which. The OCD Foundation website here has

information on medication:

http://www.ocfoundation.org/ocd-medication-children.html

Wish I had more time, but wanted to say " hi " and " welcome " ! I'm glad

you found us!

(North Carolina)

>

> Hi everyone!

>

> I am soooo glad to have found this group. I've been looking around

> and it seems like the perfect place for me right now.

>

> My daughter is 9 years old. She has always had little " quirks "

about

> her. In the past 4-5 months she has developed tics and I have been

> trying to get her help since then. We finally have an appointment

> next week with a child psykiatrist. (I live in Sweden and with

> socialized medicine there are waiting lists for just about

>

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Hello ,

I have a daughter that is 9 years also. This is my first time

responding to anyone. She was diagnosed last April after she

developed a disturbing tick after the birth of our fourth child. She

has always had " things " that worried us. Doctor after doctor told us

she was just a difficult child, even manipulative. One of her

teachers told us she thought she was allergic to blue die! We've

heard it all. The tick was the urning point for us. I went to her

school with my concerns and the team of teachers and therapists we

met with became a life saving force for us. Like you, we found

relief in a diagnosis. After months of cognitive therapy it became

clear we had to try meds. She was suffering so much, our whole

family was.

To medicate or not, it's sort of a journey you go on (at least for

us). We had to come to a place of acceptance; we had to be ready to

take that step. After we made the decision to try 5MGS of fluoxetine

I went home and had myself a good cry. Then we held our breath and

waited with much trepidation. To our delight, in a matter of 3 days

we noticed a less anxious and happier child. The tools she was being

taught in therapy really started to take hold. For our daughter the

meds have made a huge difference.

It's still a struggle for her. But we're all doing better at

managing it all.

I wish you luck.

(Het)

>

> Hi everyone!

>

> I am soooo glad to have found this group. I've been looking around

> and it seems like the perfect place for me right now.

>

> My daughter is 9 years old. She has always had little " quirks "

about

> her. In the past 4-5 months she has developed tics and I have been

> trying to get her help since then. We finally have an appointment

> next week with a child psykiatrist. (I live in Sweden and with

> socialized medicine there are waiting lists for just about

> everything). Supposedly someone specializing in childhood ocd and

> tourettes. I'm planning on compiling a list of all the symtoms my

> daughter has and reading some of the postings here made me realize

> that a lot of things she is all about are really symptoms of ocd

or

> tourettes!!! I didn't even KNOW!

>

> I am so scared and upset, but I am also hopeful. Finally, WE will

be

> getting help, this has been affecting the whole family. We are a

> total mess. One of the things I'm scared about are the

medications.

> There seem to be so many...how do they figure out just which one

> will help my daughter???? Will she be a guinea pig as I was trying

> to find a good AD for my depression years ago?

>

> I look forward to being here, giving and receiving support. This

is

> so very hard.

>

> Hugs,

>

>

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Hi, ,

This group is absolutely wonderful! The other night our son (14) was

in crisis and while my husband took him out of the house for a car

ride to try to calm him down, I posted a message asking about sleep

problems and within minutes people in the group were offering

suggestions and comfort.

As far as meds go, I don't think any parent wants to put their child

on them, but in our case it came to a point where there was no

question our son was suffering. It's been about 1.5 years and we are

still trying to find the right med(s), but he is a severe case. I'm

sure many people have had great luck right away. It's just that the

med thing is more of an art than a science. As my son's psychiatrist

said, if he could put his finger on the med that would help him, of

course he would. Just the nature of the illness and the meds,

unfortunately. Best of luck to you. Patty

>

> Hi everyone!

>

> I am soooo glad to have found this group. I've been looking around

> and it seems like the perfect place for me right now.

>

> My daughter is 9 years old. She has always had little " quirks "

about

> her. In the past 4-5 months she has developed tics and I have been

> trying to get her help since then. We finally have an appointment

> next week with a child psykiatrist. (I live in Sweden and with

> socialized medicine there are waiting lists for just about

> everything). Supposedly someone specializing in childhood ocd and

> tourettes. I'm planning on compiling a list of all the symtoms my

> daughter has and reading some of the postings here made me realize

> that a lot of things she is all about are really symptoms of ocd or

> tourettes!!! I didn't even KNOW!

>

> I am so scared and upset, but I am also hopeful. Finally, WE will

be

> getting help, this has been affecting the whole family. We are a

> total mess. One of the things I'm scared about are the medications.

> There seem to be so many...how do they figure out just which one

> will help my daughter???? Will she be a guinea pig as I was trying

> to find a good AD for my depression years ago?

>

> I look forward to being here, giving and receiving support. This is

> so very hard.

>

> Hugs,

>

>

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Hi, ,

This group is absolutely wonderful! The other night our son (14) was

in crisis and while my husband took him out of the house for a car

ride to try to calm him down, I posted a message asking about sleep

problems and within minutes people in the group were offering

suggestions and comfort.

As far as meds go, I don't think any parent wants to put their child

on them, but in our case it came to a point where there was no

question our son was suffering. It's been about 1.5 years and we are

still trying to find the right med(s), but he is a severe case. I'm

sure many people have had great luck right away. It's just that the

med thing is more of an art than a science. As my son's psychiatrist

said, if he could put his finger on the med that would help him, of

course he would. Just the nature of the illness and the meds,

unfortunately. Best of luck to you. Patty

>

> Hi everyone!

>

> I am soooo glad to have found this group. I've been looking around

> and it seems like the perfect place for me right now.

>

> My daughter is 9 years old. She has always had little " quirks "

about

> her. In the past 4-5 months she has developed tics and I have been

> trying to get her help since then. We finally have an appointment

> next week with a child psykiatrist. (I live in Sweden and with

> socialized medicine there are waiting lists for just about

> everything). Supposedly someone specializing in childhood ocd and

> tourettes. I'm planning on compiling a list of all the symtoms my

> daughter has and reading some of the postings here made me realize

> that a lot of things she is all about are really symptoms of ocd or

> tourettes!!! I didn't even KNOW!

>

> I am so scared and upset, but I am also hopeful. Finally, WE will

be

> getting help, this has been affecting the whole family. We are a

> total mess. One of the things I'm scared about are the medications.

> There seem to be so many...how do they figure out just which one

> will help my daughter???? Will she be a guinea pig as I was trying

> to find a good AD for my depression years ago?

>

> I look forward to being here, giving and receiving support. This is

> so very hard.

>

> Hugs,

>

>

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It is a tough decision with meds - I know when we first went on them I spent a

few nights crying wondering if I was doing the right thing, come a couple of

weeks later I never looked back. For it was necessary, he just could not

and can not cope without them. Having said that it was trial and error till we

found the right ones, well the ones that worked the best so far.

How do I cope, I don't think I do very well, but then other people always say

how do you do it....... I can yell and scream as good as my son LOL. But now I

try to take myself away from the situation providing no-one is in danger for 5

or 10 minutes until I can calm myself down. It is hard on his twin sister as she

is a " yuck " unless he is having a really good day then she is ok, but those days

are few and far between.

Anyway welcome to the group and good luck Jaxx (New Zealand)

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Another question I have is how your families are?

This affects all of us. My son, 11, is totally stressed out by his sister

not feeling well. I'm afraid that he is also developing symptoms. I know

that I can lose control sometimes. It scares me, but I get so upset and

irritated and scream even louder than my daughter does...sometimes. What do

you do to help yourself cope?

It's nice to hear that you all lose it sometimes. I find that yelling is the

only way to get Elise to STOP sometimes. Everything I've been taught these

past months tells me to remain calm, but sometimes I feel I need to

stronghold the OCD when it's so obviously controlling my daughter. I find

that telling her that I'm mad at the OCD and not her is comforting to both

of us. She is simply blinded by it sometimes.

I still find her behavior so hard to understand. She can be so scary to my

other children at times; my 8 year old daughter feels the brunt of it. They

are only 18 months apart and very close but when Elise is in the thick of

one of her " fits " , it's most often Sage who gets caught in the cross fire.

We have had talks with Sage about OCD, she's come to therapy with us and has

learned how to help her sister when she can and how to get out of the way

(so she doesn't get hurt) when she needs to. Our whole family unit has had

to learn how to cope and help Elise with the OCD.

IT'S SO DRAINING on my family.

We recently joined a support group for parents with children with anxiety.

It helps a bit but we are the only parents dealing with OCD in the group.

The other parents just can't understand what we go through every day. One of

the ways I'm coping with OCD is to reach out to all of you. I need

understanding from others who KNOW.

A question for all of you. Do any of your children have Textile issues that

go along with the OCD? My daughter suffers greatly from Textile Dysfunction

and cannot tolerate certain types of clothing touching her skin. Finding new

shoes can be a nightmare!

Also my daughters sleep is still suffering. We need to medicate her at night

so she can sleep, otherwise she's up all night and (very distraught). I'm

wondering when if at all will this get better for her?

TX

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Hi ,

I think all of our families are totally stressed out!

My 11 yr old dd just doesn't seem to understand her sister's(10) behavior. I

have bought her books and talked to her over and over. She just can't understand

why flips out over everything. My 11 yr old will instigate and make

things much worse. I wish she could learn to just get out of her way when she

goes off.

I too sometimes just " lose it and yell and scream " , than I feel awful

afterwards and cry myself to sleep. This is all very draining!!!!!!!! What we

all have been dealt is not easy! This group has definitely been my lifesaver!

Both my daughter and son(5) have sensory integration as well as ocd. It seems

to go hand in hand for many children.I think that was my first sign that

something was wrong with my son.

What does your dd take for sleep? Mine takes clonidine. It works well.

Hugs to you

Judy

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Hi ,

My 12 year old daughter has textile issues. There are certain types of

textures that she just cannot tolerate. It was worse when she was younger, so

maybe as she is maturing she is handling it better. Our whole family is affected

also. And yes, I lose control sometimes. I have screamed louder than her just so

she will hear me. It affects my other two children, too. My 16 and 8 year old

leave for school before does, so that has truly been a blessing for them.

We have school issues. She was just put on homebound status. I'm sad, but there

is a bit of relief. We have been dealing with her not wanted to go to school for

4 long years. Just hang in there and keep looking up.

God bless,

Becky

*Oh yeah, welcome!!

Ballard <hlballard@...> wrote:

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Another question I have is how your families are?

This affects all of us. My son, 11, is totally stressed out by his sister

not feeling well. I'm afraid that he is also developing symptoms. I know

that I can lose control sometimes. It scares me, but I get so upset and

irritated and scream even louder than my daughter does...sometimes. What do

you do to help yourself cope?

It's nice to hear that you all lose it sometimes. I find that yelling is the

only way to get Elise to STOP sometimes. Everything I've been taught these

past months tells me to remain calm, but sometimes I feel I need to

stronghold the OCD when it's so obviously controlling my daughter. I find

that telling her that I'm mad at the OCD and not her is comforting to both

of us. She is simply blinded by it sometimes.

I still find her behavior so hard to understand. She can be so scary to my

other children at times; my 8 year old daughter feels the brunt of it. They

are only 18 months apart and very close but when Elise is in the thick of

one of her " fits " , it's most often Sage who gets caught in the cross fire.

We have had talks with Sage about OCD, she's come to therapy with us and has

learned how to help her sister when she can and how to get out of the way

(so she doesn't get hurt) when she needs to. Our whole family unit has had

to learn how to cope and help Elise with the OCD.

IT'S SO DRAINING on my family.

We recently joined a support group for parents with children with anxiety.

It helps a bit but we are the only parents dealing with OCD in the group.

The other parents just can't understand what we go through every day. One of

the ways I'm coping with OCD is to reach out to all of you. I need

understanding from others who KNOW.

A question for all of you. Do any of your children have Textile issues that

go along with the OCD? My daughter suffers greatly from Textile Dysfunction

and cannot tolerate certain types of clothing touching her skin. Finding new

shoes can be a nightmare!

Also my daughters sleep is still suffering. We need to medicate her at night

so she can sleep, otherwise she's up all night and (very distraught). I'm

wondering when if at all will this get better for her?

TX

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>

> , ocd does affect the whole family but the good news is

there is help for that too. My dd, Bre(15) has ocd. We went to family

counseling to learn about the disorder and to help learn coping

skills. My son was acting up and needed to learn how to treat his

sister and how to cope himself. I also keep a journal of my feelings

and take time out for me.I have been on meds myself in the past and

seen a therapist to sort out my negative thoughts. I felt helpless

and alone. Now that I understand and accept ocd, it is much easier.

As far as when will all this get better...we had a terrible year and

then things finally mellowed out. Now there are ups and downs but the

worst seems to be over. Alot of hard work on Bre's part and riding

out the anxiety was the key. So there is hope too for the sufferer

and family. When I lose control, I shake it off and move on. I know I

can't be perfect all the time.

So hang in there and keep posting here. It does help reading and

talking to people who understand ocd!

(Hugs) Sandy

>

>

>

> _____

>

> Another question I have is how your families are?

>

>

>

> This affects all of us. My son, 11, is totally stressed out by his

sister

> not feeling well. I'm afraid that he is also developing symptoms. I

know

> that I can lose control sometimes. It scares me, but I get so upset

and

> irritated and scream even louder than my daughter does...sometimes.

What do

> you do to help yourself cope?

>

>

>

> It's nice to hear that you all lose it sometimes. I find that

yelling is the

> only way to get Elise to STOP sometimes. Everything I've been

taught these

> past months tells me to remain calm, but sometimes I feel I need to

> stronghold the OCD when it's so obviously controlling my daughter.

I find

> that telling her that I'm mad at the OCD and not her is comforting

to both

> of us. She is simply blinded by it sometimes.

>

>

>

> I still find her behavior so hard to understand. She can be so

scary to my

> other children at times; my 8 year old daughter feels the brunt of

it. They

> are only 18 months apart and very close but when Elise is in the

thick of

> one of her " fits " , it's most often Sage who gets caught in the

cross fire.

> We have had talks with Sage about OCD, she's come to therapy with

us and has

> learned how to help her sister when she can and how to get out of

the way

> (so she doesn't get hurt) when she needs to. Our whole family unit

has had

> to learn how to cope and help Elise with the OCD.

>

>

>

> IT'S SO DRAINING on my family.

>

>

>

> We recently joined a support group for parents with children with

anxiety.

> It helps a bit but we are the only parents dealing with OCD in the

group.

> The other parents just can't understand what we go through every

day. One of

> the ways I'm coping with OCD is to reach out to all of you. I need

> understanding from others who KNOW.

>

>

>

> A question for all of you. Do any of your children have Textile

issues that

> go along with the OCD? My daughter suffers greatly from Textile

Dysfunction

> and cannot tolerate certain types of clothing touching her skin.

Finding new

> shoes can be a nightmare!

>

>

>

> Also my daughters sleep is still suffering. We need to medicate her

at night

> so she can sleep, otherwise she's up all night and (very

distraught). I'm

> wondering when if at all will this get better for her?

>

>

>

> TX

>

>

>

>

>

>

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Judy,

She was on clonidine but complained of dry mouth. Her doctor said that is

not a common complaint but it was real for her and all she could think of,

so sleep was nonexistent coupled with much anxiety. After that we went back

to using allergy medicine (Diphenhydramine hydrochloride 25 mg). It's not

perfect but, coupled with reading seems to make her tired enough so the

thoughts don't plague her sleep. Still, I would like to see a day when just

sleep comes. I still hate giving her meds on a daily basis. But it helps so

I have to accept it as part of our lives.

Have you ever explored occupational therapy for sensory integration? It has

recently been suggested by Elise's therapist. We have asked the school to

make it part of her 504 plan (we have just started the process of setting up

that up). We are also having her evaluated for any other learning

difficulties. It's hard to tell if her mind is just clouded by the OCD and

anxiety or if she may have mild learning difficulties that need to be

defined. Everyone agrees she is a sharp child but some pieces seem to be out

of place.

I was good to hear from you. Thank you so much!

_____

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Sent: Wednesday, November 08, 2006 8:41 AM

Subject: RE: Re: I'm new here too!

Hi ,

I think all of our families are totally stressed out!

My 11 yr old dd just doesn't seem to understand her sister's(10) behavior. I

have bought her books and talked to her over and over. She just can't

understand why flips out over everything. My 11 yr old will

instigate and make things much worse. I wish she could learn to just get out

of her way when she goes off.

I too sometimes just " lose it and yell and scream " , than I feel awful

afterwards and cry myself to sleep. This is all very draining!!!!!!!! What

we all have been dealt is not easy! This group has definitely been my

lifesaver!

Both my daughter and son(5) have sensory integration as well as ocd. It

seems to go hand in hand for many children.I think that was my first sign

that something was wrong with my son.

What does your dd take for sleep? Mine takes clonidine. It works well.

Hugs to you

Judy

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My dd, Abby, is only 5, and her symptoms are pretty light compared to some. Her

older brother is almost 17, and just sees her as she is, this is just how she

is, she has quirks as we all do. He does tease her sometimes, which upsets me.

This isnt anything she can help or just not do. Her younger sister is 3 1/2 and

I do worry about her imitating a lot of Abby's issues, and wonder how do I know

if that is all it is, or if she really is showing signs. My dh doesnt see most

of it, most of it is me. I am here with her all the time and deal with her

during times of stress, so I get to deal with most of it. He sees some, but

claims he tells her to knock it off and she does. This group is a great way to

cope. It is so wonderful to know I am not alone, my child is not alone, and

that other people understand.

Sharon

SV: Re: I'm new here too!

Thank you ALL, for your welcome! I'm reading up on everything now and feel I

will be well prepared for our initial appointment next Wednesday. I now have no

doubt in my mind that my daughter suffers from OCD. I will make a list of all

symtoms, I will be calm and I will get her the help she needs. It looks like a

long wait till things will start calming down and I will work on that also.

Another question I have is how your families are? This affects all of us. My

son, 11, is totally stressed out by his sister not feeling well. I'm afraid that

he is also developing symtoms. I know that I can lose control sometimes. It

scares me, but I get so upset and irritated and scream even louder than my

daughter does...sometimes. What do you do to help yourself cope?

Hugs,

<@...> skrev:

Hi , welcome!

I have a son, 17, with OCD, which all began back around age 11.5.

Came on suddenly, it seemed, and about all of us here can say it

really does affect the family, so you're not alone there! I'm a

single mom with 3 sons. 's brothers weren't always

understanding about his OCD (to put it nicely); he has a twin, not

identical, and then an older brother (now 21).

Regarding medication - well, some doctors just seem to have a

favorite or one they are more familiar with prescribing. What you

can do is read up on the different ones and see if there's 1 or 2

you'd like to try first, some doctors are OK with parent input. For

instance with my son, who still (at 17!) doesn't swallow pills, he

had to have a liquid so that narrowed our choices down. Some

medications can put on weight, like I think Paxil (Paroxetine) is the

worst for that. And seems like one is more " activating " than the

others; can't recall which. The OCD Foundation website here has

information on medication:

http://www.ocfoundation.org/ocd-medication-children.html

Wish I had more time, but wanted to say " hi " and " welcome " ! I'm glad

you found us!

(North Carolina)

>

> Hi everyone!

>

> I am soooo glad to have found this group. I've been looking around

> and it seems like the perfect place for me right now.

>

> My daughter is 9 years old. She has always had little " quirks "

about

> her. In the past 4-5 months she has developed tics and I have been

> trying to get her help since then. We finally have an appointment

> next week with a child psykiatrist. (I live in Sweden and with

> socialized medicine there are waiting lists for just about

>

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Yes, we have issues with clothing. She has lots of sensory issues, clothing

being one of them. She has gotten MUCH better about that, though, as her OCD

and anxiety have gotten better. She actually wears tights and jeans now,

something she had never worn before! Shopping is awful, though. She needs to

try everything on, or it isnt even worth buying it for her.

Sharon

RE: Re: I'm new here too!

_____

Another question I have is how your families are?

This affects all of us. My son, 11, is totally stressed out by his sister

not feeling well. I'm afraid that he is also developing symptoms. I know

that I can lose control sometimes. It scares me, but I get so upset and

irritated and scream even louder than my daughter does...sometimes. What do

you do to help yourself cope?

It's nice to hear that you all lose it sometimes. I find that yelling is the

only way to get Elise to STOP sometimes. Everything I've been taught these

past months tells me to remain calm, but sometimes I feel I need to

stronghold the OCD when it's so obviously controlling my daughter. I find

that telling her that I'm mad at the OCD and not her is comforting to both

of us. She is simply blinded by it sometimes.

I still find her behavior so hard to understand. She can be so scary to my

other children at times; my 8 year old daughter feels the brunt of it. They

are only 18 months apart and very close but when Elise is in the thick of

one of her " fits " , it's most often Sage who gets caught in the cross fire.

We have had talks with Sage about OCD, she's come to therapy with us and has

learned how to help her sister when she can and how to get out of the way

(so she doesn't get hurt) when she needs to. Our whole family unit has had

to learn how to cope and help Elise with the OCD.

IT'S SO DRAINING on my family.

We recently joined a support group for parents with children with anxiety.

It helps a bit but we are the only parents dealing with OCD in the group.

The other parents just can't understand what we go through every day. One of

the ways I'm coping with OCD is to reach out to all of you. I need

understanding from others who KNOW.

A question for all of you. Do any of your children have Textile issues that

go along with the OCD? My daughter suffers greatly from Textile Dysfunction

and cannot tolerate certain types of clothing touching her skin. Finding new

shoes can be a nightmare!

Also my daughters sleep is still suffering. We need to medicate her at night

so she can sleep, otherwise she's up all night and (very distraught). I'm

wondering when if at all will this get better for her?

TX

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,

I cope by using the support of this group and by trying to have as

normal a life as possible. But it's definitely a day by day

(sometimes minute by minute) life. When this all first began with

meds/docs for my son (14 y/o) about 1.5 years ago, I had a very

difficult time accepting it. As much as I hate to admit it, I think I

had kind of a selfish response thinking " how could this happen to

me? " I've learned a lot as time has gone on and now my attitude is

more focused on relentlessly searching for help for my son to ease

his suffering and make his life better. I've pretty much stopped

feeling sorry for myself, but it took me a long time. I think it's ok

to let yourself respond however you respond and not feel bad/guilty

about that in addition to everything else. Now when I find myself

thinking negative, nonproductive thoughts and worrying about the

future, I TRY to re-focus on a positive thought, such as there are

new medicines coming out all the time, lots of research being done on

ocd, people with ocd can and do lead happy, productive lives, etc.

Best of luck to you, Patty

>

>

>

>

>

> _____

>

> Another question I have is how your families are?

>

>

>

> This affects all of us. My son, 11, is totally stressed out by his

sister

> not feeling well. I'm afraid that he is also developing symptoms. I

know

> that I can lose control sometimes. It scares me, but I get so upset

and

> irritated and scream even louder than my daughter does...sometimes.

What do

> you do to help yourself cope?

>

>

>

> It's nice to hear that you all lose it sometimes. I find that

yelling is the

> only way to get Elise to STOP sometimes. Everything I've been

taught these

> past months tells me to remain calm, but sometimes I feel I need to

> stronghold the OCD when it's so obviously controlling my daughter.

I find

> that telling her that I'm mad at the OCD and not her is comforting

to both

> of us. She is simply blinded by it sometimes.

>

>

>

> I still find her behavior so hard to understand. She can be so

scary to my

> other children at times; my 8 year old daughter feels the brunt of

it. They

> are only 18 months apart and very close but when Elise is in the

thick of

> one of her " fits " , it's most often Sage who gets caught in the

cross fire.

> We have had talks with Sage about OCD, she's come to therapy with

us and has

> learned how to help her sister when she can and how to get out of

the way

> (so she doesn't get hurt) when she needs to. Our whole family unit

has had

> to learn how to cope and help Elise with the OCD.

>

>

>

> IT'S SO DRAINING on my family.

>

>

>

> We recently joined a support group for parents with children with

anxiety.

> It helps a bit but we are the only parents dealing with OCD in the

group.

> The other parents just can't understand what we go through every

day. One of

> the ways I'm coping with OCD is to reach out to all of you. I need

> understanding from others who KNOW.

>

>

>

> A question for all of you. Do any of your children have Textile

issues that

> go along with the OCD? My daughter suffers greatly from Textile

Dysfunction

> and cannot tolerate certain types of clothing touching her skin.

Finding new

> shoes can be a nightmare!

>

>

>

> Also my daughters sleep is still suffering. We need to medicate her

at night

> so she can sleep, otherwise she's up all night and (very

distraught). I'm

> wondering when if at all will this get better for her?

>

>

>

> TX

>

>

>

>

>

>

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My son also has textile issues but he also has Aspergers (finally confirmed) and

will not eat certain foods if they are not the right texture - will only ever

wear one type of shoe (now we go into the smallest adult size and am not sure if

I can get the same shoe ;). Having said that he now wears jandals - first type

of different shoe in years LOL. Clothes are elastic waisted shorts and a certain

kind etc..... I am not sure how much is OCD, Aspergers - I have given up trying

to figure it out where what quirks belong with what. He also has ADHD and

Tourette's.

Cheers Jaxx (New Zealand)

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welcome - I've been on here a while and must admit it's nice to hear

so many today say they lose it too!! I hate it when I do and sometimes

it's often - I know it works better when I do the right thing but when

push comes to shove and there are 3 younger (who are VERY

understanding) but I think even if it were 7 yo.o dd and I - I'd

still flip - especially if she's not fighting - then it just feels

like me against her and not us against OCD - so frustrating -everyone

here is wonderful!!!! welcome again

Quoting Ballard <hlballard@...>:

>

>

>

>

> _____

>

> Another question I have is how your families are?

>

>

>

> This affects all of us. My son, 11, is totally stressed out by his sister

> not feeling well. I'm afraid that he is also developing symptoms. I know

> that I can lose control sometimes. It scares me, but I get so upset and

> irritated and scream even louder than my daughter does...sometimes. What do

> you do to help yourself cope?

>

>

>

> It's nice to hear that you all lose it sometimes. I find that yelling is the

> only way to get Elise to STOP sometimes. Everything I've been taught these

> past months tells me to remain calm, but sometimes I feel I need to

> stronghold the OCD when it's so obviously controlling my daughter. I find

> that telling her that I'm mad at the OCD and not her is comforting to both

> of us. She is simply blinded by it sometimes.

>

>

>

> I still find her behavior so hard to understand. She can be so scary to my

> other children at times; my 8 year old daughter feels the brunt of it. They

> are only 18 months apart and very close but when Elise is in the thick of

> one of her " fits " , it's most often Sage who gets caught in the cross fire.

> We have had talks with Sage about OCD, she's come to therapy with us and has

> learned how to help her sister when she can and how to get out of the way

> (so she doesn't get hurt) when she needs to. Our whole family unit has had

> to learn how to cope and help Elise with the OCD.

>

>

>

> IT'S SO DRAINING on my family.

>

>

>

> We recently joined a support group for parents with children with anxiety.

> It helps a bit but we are the only parents dealing with OCD in the group.

> The other parents just can't understand what we go through every day. One of

> the ways I'm coping with OCD is to reach out to all of you. I need

> understanding from others who KNOW.

>

>

>

> A question for all of you. Do any of your children have Textile issues that

> go along with the OCD? My daughter suffers greatly from Textile Dysfunction

> and cannot tolerate certain types of clothing touching her skin. Finding new

> shoes can be a nightmare!

>

>

>

> Also my daughters sleep is still suffering. We need to medicate her at night

> so she can sleep, otherwise she's up all night and (very distraught). I'm

> wondering when if at all will this get better for her?

>

>

>

> TX

>

>

>

>

>

>

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Hi ,

My daughter used to be on the benadryl for sleep also, but it was to the point

she needed 4 tsps to sleep so we had to try other avenues. I hate having my kids

on meds also, but the sleep deprivation alone is a major problem.

I'm glad that it's working for your daughter because at least the benadryl is

fairly safe.

I did have my dd take occupational therapy, but unfortunately it didn't help

her sensory issues. I have heard it does wonders for others though.

Have you had a neuropsychological evaluation done on your dd? We found out

sooo much from having that done. My daughter is very intelligent, but has a

difficult time with the reading due to her ocd. She will count syllables in her

head while reading , so than she doesn't comprehend what she's read.

I wish you luck!

Hugs

Judy

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Hello Judy,

Thank you for your reply. It's so good to be part of this group.

_____

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Sent: Wednesday, November 08, 2006 9:27 PM

Subject: RE: Re: I'm new here too!

Hi ,

My daughter used to be on the benadryl for sleep also, but it was to the

point she needed 4 tsps to sleep so we had to try other avenues. I hate

having my kids on meds also, but the sleep deprivation alone is a major

problem.

I'm glad that it's working for your daughter because at least the benadryl

is fairly safe.

I did have my dd take occupational therapy, but unfortunately it didn't help

her sensory issues. I have heard it does wonders for others though.

Have you had a neuropsychological evaluation done on your dd? We found out

sooo much from having that done. My daughter is very intelligent, but has a

difficult time with the reading due to her ocd. She will count syllables in

her head while reading , so than she doesn't comprehend what she's read.

I wish you luck!

Hugs

Judy

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My dd did OT for sensory and it worked very well on her. She still has some

issues, but not nearly as bad as they were before OT. I am going to work on

making a good sensory space for her in our house. Her preschool teacher showed

me a room they use full of sensory stuff and she loves it!

Sharon

RE: Re: I'm new here too!

Hi ,

My daughter used to be on the benadryl for sleep also, but it was to the point

she needed 4 tsps to sleep so we had to try other avenues. I hate having my kids

on meds also, but the sleep deprivation alone is a major problem.

I'm glad that it's working for your daughter because at least the benadryl is

fairly safe.

I did have my dd take occupational therapy, but unfortunately it didn't help

her sensory issues. I have heard it does wonders for others though.

Have you had a neuropsychological evaluation done on your dd? We found out

sooo much from having that done. My daughter is very intelligent, but has a

difficult time with the reading due to her ocd. She will count syllables in her

head while reading , so than she doesn't comprehend what she's read.

I wish you luck!

Hugs

Judy

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  • 1 year later...

I was in auto accident in Dec. 06, In May 07 I had Anterior Discectomy

and Fusion of C-4 through C-7. I also have congenital spinal stenosis

that is worsening and C-3 is bulging.

After my fusion I felt good, no pain. Then in Dec. 07 felt a pop in my

neck and the pain gets worse all of the time.

Pain has gone not only down my right arm, but now is going down my

left arm too! My right hand is stiffening again and some days pain in

some of my fingers.

My Neurosurgeon released me in May 08, told me if it worsens to

contact my GP or Ortho. Went to see new Ortho this last week, my old

Ortho took leave of absence. New Ortho has mentioned numerous

treatments. Not sure what he's going to try first, wants my Gastro to

do a swallow test again before putting me on steroids.

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