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I can deal with 6 weeks or a bit longer. Pamela

From: susan.kirkaldie@...Date: Mon, 7 Feb 2011 12:17:56 -0700Subject: Re: [ ] Re: need advice please

Pamela,

Sex after surgery is possible, in many cases better than before surgery, being minus pain. Fused spine, can make for some accomodations, but, with a partner that cares for you, and you him, sex is good.

As to timetable when you can get back to it, I believe it was around six weeks to three months. Your doc will go over it with you.

There is a book on Sex after back surgery, look it up on the internet.

Go to the site itself, go to MESSAGES, there will be a search box there, type in SEX, up will come up 223 past messages on the subject.

For me personally I'm fused very high and very low ( T1 to the sacrum), so yes, I'm kinda stiff torso wise, but even that, we have found a way, hubby and I to have that part of married life be fulfilling for both of us.

I suggest reading the past messages, lots of good conversations in the past on this.

Where theres a will theres a way.

Colorado Springs

On Mon, Feb 7, 2011 at 8:34 AM, Pamela Hanley <campbetty@...> wrote:

Cam, yes, the main reason I'm pushing myself to have surgery is my insurance ends in 11 months....and don't I still need insurance after the big event? For follow ups and bone stimulators? I wonder. As soon as I can I'm driving to see Dr Bendo in the NYC spine clinic where they take my insurance. I will also see if my insurance provides someone to help me for a month after, just drop in everyday to help me move?. One of my biggest fears is how rigid my body will be after total fusion. Is it freakish? Pardon my asking this but....do people still have sex after? Or is that considered a risk to the surgery healing? I can hear everyone chuckling but what does this do to that part of your life after surgery? Once you get past 1-2 months? Again, not trying to be crude but I am so uncertain about how flexible...I am imagining the only thing that moves are arms and legs...with a ram-rod straight and unmoving torso. Can anyone provide insight in this area? Thanks again. Pamela

From: cammaltby@...Date: Mon, 7 Feb 2011 13:12:10 +0000 Subject: [ ] Re: need advice please

Pamela,Thanks, I was confused because you sort of sounded like you had gotten to the point where you had already seen DrBendo and were deciding between him and your local guy....and also had a tentative date. In truth....sometimes members skip over telling us where they are and it can get a little confusing, so I was just trying to figure out if I had missed something.Back when I was in a quandary about revision I remember feeling like if I actually saw surgeons for opinions and they suggested I was a candidate for it, then I would have to go ahead right away....thus I put making those appointments for awhile. When I finally saw both DrRand and DrBoachie, arguably two surgeons with very good reputations on the east coast, both of them told be that although I was a candidate for surgery, it was not an emergency and I could take all the time I needed to set a date. In fact DrRand, who I saw first, suggested I was not "ready"...and in retrospect I was not mentally in the same place I was 10 months later when I had had a good second opinion and intervening epidural injections that really didnt work. By my second visit with him he didnt hesitate to suggest that I meet with the office scheduler for surgery. So....I guess I am just trying to save your worry that DrBendo is going to rush you into surgery. Very likely you will find that seeing him will just be another step along the way. You may not have to problem solve all the other things going on in your situation as it relates to being set up for surgery. And you'll have plenty of time while waiting for the snow to melt.Take Care, Cam