Guest guest Posted November 10, 2008 Report Share Posted November 10, 2008 Elly, you should print that off and give it to him... that was so sweet. It's so great to hear about supportive spouses and family... we usually just hear about the ones that aren't, or at least we hear about their more unthoughtful moments. Stay in love, Elly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 10, 2008 Report Share Posted November 10, 2008 Elly, you should print that off and give it to him... that was so sweet. It's so great to hear about supportive spouses and family... we usually just hear about the ones that aren't, or at least we hear about their more unthoughtful moments. Stay in love, Elly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 10, 2008 Report Share Posted November 10, 2008 Elly, you should print that off and give it to him... that was so sweet. It's so great to hear about supportive spouses and family... we usually just hear about the ones that aren't, or at least we hear about their more unthoughtful moments. Stay in love, Elly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2008 Report Share Posted November 11, 2008 Hi Elly You could have been talking about my husband, he is the same as yours, always spoiling me and I also feel guilty that I am certainly not the same as the woman he married I know we suffer with this rotten illness, but I know he must wish for a bit more of the person I was. Anyway we are to very lucky ladies that appreciate our spouses. Take care Joan U.K. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2008 Report Share Posted November 11, 2008 Hi Elly You could have been talking about my husband, he is the same as yours, always spoiling me and I also feel guilty that I am certainly not the same as the woman he married I know we suffer with this rotten illness, but I know he must wish for a bit more of the person I was. Anyway we are to very lucky ladies that appreciate our spouses. Take care Joan U.K. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2008 Report Share Posted November 11, 2008 Hi Elly You could have been talking about my husband, he is the same as yours, always spoiling me and I also feel guilty that I am certainly not the same as the woman he married I know we suffer with this rotten illness, but I know he must wish for a bit more of the person I was. Anyway we are to very lucky ladies that appreciate our spouses. Take care Joan U.K. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2008 Report Share Posted November 11, 2008 Elly and Joan,  Make that 3 hubbys that are wonderful. I don't know what I'd have done if my husband wasn't the wonderful man he is. Waiting hand and foot, checking to make sure i was still breathing in the night! He truly went above and beyond while I was sick and I love him even more for it. But isn't that what the whole " for better/worse, sickness/health " thing is all about? He's a keeper! Sue R  ________________________________ To: Stillsdisease Sent: Tuesday, November 11, 2008 3:43:31 PM Subject: RE: STRESS Hi Elly You could have been talking about my husband, he is the same as yours, always spoiling me and I also feel guilty that I am certainly not the same as the woman he married I know we suffer with this rotten illness, but I know he must wish for a bit more of the person I was. Anyway we are to very lucky ladies that appreciate our spouses. Take care Joan U.K. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2008 Report Share Posted November 11, 2008 Elly and Joan,  Make that 3 hubbys that are wonderful. I don't know what I'd have done if my husband wasn't the wonderful man he is. Waiting hand and foot, checking to make sure i was still breathing in the night! He truly went above and beyond while I was sick and I love him even more for it. But isn't that what the whole " for better/worse, sickness/health " thing is all about? He's a keeper! Sue R  ________________________________ To: Stillsdisease Sent: Tuesday, November 11, 2008 3:43:31 PM Subject: RE: STRESS Hi Elly You could have been talking about my husband, he is the same as yours, always spoiling me and I also feel guilty that I am certainly not the same as the woman he married I know we suffer with this rotten illness, but I know he must wish for a bit more of the person I was. Anyway we are to very lucky ladies that appreciate our spouses. Take care Joan U.K. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2008 Report Share Posted November 11, 2008 Okay all of you your upsetting some of us here with all this mussy BS about you other half's. some of us do not have that or had to replace one to get that so knock it off as Kirk and others are hurts bad enough with out the slat okay brats LOL  but it is nice to hear there are some that believe in that from the start no matter what as I read to many here have not had that or are now in a place that thy are forced to taste it and that is sad so your story's of joy do help even thou they do hurt a bit ( as in why could I not have it? I could never or would never have done this to them) so having the examples here showing that the norm is not always what is is good thanks for sharing you brats  the rednecks Marty & G. the redneck's my space http://www.myspace.com/martyg58  To learn about Stills Disease  http://www.stillsdisease.org/stills_info For conservitive minded people  http://www.americac2c.org " If  we ever forget that we're one nation under God, then we will be a nation gone  under. " ~ Reagan   In the old days a man who saved money was a miser; nowadays he's a wonder. ~Author Unknown   A nation can survive its fools and even the ambitious. But it cannot survive treason from within.~Cicero                                                    " The  most terrifying words in the English language are: I'm from the government  and I'm here to help. "    ~  Reagan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2008 Report Share Posted November 11, 2008 Okay all of you your upsetting some of us here with all this mussy BS about you other half's. some of us do not have that or had to replace one to get that so knock it off as Kirk and others are hurts bad enough with out the slat okay brats LOL  but it is nice to hear there are some that believe in that from the start no matter what as I read to many here have not had that or are now in a place that thy are forced to taste it and that is sad so your story's of joy do help even thou they do hurt a bit ( as in why could I not have it? I could never or would never have done this to them) so having the examples here showing that the norm is not always what is is good thanks for sharing you brats  the rednecks Marty & G. the redneck's my space http://www.myspace.com/martyg58  To learn about Stills Disease  http://www.stillsdisease.org/stills_info For conservitive minded people  http://www.americac2c.org " If  we ever forget that we're one nation under God, then we will be a nation gone  under. " ~ Reagan   In the old days a man who saved money was a miser; nowadays he's a wonder. ~Author Unknown   A nation can survive its fools and even the ambitious. But it cannot survive treason from within.~Cicero                                                    " The  most terrifying words in the English language are: I'm from the government  and I'm here to help. "    ~  Reagan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2008 Report Share Posted November 11, 2008 well, you can add a forth... my guy has been awesome.. he gets me my meds, asks if I need anything all the time, does all the shopping.. everything. He does everything for me when I can't - he's my best friend and I don't know what I'd do without him. I'll tell you what - he certainly kept the 'for sickness and in health part of the marriage vow'. So at least we know that there are some guys out there that will climb to the top of the mountain for us - huh? > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2008 Report Share Posted November 11, 2008 well, you can add a forth... my guy has been awesome.. he gets me my meds, asks if I need anything all the time, does all the shopping.. everything. He does everything for me when I can't - he's my best friend and I don't know what I'd do without him. I'll tell you what - he certainly kept the 'for sickness and in health part of the marriage vow'. So at least we know that there are some guys out there that will climb to the top of the mountain for us - huh? > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2008 Report Share Posted November 11, 2008 Marty, Good point. Never intended to hurt anyone. Only tried to share that you can get there. In even the best of unions there are trials and I here you loud and clear. People are hurting in marriages that aren't working and it is just not right.. It's hard. It stinks Its, well.. you fill in the blank..... My only point in the whole thing was the only way we got through it all was through a positive attitude.... So - as you said.. I will shut up now, but I do think it is fair that I can say the positive if others can say the negative and that the positive helps us survive this stinkin thing more than anything... And if you think I am not in pain and in pain all the time you are so wrong.. I am in pain all day and the only way I sleep is to take so much medicine that it knocks me out. I also have to wrap my ankles, wrist, feet, knees and elbows with lidoderm patches - I look like a freak, a part mummy, part human - but that is how I get through the night.. So yeah _ I'm aware people are hurting _ I have to have a surgery, I have a foot that hasn't heeled in six months, I have fevers every night, blah blah blah.. But the point is - do I want to try to focus on that or do I want to focus on other stuff and try to keep my husband from leaving me.. that is all the conversation was about... It wasn't about trying to hurt anyone or making anyone feel bad or hurt themselves. IT is looking inside yourself and deciding how are you going to let this illness impact every day. Negatively or nuturally or try not to let it impact you as much as possible in regards to the most important person in your life, your spouse... that's all I was trying to say.. I wasn't pointing fingers at anyone, I was processing feelings and trying to get others to do the same, which, you'll see I got no results except yours, which is pretty normal for me... I don't think I have found a home here... This board seems to be a place that is much happier talking about negative things and unhappy things instead of trying to look at life through a different aspect. I love you guys.. but I can't do this anymore. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2008 Report Share Posted November 11, 2008 Marty, Good point. Never intended to hurt anyone. Only tried to share that you can get there. In even the best of unions there are trials and I here you loud and clear. People are hurting in marriages that aren't working and it is just not right.. It's hard. It stinks Its, well.. you fill in the blank..... My only point in the whole thing was the only way we got through it all was through a positive attitude.... So - as you said.. I will shut up now, but I do think it is fair that I can say the positive if others can say the negative and that the positive helps us survive this stinkin thing more than anything... And if you think I am not in pain and in pain all the time you are so wrong.. I am in pain all day and the only way I sleep is to take so much medicine that it knocks me out. I also have to wrap my ankles, wrist, feet, knees and elbows with lidoderm patches - I look like a freak, a part mummy, part human - but that is how I get through the night.. So yeah _ I'm aware people are hurting _ I have to have a surgery, I have a foot that hasn't heeled in six months, I have fevers every night, blah blah blah.. But the point is - do I want to try to focus on that or do I want to focus on other stuff and try to keep my husband from leaving me.. that is all the conversation was about... It wasn't about trying to hurt anyone or making anyone feel bad or hurt themselves. IT is looking inside yourself and deciding how are you going to let this illness impact every day. Negatively or nuturally or try not to let it impact you as much as possible in regards to the most important person in your life, your spouse... that's all I was trying to say.. I wasn't pointing fingers at anyone, I was processing feelings and trying to get others to do the same, which, you'll see I got no results except yours, which is pretty normal for me... I don't think I have found a home here... This board seems to be a place that is much happier talking about negative things and unhappy things instead of trying to look at life through a different aspect. I love you guys.. but I can't do this anymore. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2008 Report Share Posted November 11, 2008 Alli  I was joking around thats all Hell it is good to here that not all spouces are A.H. so ifing ya knock it off I am going to have to send ya some dead fish that is more then 3 days old LOL  the rednecks Marty & G. the redneck's my space http://www.myspace.com/martyg58  To learn about Stills Disease  http://www.stillsdisease.org/stills_info For conservitive minded people  http://www.americac2c.org " If  we ever forget that we're one nation under God, then we will be a nation gone  under. " ~ Reagan   In the old days a man who saved money was a miser; nowadays he's a wonder. ~Author Unknown   A nation can survive its fools and even the ambitious. But it cannot survive treason from within.~Cicero                                                    " The  most terrifying words in the English language are: I'm from the government  and I'm here to help. "    ~  Reagan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2008 Report Share Posted November 11, 2008 Alli  I was joking around thats all Hell it is good to here that not all spouces are A.H. so ifing ya knock it off I am going to have to send ya some dead fish that is more then 3 days old LOL  the rednecks Marty & G. the redneck's my space http://www.myspace.com/martyg58  To learn about Stills Disease  http://www.stillsdisease.org/stills_info For conservitive minded people  http://www.americac2c.org " If  we ever forget that we're one nation under God, then we will be a nation gone  under. " ~ Reagan   In the old days a man who saved money was a miser; nowadays he's a wonder. ~Author Unknown   A nation can survive its fools and even the ambitious. But it cannot survive treason from within.~Cicero                                                    " The  most terrifying words in the English language are: I'm from the government  and I'm here to help. "    ~  Reagan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2008 Report Share Posted November 11, 2008 please send me some dead fish - I deserve it ..... overly sensitive alli > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2008 Report Share Posted November 11, 2008 please send me some dead fish - I deserve it ..... overly sensitive alli > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 12, 2008 Report Share Posted November 12, 2008 Joan, So great to hear you have a great hubby too!! You ladies are lucky. And don't think about him wanting the old you. Sure does sound like thye are quite happy with the current you!! And they should be, you are a pretty great lady! Houston, TX Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 12, 2008 Report Share Posted November 12, 2008 Joan, So great to hear you have a great hubby too!! You ladies are lucky. And don't think about him wanting the old you. Sure does sound like thye are quite happy with the current you!! And they should be, you are a pretty great lady! Houston, TX Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 12, 2008 Report Share Posted November 12, 2008 Hello Sue Glad you are as lucky as Ellen and I. I do try and put myself in his position and it must be very difficult to be the one you lean on all the time as I know there must be times when (my husband) must be really fed up and wishes we could have the life pre Stills. I am sure if it was the other way round, I wouldn't be as good at caring as he is, but I do make a fuss of him when I do have a better day, unfortunately that is all I can do. Hope you have had a good day. Joan U.K. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 12, 2008 Report Share Posted November 12, 2008 Hello Sue Glad you are as lucky as Ellen and I. I do try and put myself in his position and it must be very difficult to be the one you lean on all the time as I know there must be times when (my husband) must be really fed up and wishes we could have the life pre Stills. I am sure if it was the other way round, I wouldn't be as good at caring as he is, but I do make a fuss of him when I do have a better day, unfortunately that is all I can do. Hope you have had a good day. Joan U.K. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 12, 2008 Report Share Posted November 12, 2008 Hello Sue Glad you are as lucky as Ellen and I. I do try and put myself in his position and it must be very difficult to be the one you lean on all the time as I know there must be times when (my husband) must be really fed up and wishes we could have the life pre Stills. I am sure if it was the other way round, I wouldn't be as good at caring as he is, but I do make a fuss of him when I do have a better day, unfortunately that is all I can do. Hope you have had a good day. Joan U.K. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 12, 2008 Report Share Posted November 12, 2008 hi Joan Darren my husband, say still's is the only thing I'm allowed to complain to him about! LOL. everything else is changable/self inflicted, but I did not ask to get still's! Besides, he's hoping i'll get better so I can look after him in his old age. Have a great day. Sue ________________________________ To: Stillsdisease Sent: Wednesday, November 12, 2008 11:21:55 AM Subject: RE: STRESS Hello Sue Glad you are as lucky as Ellen and I. I do try and put myself in his position and it must be very difficult to be the one you lean on all the time as I know there must be times when (my husband) must be really fed up and wishes we could have the life pre Stills. I am sure if it was the other way round, I wouldn't be as good at caring as he is, but I do make a fuss of him when I do have a better day, unfortunately that is all I can do. Hope you have had a good day. Joan U.K. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 12, 2008 Report Share Posted November 12, 2008 hi Joan Darren my husband, say still's is the only thing I'm allowed to complain to him about! LOL. everything else is changable/self inflicted, but I did not ask to get still's! Besides, he's hoping i'll get better so I can look after him in his old age. Have a great day. Sue ________________________________ To: Stillsdisease Sent: Wednesday, November 12, 2008 11:21:55 AM Subject: RE: STRESS Hello Sue Glad you are as lucky as Ellen and I. I do try and put myself in his position and it must be very difficult to be the one you lean on all the time as I know there must be times when (my husband) must be really fed up and wishes we could have the life pre Stills. I am sure if it was the other way round, I wouldn't be as good at caring as he is, but I do make a fuss of him when I do have a better day, unfortunately that is all I can do. Hope you have had a good day. Joan U.K. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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