Re:.making changes .....now loving yourself

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Don,

You are so rught!!!

" -You must love yourself first.

-Your relationship with yourself is the central template from which

all others are formed.

-Loving yourself is a prerequisite to creating successfuls and

authentic relationships.

-How you perceive and treat yourself is how others will perceive and

treat you. "

Many people wonder why they are leading unhappy lives with all sorts

of unsolvable problems coming at them and it all has to do with love

and attitude towards oneself.

Problem is that most people have not had the good fortune to be

introduced to unconditional love...thanks to their parents and their

parents before them, ad infinitum. Most children are treated in a way

to make them feel unworthy of love...or never shown any love at all,

so it hard to know how to love oneself or even what love really is.

It's too often confused with need. One doesn't REALLY " LOVE " another

person but NEEDS them to complete one's own perception of life and

one's self in it. It the self-created, self-fulfilling fantasy, or

horror, of one's existence.

It is sad to think that something so fundamental and needed for peace,

success and harmony in one's life isn't a required course of study

somewhere in our educational upbringing. It's what makes us happy

adults.

Kit

PS. Maybe it's harder for women, and women of different cultures,

since there is such a strong reinforcement for women to not think of

themselves first.

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> Putting oneself first is not selfish. If one is not healthy and does

not

> take care of ones health first then one is being extremely negligent of

> oneself and therefore one is being selfish by not being healthy enough

> to properly help others. It is very hard to be positive when there are

> so many problems going on with the body. Mind and body are inextricably

> tied to one another. What affects one will affect the other. It is the

> rare person who can rise above the body and operate in positive mode

the

> majority of the time.

>

> So Toni, you are being selfish by not taking care of yourself. You are

> selfishly denying others the experience of knowing you while you are in

> health. You are, as we all are, an example for others to follow.

Believe

> it or not there are people out there who look to you for support and to

> help them. We do this by making an example of ourselves and the best

way

> of doing that is through achieving excellent health. After all, you

> cannot give to someone what you don't have for yourself. You have to

> give to yourself first before you can ever truly give to another. This

> goes with love too. If you don't love yourself first you will never

> truly love another. If you don't take care of yourself you can never

> truly take care of another.

>

> This is my take on it.

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> Peace be with you, Toni.

>

> Don " Quai " Eitner

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> " Spirit sleeps in the mineral, breathes in the vegetable, dreams in

the animal and wakes in man. "

>

> Nearly all men die of their remedies, and not of their illnesses.

~Baptiste Molière, Le Malade Imaginaire

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> The obstacle is the path. ~Zen Proverb