Guest guest Posted October 19, 2004 Report Share Posted October 19, 2004 my point is that i did! LOL then i decided it was really not going to help me feel any better and would in fact help make EVERYONE feel worse. so i had to stop. > > In a message dated 10/19/2004 3:12:47 PM Eastern Standard Time, > 420@... writes: > >> because yelling and screaming are the result of behaviour >> when a person reaches the end point of their tolerance levels as a >> result of their illness. but it isn't caused by their illness. an >> alternative would be to leave the room. she's still capable of that. >> > > and she might be. not everyone...dependent upon the stage of their > illness...would be. i think maybe you never got to this stage? > Cindi > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 19, 2004 Report Share Posted October 19, 2004 In a message dated 10/19/2004 8:16:38 PM Eastern Standard Time, tayamni@... writes: > The one sure thing about endocrine diseases is that we each experience its > manifestations in a very individual way. There are thousands of symptoms to > be experienced in thousands of ways and variations wow - you said this well. I totally agree with you. What was my worst point is different than yours and different from Baron's, etc. etc. Some of us may share similar experiences...but everyone has their own set of individual symptoms. Cindi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 19, 2004 Report Share Posted October 19, 2004 sorry but i really, heavily disagree here. you may not have been aware of the situation that was created, but that doesn't mean no one else can be aware. it could be different degrees of sensitivity, or how much is going on and how much isn't, etc., but i don't knock off my thyroid as the reason why i was unaware in the beginning, and that somehow the condition changed and suddenly i was aware. people engage in all sorts of behaviour without being aware of it for some time. we're creatures of habit and that's how we're programmed to work. the revelation of that didn't have anything to do with my thyroid condition. couples WITHOUT thyroid or any disease in them go through the same things. > > In a message dated 10/19/2004 4:09:51 PM Eastern Standard Time, > 420@... writes: > >> then i decided it was really not going to help me feel any better and >> would in fact help make EVERYONE feel worse > > but i don't think you did. cause at the stage i'm talking about...i > had no > conception that i was even causing that much distress to my husband. > i really > thought he was the problem...or whatever the particular stressor was. > You get > to a point where you cannot handle any everyday normal stressors. You > can > NOT cope because your body does not have what it was designed to have > to cope. > so it becomes an impossible task...and it's not your fault. It really > is the > disease. > Cindi > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 19, 2004 Report Share Posted October 19, 2004 nc2406@... wrote: >> >> > >and she might be. not everyone...dependent upon the stage of their >illness...would be. i think maybe you never got to this stage? > > > i have certainly been in sheer rages -smashing things, kicking walls etc not my normsal way of acting by any means -very like being a toddler and there is absolutely no way of being able to step outside or leave the room. If i was a naturally uncontrolled/violent person i might well have been violent to other people beyond verbal violence. -- Alison http://www.alisonashwell.com new work uploaded http://www.artwanted/alisonashwell Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 19, 2004 Report Share Posted October 19, 2004 baron chat wrote: >that is an effect of long, untreated hypothyroidism. syphilis has that >same effect, if long untreated. is syphilis a brain disease? i don't >think so. > > > Actually tertiary syphilis is considered a brain disease. -- Alison http://www.alisonashwell.com new work uploaded http://www.artwanted/alisonashwell Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 19, 2004 Report Share Posted October 19, 2004 cindi, maybe you missed it, but i stated clearly in response to you earlier that i WAS out of control. that means my behaviour was getting bad, i was moody, impatient, raised my voice. and i took stock of the fact that it was making things worse, and i decided that while i'm sure it had a lot to do with my illness, i don't think my thyroid is forcing me into behaviour that's making me or my wife unhappy, so i caught it. your position then, was to tell me that maybe that's a sign that i never was at that stage of hypothyroidism, because had i been in it, i would not have had the capability to do something about my behaviour. and that is simply untrue, and i disagree with it. if one were to accept your argument, that under a certain point, a hypothyroid patient has no control over their behaviour, then one would have to accept that violence and even murder would have been beyond their control and therefore they should not be held responsible for their actions. > > In a message dated 10/19/2004 5:04:42 PM Eastern Standard Time, > 420@... writes: > >> then why do you keep insisting that you know MY EXPERIENCE, because >> that's what you've been trying to do? >> > > baron...i have no idea what your experience was...but you obviously > never > were out of control according to you. but if you think you were out of > control...but yet remained in control...I'm not going to argue with > you. > Cindi > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 19, 2004 Report Share Posted October 19, 2004 i'm not angry at all--i'm just finding it difficult to get across to you that i was able to make choices where my behaviour was concerned, when you seem to insist that this was only possible because i didn't suffer hypothyroid as badly as you or some. as for hypothyroid being a disease of the brain, you might believe it, but that doesn't make it true. a disease that affects your moods or your functions does not automatically become a brain disease. there are a good many hormonal, metabolic, bacterial and viral conditions that eventually affect brain function in very similar ways if untreated. those are not diseases of the brain either. that aside, this is an interesting discussion. > > In a message dated 10/19/2004 5:04:42 PM Eastern Standard Time, > 420@... writes: > >> i didn't disagree FOR you, but if you're so hung up on your very own >> personal experience, maybe you shouldn't be ascribing it to someone >> else's, either, mine or the original poster's. >> > > why are you angry? Because I say that some folks can not control their > behavior when they're hypo? And that i believe hypo can be a disease > of the brain? > And I'm not " hung up " on my personal experience....I just don't think > it's > that uncommon. > Cindi > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 19, 2004 Report Share Posted October 19, 2004 baron chat wrote: >if one were to accept your argument, that under a certain point, a >hypothyroid patient has no control over their behaviour, then one would >have to accept that violence and even murder would have been beyond >their control and therefore they should not be held responsible for >their actions. > i think its entirely possible that someone could murder becuase of emotional distrurbances caused by hypothryoid. Also i think they should be found not guilty on the nbasis of temporary insanity In fact i have wondered about a few cases that have beeen on the news Alison http://www.alisonashwell.com new work uploaded http://www.artwanted/alisonashwell Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 19, 2004 Report Share Posted October 19, 2004 and hypothyroidism isn't. > > baron chat wrote: > >> that is an effect of long, untreated hypothyroidism. syphilis has >> that >> same effect, if long untreated. is syphilis a brain disease? i don't >> think so. >> >> >> > Actually tertiary syphilis is considered a brain disease. > > -- > Alison > http://www.alisonashwell.com > new work uploaded > http://www.artwanted/alisonashwell > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 19, 2004 Report Share Posted October 19, 2004 to prove that, you would have to prove that hypothyroidism causes temporary insanity, and that the person who acted, had no knowledge of what they were doing, no control absolutely over what they were doing, and had no idea of its consequences at the time. let's put it this way--there are many diseases, including specific mental illnesses, that cause great emotional and mood disturbances, and you would even have trouble proving all of the above for many of them. > > baron chat wrote: > >> if one were to accept your argument, that under a certain point, a >> hypothyroid patient has no control over their behaviour, then one >> would >> have to accept that violence and even murder would have been beyond >> their control and therefore they should not be held responsible for >> their actions. >> > > i think its entirely possible that someone could murder becuase of > emotional distrurbances caused by hypothryoid. Also i think they > should be found not guilty on the nbasis of temporary insanity > > In fact i have wondered about a few cases that have beeen on the news > > > Alison > http://www.alisonashwell.com > new work uploaded > http://www.artwanted/alisonashwell > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 19, 2004 Report Share Posted October 19, 2004 Well, to my knowledge, PMS has never been a defense in a court of law, but I can tell you I would be willing to bet my ARMOUR that it has caused murders! In this same vein, yes, I do believe some hypothyroid people are capable of murder and violence that is not normally in their nature, but made to happen by the hypothyroid disease itself, and NO at that point, they do NOT have control over it & they feel backed into a corner and no options available to them. When they start to realize they HAVE options, they are coming back into the focus necessary to heal from this disease, and I think many of us fade in & out of that focus on a daily or even hourly basis. *Artistic Grooming * Hurricane, WV Fat cat? Diabetes? Listowner for overweight or hypothyroid cats http://groups.yahoo.com/group/hypokitties/ --- Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). Version: 6.0.778 / Virus Database: 525 - Release Date: 10/15/2004 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 19, 2004 Report Share Posted October 19, 2004 thank you. and along the same lines that pms has caused murders yet never been a defense in court, neither would hypothyroidism. exacerbation or influence is not the same as direct cause, which would probably be the imperative in deciding whether or not hypothyroidism causes temporary insanity. b > > Well, to my knowledge, PMS has never been a defense in a court of law, > but I > can tell you I would be willing to bet my ARMOUR that it has caused > murders! > In this same vein, yes, I do believe some hypothyroid people are > capable of > murder and violence that is not normally in their nature, but made to > happen > by the hypothyroid disease itself, and NO at that point, they do NOT > have > control over it & they feel backed into a corner and no options > available to > them. When they start to realize they HAVE options, they are coming > back > into the focus necessary to heal from this disease, and I think many > of us > fade in & out of that focus on a daily or even hourly basis. > *Artistic Grooming * Hurricane, WV > Fat cat? Diabetes? Listowner for overweight or hypothyroid cats > http://groups.yahoo.com/group/hypokitties/ > > > > --- > Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. > Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). > Version: 6.0.778 / Virus Database: 525 - Release Date: 10/15/2004 > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 19, 2004 Report Share Posted October 19, 2004 >>thank you. and along the same lines that pms has caused murders yet never been a defense in court, neither would hypothyroidism<< Don't thank me yet! LOL Just cause it has never been a defense doesn't mean I don't think it SHOULD be. I have no faith in the justice of the legal system at all anymore, but that's a whole nother argument and not for this board. *Artistic Grooming * Hurricane, WV Fat cat? Diabetes? Listowner for overweight or hypothyroid cats http://groups.yahoo.com/group/hypokitties/ --- Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). Version: 6.0.778 / Virus Database: 525 - Release Date: 10/15/2004 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 19, 2004 Report Share Posted October 19, 2004 i was just thanking you for responding. lol > >>> thank you. and along the same lines that pms has caused murders yet > never been a defense in court, neither would hypothyroidism<< > > Don't thank me yet! LOL Just cause it has never been a defense doesn't > mean > I don't think it SHOULD be. I have no faith in the justice of the legal > system at all anymore, but that's a whole nother argument and not for > this > board. > *Artistic Grooming * Hurricane, WV > Fat cat? Diabetes? Listowner for overweight or hypothyroid cats > http://groups.yahoo.com/group/hypokitties/ > > > > --- > Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. > Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). > Version: 6.0.778 / Virus Database: 525 - Release Date: 10/15/2004 > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 19, 2004 Report Share Posted October 19, 2004 if you would prefer to believe that a person who has hypothyroidism has no control whatsoever, you're welcome to that belief and i won't try to stop you. point out to me where i said anyone can be in control if they're out of control. you put those words in my mouth, not me. i said a person who is sick still can make choices. it takes a conscious effort. you seem to think once a person is hypothyroid, they're excused from anything, even murder. i'm not the one arguing lunacy here. > > In a message dated 10/19/2004 5:27:46 PM Eastern Standard Time, > 420@... writes: > >> and that it wasn't impossible to do something about >> communication now, which you then disagreed with > > i'm not sure any more what your argument is. Of course one can do > something > about communication...if they're not out of control because of > hypo...only you > say if they're out of control...they can be in control. so we have a > fundamental difference of perception or something here. so why don't > you let it go? > I'm not going to agree with you because I know my own experience...and > it > doesn't fit what you're saying. My husband would tell you the same. > The person > that I became was not in control. Period. If you want to say I coulda > controlled behavior, feel free too. but you're wrong about me. > cindi > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 19, 2004 Report Share Posted October 19, 2004 i believe there were instances of both sides doing that, roxanna, so i'll assume your post wasn't just to me. On Oct 19, 2004, at 5:09 PM, Roxanna V Knight-Plouff, DVM wrote: > > One thing that I cannot tolerate is when someone uses their own level > of illness as " the example " of what others are experiencing. The one > sure thing about endocrine diseases is that we each experience its > manifestations in a very individual way. There are thousands of > symptoms to be experienced in thousands of ways and variations. > Because you had total control and awareness at the very worst of your > disease means only just that, for you.It does not mean that you > represent any other individual's experience. You are not the first > person on here to claim to know what others are experiencing and > should be doing or not doing by using the judgment from your own > experiences. We should share our experiences, but not claim to know > how to judge other's actions or choices. You are bound to be wrong. > > Roxanna > > North Star German Shepherd Dog Rescue Inc > northstargsdr@... > www.northstargsdr.org > Re: Re: is this part of thyroid > problem? > > > again, i disagree. i was diagnosed with hashimoto's, had a tsh of > 39, > couldn't hardly walk without a cane, when i went in. before that > diagnosis, i was capable of controlling my actions and capable of > making choices even when i was sick. i always was. and i do > believe i > qualify as being " at the worst point of hypo " . > > i'm still walking on a cane today. i still have every symptom i had > when i went in that clinic that first time, and the only difference > is > 30mg of armour, which is nothing. and i'm still capable of making > choices. > > i'm all aware of brain fog and mood disorders. i suffer that all the > time, still, and on top of that, live with bipolar illness which is a > GREAT mood disorder. thyroid-wise, i really am in no better shape > than > i was 2 years ago, and am in fact worse. this argument of yours, > that > if i was capable of making choices and therefore i was never at the > worst point of hypo, sounds like a justification for using the > disease > as an excuse, because if anyone had an excuse for being that way, it > would be someone in my shoes, and i don't do that at all anymore. > it's > also a little bit dismissive, in fact, to the pain and suffering i > have > weathered and still put up with, further treatment pending. > > b > > > >> >> In a message dated 10/19/2004 4:09:51 PM Eastern Standard Time, >> 420@... writes: >> >>> then i decided it was really not going to help me feel any better and >>> would in fact help make EVERYONE feel worse. >> >> see...if you had the capability to actually decide something...then >> you >> weren't there. at the worst point of hypo....folks are incapable of >> good thinking. >> their brain is not functioning properly. >> cindi >> >> >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 20, 2004 Report Share Posted October 20, 2004 In a message dated 10/20/2004 5:13:43 PM Eastern Standard Time, 420@... writes: > truth be told, i did feel angry and frustrated at myself. why didn't i > research this more? did i think everything was so easily solved? > after all, i had spent years researching depression and bipolar illness > for myself--why didn't i do it for my thyroid? > yea...i thought so. I still feel a bit mad at myself sometimes. but we probably should get over it. docs are supposed to be trained professionals who look after us, right? haha. cindi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 20, 2004 Report Share Posted October 20, 2004 i hope it works out, mary. is he someone who would take an interest in your suffering, enough to read a book, or at least 2 chapters out of a book? because i don't feel like i got the support and understanding i totally needed until my wife was able to see that this was a very real thing, and that when i say i am exhausted and in pain, i AM exhausted and in pain. before, it was, " i really wasn't hoping for this kind of a life, at my age. " then she picked up mary shomon's book on living with hypothyroidism after i was done with it, and read 3 chapters... now, it's, " you're going to be better. i promise. we'll get you better. " and, " ugh i feel awful today...it's my allergies. sorry, i know you feel a lot worse than that... " and, " let's get you better so we can take a trip. " i don't know how to explain it but it makes a complete and utter difference, and the bad days don't seem so harsh. i'm sorry if i may have come across as flippant in my original reply. having nearly lost my marriage and having had to work at pulling it together despite my illness and having that effort pay off, i hate to see anyone be even more victimized by this disease than they already have been. sometimes that gets translated into an attitude that feels insensitive but truly it's not how i actually am. best, baron > > You are a realist Baron, and I have a tendency to agreem at least on > this > one. As I said, I left one that I couldn't stand any more, after 18 > yrs of > marriage, with a VERY good cause. And I would have told anyone, at one > time, that I loved him more than anything. MY problem was that I > couldn't > even disagree with him at ALL. > > > > Re: is this part of thyroid problem? > > >> >> it could be you are more irritable when you are sick and in pain. but >> it would be foolish to think that all your communication problems and >> feelings towards your husband and children have to do with the >> thyroid. >> >> b > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 20, 2004 Report Share Posted October 20, 2004 that is my hope and if that works i'll consider myself very fortunate. i'm pretty certain we're going to be looking at a dose of 4 grains minimum. imagine my shock when i discovered that therapeutic doses of armour are usually 5 - 10x higher than what i was prescribed. b > > In a message dated 10/20/2004 2:57:40 PM Eastern Standard Time, > 420@... writes: > >> i'm seeing someone new and am waiting for some major bloodwork to come >> in before increasing my dose > > well...i guess you know all those answers were wrong. doctors are so > clueless about this disease. I think when you can get your thyroid > hormones on up > there..that'll you'll start to feel better. > Cindi > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 20, 2004 Report Share Posted October 20, 2004 truth be told, i did feel angry and frustrated at myself. why didn't i research this more? did i think everything was so easily solved? after all, i had spent years researching depression and bipolar illness for myself--why didn't i do it for my thyroid? i guess i just trusted doctors. and the buck really stopped at the rheumatologist's office, when we first found out i had hashimoto's, when he said, " this is good news--it's so easy to treat this. just take 50mcg of synthroid and all your pain will go away in a couple weeks. " it was just so easy, he said. and i believed it. baron > > In a message dated 10/20/2004 4:14:28 PM Eastern Standard Time, > 420@... writes: > >> imagine my shock when i discovered that therapeutic doses of >> armour are usually 5 - 10x higher than what i was prescribed. >> > > i can imagine. you may probably have felt even some anger at yourself > for > not looking into this deeper and just trusting doctors. I know I did. > I > remember ordering a book about thyroid disease back in 2001 right > before I went to a > doctor for the third time to request thyroid tests. Of course when > the TSH > test came back " NORMAL " , I had thrown it away. I recently reordered > it. That > TSH was within range, but high. And I could kick myself for not doing > more > research three years ago..it would have saved me a lot of problems that > occurred in the last three years. Of course I probably would have > only had a doc who > prescribed Synthroid.... > Cindi > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 21, 2004 Report Share Posted October 21, 2004 I divorced him 11 yrs ago and am glad I did, as he was so abusive, selfish, and never saw ANYthing other than his way. He is now deceased. I was married to him for 18 yrs, and during that time, he abused both my children, his children, and me. I didn't discover my own thyroid disease until a few months after I left him. He had numerous physical problems, but would never take heed of my advice, his doctors, or anyone else's. I think that we're talking about basic personality differences here, in addition to thyroid disease. It does have a lot to do with the way a person was raised and what kind of ego problems they have. We went to marriage counselling and everything else, before I became so depressed, knowing that I would have to leave him. HIS problems were the ONLY ones that mattered. He even told me, after he stopped seeing the marriage counselor that, you could say anything to fool a psychiatrist. We're talking about different people here, and a condition also known as a Sociopath, though, I'm sure now that he also had thyroid disease. Re: is this part of thyroid problem? > > i hope it works out, mary. is he someone who would take an interest in > your suffering, enough to read a book, or at least 2 chapters out of a > book? > > because i don't feel like i got the support and understanding i totally > needed until my wife was able to see that this was a very real thing, > and that when i say i am exhausted and in pain, i AM exhausted and in > pain. > > before, it was, " i really wasn't hoping for this kind of a life, at my > age. " then she picked up mary shomon's book on living with > hypothyroidism after i was done with it, and read 3 chapters... > > now, it's, " you're going to be better. i promise. we'll get you > better. " and, " ugh i feel awful today...it's my allergies. sorry, i > know you feel a lot worse than that... " and, " let's get you better so > we can take a trip. " > > i don't know how to explain it but it makes a complete and utter > difference, and the bad days don't seem so harsh. > > i'm sorry if i may have come across as flippant in my original reply. > having nearly lost my marriage and having had to work at pulling it > together despite my illness and having that effort pay off, i hate to > see anyone be even more victimized by this disease than they already > have been. sometimes that gets translated into an attitude that feels > insensitive but truly it's not how i actually am. > > best, > baron Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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