Re: Re: Dr. Glazer / Insurance / Young Children

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, The best part of "Lots a helping hands" is you really don't have to ask.When you tell people what's about to happen, just set up your calendar of things you need, then send everyone the link. You don't have to ask, they volunteer for what they are comfortable doing. Most folks really want to help. The program even sends reminders. People did our grocery shopping, took me to get my pedicures, arranged play dates, even helped clean the house. Sometimes people I barely knew brought us dinner.-DyannFrom: damgalnuna <melissacurran530@...>Subject:

[ ] Re: Dr. Glazer / Insurance / Young Children Date: Monday, February 7, 2011, 10:47 PMJoan: That would be great if my daughter grows up to become an extremely compassionate individual.: I can't even imagine doing what you did after surgery! Did doing so much so soon have a negative on your recovery? I'm luck in that my daughter goes to preschool 5 days/week and that my husband already handles a lot of the childcare and chore, because I could no longer keep up with doing both those tasks and keep my job. It's time for me to teach her to be more self-sufficient when appropriate, such as picking up her toys, changing her clothes, etc. I've also started asking her to help me out sometimes, by getting me something I need for me. The only times I end up saying "You know Mommy can't do that" are when she's asking me to do something ridiculous, which I've

told her a million times before that I can't do with her. But I do several other activities / projects with her.Dyann: Thank you for sharing your experiences with me. I'm lucky enough to have a husband who will (and already is) taking over many of the household and child care responsibilities. The idea of getting some assistance from family, friends, and coworkers sounds great, but I don't know if I'm capable of being bold enough to make specific requests. Discipline is already a major issue in our house. My daughter does a much better job listening to my husband than to me, and it's most likely because she knows that she can run away from me, thus making it difficult for me to "make her" do something. But regarding how to spend time with her after the surgery, I need to start thinking of stuff we can do together.Thank you all for your very helpful

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